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The "Pretty to Look At Factor" in Society One blog had a quoted text which said: ‘Pretty girls don’t need a lot of education to marry into a rich and powerful family, but girls with an average or ugly appearance will find it difficult,' wrote China's Xinhua News Agency three years ago. This is not something Unique to China, its global. all over the world this is a reality. (some women rely on it, and some don't) We see it on the Media, and it is certain that everyone who studies Journalism are not "media standard imagery".... but the media use these Pretty to Look at Faces and bodies, as a hook and catch to attract viewers and they will pay them well based on their looks. We see in a variety of fields, in various countries, that some Pretty to Look at is often afforded opportunity and advancements, even without any qualification or experience of any sort for the particular fields. We see it in the Courts, with some cases that may have turned out different if the girls were not slim, pretty to look at, and with some "media standard image associated with sensual".. Casey Anthony, Amanda Knox, and Jody Aris... There are countless "pretty to look at" girls with no financial resources who are sought after by wealthy men, as well as there are many girls who are pretty to look at that seek out only wealthy men. It's not a phenomenon that is only in Asian Nations. It is every place, small towns, big cities, back in the country woods areas and were ever there is community. Some of the women know their looks is a commodity from early ages, some play it for what they can get, and some push it to the limits. It's probably been that way since the beginning of human beings. I'd think even if Aliens came from another Planet, depending on what they consider Pretty, they'd do the same thing. Not all Pretty to Look at women rely solely on their looks, there are many who develop skills and expertise in a variety of fields, they just happen to be pretty to look at, but its not something they expect to carve out a pathway for what they want. As I've seen some Pretty to Look at women, who are very hard working individuals, as well as some who are very talented in the skills of craft or profession. There are some Pretty to Look at women, who do all they can, to play it down as much as they can, because they want to make it by other means, rather than to be given concessions based on how she looks or what her body shape is. |
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"Exactly"
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I'm not bad looking, but I work to have a good character, and I aspire to maintain good integrity and always pursue learning something new to help me be a better contributor in life.
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look at this girl.... she is very pretty !!!!!! but she is not sitting around waiting on anything. A teenage volleyball player from Kazakhstan is coming under fire, but it's not because of her skills. It's because of her looks. Critics say Sabina Altynbekova, 17, is so beautiful that it's a distraction to the sport. Even the athlete's own coach says his team is increasingly about one player, at least as far as the fans are concerned. "It is impossible to work like this," Nurlan Sadikov, coach of the nation's under-19 team, told Tengrin News in a quote translated by the Daily Mail. "The crowd behaves like there is only one player at the championship."
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I think its funny, that the world is only now waking up to the various levels of beauty around the world. It is becoming more and more a model image to associate beauty with women from Asian... Where for decades so much beauty was associated to the image of white women. many commercials now show a large variety of mixed Asian women, and women with the features similar to the Sabina Altynbekova. It's amazing when young women are beautiful from childhood on up... A girl once told me, that when girls are very young they develop the frame for how they will be built as they grow older ( provided they stay in shape). I find that interesting. One guy photographed his daughter every day of her life, and she showed to be pretty from childhood up to her adult life.... 
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I'm sure what you say is as real as in other places. MANY WOMEN look very different without make-up ... It's interesting "just how different" many do look when they don't have make-up on. I personally don't care for plastic surgery, I'm sure if its not a medical necessity, then there has to be some high level vanity beneath the aim to indulge in that type of surgery. Maybe those ones are better for the guys who like that type of situation. The Wealth in China is Mimicking the same things the Wealth in Other Nations are doing. too much is over the top, and too much is about image and not much concern for the substance of character, but more about "the outer shell and personality embellishments".
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Even I, as woman, do enjoy watching pretty woman. Especially when they are also good in matching the dress/things she wears. I found out years ago, that smart women deliver smart son. So finding a pretty smart woman is much better than pretty dumb woman, if you are thinking to have a baby with her.  I think many women like looking at other women. I've never seen situation where women did not give attention to women they think are pretty to look at.
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Life has many paradoxes... I've written about it before. It seems many overweight women, seem to have the most genuine of social nature in general (not all). A lot of pretty women are difficult people, their friendship does not have any staying power and is definitely NOT frequently long term. Too many times, their friendship is connected to their needs, and when they are not getting any more favors, they will often not fade away, they flat out disappear, or they generate conflict to give a reason to disappear. Maybe nature is saying, if you go for the face, you might find most things that you don't want. If you go for the character, you will choose carefully and many find many things you can appreciate and respect.
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Remember: " I said: "It seems" It's seems= means that is it not conclusive nor is it a fact I have known many pretty women who were very nice people, but, I've known many big women who seem instantly friendly
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I am not beautiful but not ugly either. Got chances to be models when I was younger and quite familiar with the words of beautiful said to me. (beautiful is in the eyes of the beholders?). But the above words you mentioned? I never did that. I have some good friends who I have since I was in primary, high school and some from work. Some live good life, but others? they are middle class people, and it's not their wealth or power that I look from friends. No need to worry, You've already identified in your blog, that you have many "long term" friends", as well as your other discussions about the appreciation of the friends you have.
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Just a friendly reminder, not to judge the book by its cover
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you are right, being wealthy or being pretty certainly is not an identifier of people being good. I've seen lots of people submit to people because they have money, and I've seen guys and girls chase after someone because of their looks. I remember on one job, girls would tell other girls, " He's a good catch, because he saves his money, or has this or that, and he is a good provider. Often, the girls who made themselves available because of this, were the one that I've give the least of interest to. I see some much, which is just like the Media, where women easily chase after a guy because they say " he's hot", or "tell their girlfriends' she should go for this or that guy, solely based on his looks or his money. and then when they don't get what they want, they come back complaining and want to claim the guy used them.. Mostly, because they did not get to use him first. It's really crazy, but that habitual activity is more common place than many people will admit. People too often, don't take time to get to know others, they go on looks, monetary measure, what type of car and house, and what type of job title of degree status the person claims. People who chase money and looks, should not complain much if they get burned, and disillusioned, because they already knew they were basing everything on the looks or the monetary status. Heck, some people even base their aims on what 'neighborhood someone lives in'. No matter what they base it on of such material or external factor, it will always come down to "communication, understanding, character and integrity". but some will forgo "communication, understanding, character and integrity", if the money is made available, or the other persons status can be utilized as a springboard for themselves. Time always tells what is true in relationships....
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