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The Failure of AFF to make serious connections It seems that this site which has the potential to be a high functioning site for people to find someone; Unfortunately it fails not because the tools are not available, it offers great tools for communication and collaborations. It's more so that the people seem to be into frivolous post, slap stick comedic response and do not invest to actually eloborate enough to demonstrate a sincerity of self presentation, in general. some have even become to attack others and turn it into a bicker fest. At one point some years ago, it had a more interactive and functional engaging phase, but by some means that seems to have faded into people tripping on scammers and other such stuff, rather than by pass what you think is a scammer and deal with people who present themselves as being a person who values their time and respects their interactions. It's so much "Posturing" until people can't get beyond the posturing to get real with each other. Another element is the site has matured from the delusion it once had of people thinking Chinese women were easy picking, to a site where now people have no choice but to respect the women as viable independent persons who won't fall for any old crap. Scammers will always find a chump that falls for their stuff, and those who fall for it pay the price of live and learn. If you don't know how to keep your money in your own pocket, them its quite likely you will loose it. If you advertise yourself as being well to do, then you invite those who might want to rip you off. If you are seeking to latch on to someone for monetary concerns, you will trip yourself up eventually and pay the price for your own deceptions. If you fall over for every pretty face then you deserve what you get, if you by pass the concern to learn the persons character and nature of motivations. If you are trying to buy and barter for love, then you've already started down the pathway of the foolish, so don't be surprised if you get fooled. If you think sex is the answer, then you've already set yourself up to get S_rewed. It's always up to the people who participate that will determine the quality and character of any website designed for people connections. The site has managed to remain with good tools and does not flood the pages with advertisement, and that makes it a good site which is reliant on people being genuine, rather than using its subscribers to promote advertisement. Still - the people don't take it serious enough to use it for HONEST AND SINCERE mate and friend building aims. |
