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Over 5 yrs For those of us who have participated in this site more than 5 yrs. Do we know why we have not selected someone to build relations with? That's a very honest question. As we each claim strongly to know ourselves, it should not be difficult to grasp why we have not made connections for long term relations. __________ Personally, I don't care for shallowness, nor do I care much for people who are reluctant to engage the realism's of living. I'm not much for the fantasy illusion chasing, and I don't think there is such thing as a utopia, and there certainly is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there are good relationships, but it is a fact, Good Relationships are Built, they are not found chasing fantasy and illusions, nor are they found being a body hunter or a facial chaser and certainly they are not found being deluded to think sex will be an answer all, fix all delusion. Money is good to have and it is a necessary tool, but it should not lead one to become a fool unto and of themselves. What's left - is to find an "honest person", who has the ability to be sincere in their living and how they share their lives. Now, that's what's hard to find. _____________________ What your reasoning and concepts ? |
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Definitely an honest question. Here is some food for thought. My blog posts mention a few of the "relationships" garnered from this site. None panned out for a variety of reasons. Perhaps "independence" is a possible underlying reason. Lately I've noticed a number of woman's profiles including the phrase, "I'm and independent woman", or "I'm an independent traditional Chinese woman." (I may be wrong, but the concepts of "independence" and "traditional" may have been somewhat mutually exclusive in traditional Chinese culture. I'll wait to hear from some of the women here though.) But back to the word independence. I think men just sort of consider that they are "independent" individuals. It is somewhat of a modern consideration that woman proclaim themselves as independent. I see nothing wrong with this at all and fully support the concept. In thinking about it, after seeing some of the above mentioned posts, I questioned my own "independence." I wonder if perhaps we need some more dependence in our lives? Too much distance from dependence leaves one quite independent. Don Henley, one of the members of the music group the "Eagles", is a great lyricist and wrote this in his song "Forgiveness": "And I thought of all the bad luck, And the struggles we went through And how I lost me and you lost you What are these voices outside love's open door Make us throw off our contentment And beg for something more?" This snippet of the song can be taken a few different ways, something that Henley is very good at in his writing. Finding a balance between independence and dependence in the modern world can be a challenge.
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Thanks, good comment, most of Chinese FriendFinder people generally avoid questions or post that try to get to the honest self.
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