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What is a HELP MATE People come up with all kind of things when they are mate seeking and many have all kinds of fantasies and angles. What do you think your role as a "HELP MATE" is? What responsibilities as a contributor do you see as part of your role as a HELP MATE" ? Those who claim to want love should not have difficulty with these questions. |
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A Help Mate is for me companion and helper, esp husband/wife. A person who stand on your site in life and helps you in all kind of situation what will come to you. Give you wise advices to help you, a help mate can be too close friends in life. 
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Help Mates is interesting. I have a friend who owns a trucking business, small but its his. Lately he has had a few medical concerns, he tried to talk to his wife about her working and preparing herself to be a contributor to the relationships and its monetary basics. He has two house, generally he lives in one he bought with his previous wife, who he bought out her part after the divorce. His current wife does not want to live there, so he bought another home which she lives, and occasionally he lives there too. when he married her she said she was a professional in a particular field, but she has not worked since they were married. He at one time owned multiple million$$ of property, but even then she did not help with the paper work management of the property. He owned a facility that was a day care, again she did not help. eventually he lost the properties when the market crashed. burned up a lot of cash in the process. he continually talks to her about employment, she refuses to do anything to become employed. So he said, what will she do if he gets sick and can't cover the expenses. Her reply was, You don't have to worry about me"... but the matter is, what will she do to ensure that she can maintain a home for the both of them? This is where the questions comes from: What do you think your role as a "HELP MATE" is? What responsibilities as a contributor do you see as part of your role as a HELP MATE" ? when couples get older they have to pay attention. any one of them could have a debilitating stroke, a heart attack or a number of issues that can change the nature of the relationship... at that point. What is the concept of Help Mate and What Responsibility does one thing being a Help mate entails. People avoid these kid of questions as if they think they are guaranteed some fantasy outcome for the rest of their lives. I find it often very shallow on the parts of mate seekers, who do not think about what can possibly come in the span of a relationship. Many are never equipped to deal with the challenges, and some flee or some become perpetually anguished, because they never considered to think of such things. I've posted a variety of questions and written various post about these type of things, and they over become glossed over. Yet, people claim how loving they are, and how much they want a mate and how they want it to last. But they are very shallow when it comes to considering many factors that can possibly exist in the span of a relationship. In some cases, it may be "you", who is the one crippled and debilitated, then it is certain you will ponder, 'what is a Help Mate", and what are the Responsibilities of being a Help Mate. people should think far and beyond their erogenous urges...and their fantasy wants of romantic play time. Because once you are in the relationship... you should at the age of many who participate in these blogs, realize, you are guaranteed nothing, when it comes to what is health, and how is life under conditions of such challenges. Many people have absolutely no concept of honoring what their vows are when they marry. If they did it probably would be more people working to make their relationships function.. But many people can't keep a relationship going for 6 months. Some are on here playing among multiple web sites, looking for a ego high, of being pursued or pursuing pictures they see in profiles. Its like kids playing human video games, of temp and tease, play delude and be deluded, and then they throw attitudes back and forth. or go in chat rooms playing let's attack whom I could not hoodwink. In the big picture - its your life and you will get what your demeanor brings by how it is in the character of itself. You might want to have some ideal of what is a Help Mate and you might want to have some idea of what responsibility you think is part of being a Help mate.
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