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Dental Stuff Yes, I'm thoroughly agitated with the dental situation !!!! Not only did the crown break, but the tooth next to it, which I spent another $900 plus the cost of dental labor, to have a cast post put in and it has come loose. They are in one of the worst places, so now I have to figure out to get the money and go to California and have the work done. I had bridge work for implants done here, both times I don't like the work, one was 900 and the other cost $3500, and on top of that the guy builled the dental insurance $2500, I just paid them another 400, So, I'm going to get the money together and go to California and fix it once and for all. The fact is, the dentist here, at least in my view, is just not as skilled at the dentist in Los Angeles. maybe they have good ones, but I don't have the money to test anymore of them out. His work does not even come close to the work I had done in California. Yet he wants to do the implants. Which he won't get a chance to do. I have to go where I know the work is good quality. I don't plan to do this but once. I'm tired of dental issue. So it needs to be fixed once and for all. Period !!!!! It's so much crazy stuff. It seems since I had the surgery in December, everything that could pop up as a crazy expense has done so. Even trying to renew my drivers license resulted to cost me $260. Because the bike I gave my had a penalty on it, because of the time it sat in the garbage without insurance, it cost me 220. then the license cost 29.xx . Then it just goes down hill in expense. Seem I need to make more money. My boss knows I'm underpaid, but has not done anything to change that fact, Its not a good thing to go and find another job at this particular time, because I have to go to 7 weeks of treatment, and that's not a good thing to do, nor will it be a positive things to do with trying to start any new jobs. Last week, my mothers car needed repairs, which I paid, weeks prior my car cost me $750 for repairs. I won't go down the list, but I know some of your read the nightmare which the other house cost me. Nope, I don't make anywhere close to the money I use to earn in the latter 1990's and the early 2000's. Then after going 4.5 yrs with no income, I used saving at a rate of expenditure that was two time maybe higher than the average cost of living here, until I figured out, that I could not live at the same expense ratio that I had in California. Although I knew the expense was excessive, but it took me that long to reign it in and trim things down. Now, I'm going to re-think cable TV, I told them, I'm not paying $160-170 a month any more, because I don't use all the channels. I have a unlimited phone plan for $50-55 a month, it works just fine for me, I bought the Nokia Windows Phone, I have my utilities on a fixed payment, where I basically pay the same, by being on the "level plan". can't do much about the cost of food and fuel. I no longer have any credit cards, but I know I need to get at least one. I don't have any bills outside of the basics, as discussed, so I plan to keep it that way, I got the home loan modified, so it has dropped a few dollars. Not the best agreement, but I don't have much issue with it. I don't plan to buy any new cars, though I would like to get a second car. Not sure I need it, but I've always had at least two cars. Maybe as time goes I may find an older Porsche, or maybe a older car I can have as a 'custom type of car, for recreational tinkering. My bigger concern is to get the business back on track, I've met some very smart people, but just have not found the motivation to jump back in and re-set everything up. I keep the LLC and the DBA, up, because it does not make sense to let them fade away. It's the cycles of life, at one time I had good net-worth in monetary figures, not great, but it was ok. I had 5 homes, cash and everything was paid for except the homes. that changed drastically, but I did help many family members during the times. It may not have turned into the spring board I'd hope they'd use it for, but that's more on them than it is on me. But that's the past and its done, the money is gone, 3 of the homes gone, the Porsche, the BMW and etc... I'd assume there are many in the site who do well financially, and there are those in the site who may not, but that's just the nature of life and people. I can certainly say for the young or for the old, "figure out the priorities", don't put much stock in what you have today, because ti can be gone tomorrow. and work on being a good person. don't waste your resources on faddish things, and don't try to impress anyone with material things, because you will waste money, and by all means AVOID envious people. I kept my cars in the garage out of site from peoples eyes, because people make too many assumptions. I did not and do not flaunt anything, because people can be envious and there are people who will plot against you simply because they make assumptions about what they think you might have. ( which may not even be the case).. In these web sites and especially in the so called dating arena, don't play into the game of trying to catch someone based on job title, cash, assets and material holdings, because you will loose... and what you loose may cost you more than the loss of such things. I could care less what a woman has, or does not have as to monetary and material things. and for the men, they should seek out women who does not care what you have monetary or materially. If you make the foolish mistake of choosing someone who has chosen you because of these things, you may find that you made a choice that you may not be able to live with. Just stuff....... Look about the world, there is no such thing as having it all. Being a good person is the greatest thing you can do for yourself, and learning how to share being a good person is the best task you can engage. |
