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Procreation Looking about, it's such a challenge when one makes babies and leaves the baby and mother to fend for themselves. I do wonder if the concept of what that entails enters the minds, before the 'bed bouncing activity ensues'. I look back, as I did not have a relationship of stability when my was born, but today as I look back I think of all I missed and all that I failed to do, and all that I was not aware to consider to do and over the years what I was not financially able to do. It's a matter I cannot go backwards to correct. I also, look at my sisters who raised their alone, and the many many women I see as well as those I've met and known as well as those I have not met and do not know; and I consider much about the challenges they faced, the values they wanted to instill and the many works of challenge it took them to move from day to day. I look at what is happening today, of people killing their babies, dumping them in garbage bins and so many horrendous things. A few days ago, a woman ask me for directions, she had to baby seats in the back and I could practically see the stress in her life. I don't know if the baby’s father was a part of her life, or if they face basic and general economic challenges, but it was evident that the stress was present in her overall being. I work with a woman who is raising alone, her whole conversation is often about her , and mixed with her appreciations of her own parents. I watch how she struggles to keep them involved in culture and character building programs and other things which focus directly on their over-all well being. I think as a society, we may need to think to do better. After my was born and I was not there, I made it a point that I'd make no more babies, if I could not be there to raise and care for that and make good relations with the mother of that . Throughout my life, that is something I always kept in mind. The part of that which is different from some men is: I had so many opportunities to lay with various women, but I chose to only do so with women I'd consider to stay with if the result proved to produce a . I was concerned and cared about protection, both from disease and unplanned . I encountered various women who did not speak of these things, but that does not mean it was not something in their minds. Another matter, some may disagree, but it is a bad thing when this society has developed a promotional support like pride in "single parent" phrase as if it is something one should aspire to be and become. It's also a thing where after time and one gets accolades for being a single parent, they are not eagerly willing to give up those accolades to choose and maintain a relationship with a man to have a family unit. The mind of the human being is often interesting, in how pride of sorts and even ego of sorts and the things one takes pride and ego from as well as the want of these accolades, often times can and so result to choose sustaining the label of 'single parent" and what they will do to hold on to those accolades at an expense far greater than they know, and the often pays that expense,as well as the one who choose to retain the label as single parent. It would appear one would want to find and chose a mate to help raise those as well as have good relationship with someone for themselves as well. Pride is an interesting thing when it is not properly and functionally placed. The era that produce the mentality of "I don't need a man" which so many women adopted, has deprived many many of a father figure in their lives. Maybe the thought should not been about some need or claiming she does not need a man, based on her ability to pay bills, but more a focus, to want to have companionship and a father figure in the lives of the . No man wants to be "needed" just because he can pay the bills, he wants to be wanted, because he is appreciated as a man who is just a man as a person and individual. I also look at the many men, who have babies by so many varied women, and seem to have little concern for the woman or the baby and some continue to go forth making even more babies. I even think about the history of life, when people impregnated those whom they enslaved, and resulted to enslave their own along with the baby's mother who was forced to remain enslaved. It's a horrendous history as well as the present day situations which continue all across the world. Societies today have pushed and agenda of near glorifying the 'single parent" syndrome, not just among the everyday people, but we've seen this become like a fad among the entertainers and those who push imagery via the media of lifestyles. The difference is drastic, some can afford to provide material and monetary means, but they still fall short of providing the male figure, or in some cases where men have the , who fail to provide the female figure. Today, people will fight about this very subject. When the point and matter is about the having both a male and female figure in their lives. Is a great matter that is greatly lacking in the societies of today. What breaks them up, is an unknown factor, because some break up before the baby is born, and some break up within the life span of the 's growth. It's always a devastating loss to the . Which is something often not truly given focus of thought about nor upon in the big picture of what unfolds in life. A woman cannot be a man, and man cannot be a woman, in what is the natural sense of what constitutes the difference in natural gender. (Some will argue this point as well). Countless from some of these situation, as they become adults, will seek out their natural biological parent, be it a mother or a father. It's a human instinctive thing. No amount of one parent bad mouthing the other, the can and many do as they become adults, want to see and meet their biological parent for themselves. But no matter their argument about the merits or demerits of "single parent" household, one natural fact exists. A man and man cannot naturally produce a , nor can a woman and woman naturally produce a . This is a law of nature and a fact of life. Then it follows, there is some reason in the whole of mankind that fact exists, it too exists in the animal kingdom as well. Gender matters - now people can choose their ideal to de-emphasis that point and fact, but the laws of nature substantiates it, in the fact that it and the continuation of life is predicated on there being a male and female in the natural sense of gender existence for the procreation process in its most natural state and function. Often times, the of these situation, want to meet and know their biological parent of opposite gender from the parent they grew up with.  Even when mankind uses medical techniques, it still requires gender distinction to gather what is sperm and what is the egg. That too is an undeniable fact in the laws of nature and procreation's function. I don't care to get into what is homosexuality- because beyond that elemental activity of people, it does not negate the nature of a male and female gender factors as being necessary to facilitate what is procreation. Even in the homosexual choices people make, one plays the role of male and one plays the role of female. so again the premise of what is gender and its role is still dominant in principal of concept and role play even in the homosexual proclivities of lifestyle basics even when no potential for procreation can exist in such coupling of same gender human beings. |
