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How important is a Mate? people have many ideas about what makes for a good mate selection, to some it is a financial match, to some it is a educational status match, to some it is a material conveniences, to some it is a way out of a bad situations, still to some it is many many many things. Yet to some, it is simply a matter of heart, where the feelings of love and the want of unity within a loved one is most important. It does not concern itself with the monetary status of the other, the degree status, or the title status. They simply want to share their love with a particular person. How honest are people with what their motives for a mate is truly about?  Each person as an individual know what is their driving force within attraction, but how often is this truth shared with the pursuit of a potential mate? Some will never find a mate, not because there is not a potential mate available. but, the mindset of people is of many things. Some think themselves too special for anyone, some think themselves too pretty for any one, and some think many things; including those who can pay their own bills, who feel if they can pay their own expense why should they consider to want or select a mate. Some who have , delight in the ego elation of the 'single parent label", they will not relinquish that label, to give the a balance of male and female parent figure in the home. Some feel their status is above others, which does not give them the concerns for a mate, except the pursuit of one with even more status. the list goes on and one. some feel they have forever to choose, and some feel they have lost the drive to choose or select a mate. There also is a host of mental health matters which become at play in why some will either not have a mate, or not be able to sustain a relationship with a mate. to some its a sexual cycle of concerns that make them avoid a mate or drive them to many mates but no stability in maintaining a relationship.  Current day society, monetary interest is a big factor among so many, but there are many who will not admit this elements, and some deny it even while knowing it is a driving wedge within themselves which prevents them from choosing a mate. Some want power over others, and some want to be under the power of others, Neither has any long term mindset to sustain either of these choices; because people change their mind and do so even more so when their expectations don't match the reality they fantasized about. How important is a Mate?  Probably has a great deal to do with why people are single, or why people fail to choose or have no interest to make such a choice. Vanity is a mixed bag of many things, and within it, it is composed of fears and well as egos, which seems to be on a every changing pole position in the internal mind. This is in some ways a recipe for a turbulent association, which may not evolve into any stable mating. How important is a Mate?  Each one, as an individual, knows the mix of what is within this concern as to the importance of having a mate. In some ways the internet has made people even more confused even within their own idea of what is important as to having a mate. The massive 'shopping centers of online sites" is filled with alluring faces, enticing bodies, and many stories of many sorts. money, status and material chasing ideals and a host of other things. The basic volume of options even bring to some greater confusion, as they doubt even the choice they attempt to make, because more faces and bodies along with stories show up on the next page of the site and the picture albums. some create profiles on multiple sites, and some even become self flattered by temptations and seeming options, until they become unable to choose and some become filled with doubts about what they did not choose until there is challenge to even appreciating the one they have chosen. ..... and through it all, it comes back to the same question. How important is a Mate? Wishing the best to anyone and everyone in their choice of mate selection 
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I think you have a point, it does take some real time sharing to truly build relationship with the intent of longevity. People are uniquely interesting, and it the interactions both in person and other means that go into making relations. too many people can make fantasy via email and non personal contact means, but when they meet it comes down to eventual reality vs realism.
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many people talk about relationships, but they certain avoid blogs that do talk about the inner elements of relationships.
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