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It is purely a trip, but even in the midst of it, there are many people with many things. I had a friend who within a short span of time, lost her mother, her father and her brother. Just last week a guy in a class I had, said he lost his niece, because she flipped her Escalade, it threw her 25 feet from the vehicle, and she was TEXTING, while driving. My financial issue are all fixable, my health issue will be fixed as best as possible an I will live with the nature of it. right now, I have to find a way to get rid of stomach bloating, its insidious, I don't eat very much, and some days I eat very very very little, so I'm taking fiber, probitics, and since its spring I am going walking. I will get a tread mill hopefully this weekend or the next. Not to knock anyone, but I simply cannot figure out how people who are truly obese can deal with it. I don't like gaining weight. nor do I like my stomach bloating or gaining weight in the stomach area. It to me is very frustrating. !!!!  Most of these people on here tripping about 'romance", it only takes one situation of various surgeries that females get which some result to change the dynamic of that obsessive madness about physical and lure tactical things, and it takes one situation of prostrate surgery, or some other reproductive areas issue, be it male or female, to bring some perspective about being more a 'good person" than a lust puppy, or bargain something, type of silly stuff. I just heard that a girl I once knew when I was in Junior High school just had been diagnosed with breast cancer. There are multitude of men, who have a variety of prostrate issue and there is nothing one can do to prevent it, nor to make it go away. short of surgery, and in some cases if its cancer, it has to be either removed or radiation, depending on the stage of cancer. The same issue of things related to women. There are people who have various accident that may disfigure the body, then what will they learn to focus upon. "it will be upon being a good person". I know women whom in their 50's, she had cervical cancer, and resulted with scar tissue that affected other things and then did damage to her her colon. I know multitude of people who have had surgeries of many types that has changed many things of their lives. Women in their 30's with various issue and challenges, who quickly learn to 'focus on being a good person" more than money or trying to bargain a date or some other craziness. When I see people on here caught up on nothing but some 'romantic illusions", I think they must not know much about life in the big picture. they eventually don't know much about relationships either, because most relationships, all the 'fantasy of courting" always will lead to the reality of two people trying to deal with daily living, which includes working, task and many many things. I've never known anyone who keeps up the things they did during the 'courting games". because reality sets in, and they get back to the basics of reality of the chores of living. Yet, these people come on here like they are in some obsessed fantasy game. The once who have been divorced once, should know the reality of what and how life and relationships evolve. They could not handle it the first time, so why not learn, and stop trying to pretend they are going to find some 'frozen in time courting game life". If many who are and have been divorced think of what they learned, they go into the next relationships with 'reality perspectives" and they'd appreciate the romantic time, but don't try to turn everything into it, because each day has its own chores. I think its so 'immature of them when they come with that romantic fantasy dribble, and the 'Wanna be Cinderella, illusions. Just be a woman, who has the guts to share living with a man, and be a man who has the guts to be willing to share living with a woman. and stop expecting so much and start respecting more. Stop expecting someone to kiss your butt because of your gender and learn how to share as a human being, learn how to be a contributor in a relationships and stop looking for someone to pay your bills and cover your living expense. To me, "Fantasy Chasing Patronize Me Types" these are not the kind of women I'd have the least of interest in making a relationships with. I like women who know that life is something both of them put work, efforts, chores and do what they can to contribute to the economic / monetary matters of what it takes to make a home and build an enduring relationship. And stop running around tripping out because someone did not flatter you every 15 minutes. Yep..Living take learning, then it take the responsibility to embrace and engage what is learned among the many other thing, of being a reality based person.
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Most won't comment on any blog when I write about the reality of things, because they can't fathom letting loose of the fantasy and focusing on the reality of life in the full spectrum of living.
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