beyondfantasy3 113M
1999 posts
4/16/2016 10:20 am
Why is it so hard for this generation?


Why is it so hard for women to choose a mate in this generation? Is it because they are focused on options?

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Decades ago, women seem to have had far less issues with choosing a mate and far less demanding criteria of particulars that practically void out any potential suitor?

It's today almost like "perpetual" shopping !!!!,

Decades ago, when there were few stores and the selections in the store were not with the confusions of today, they could shop and make choices.
This generation today, where there is store next to store and more stores down the block, women seem to shop all day and claim they can't find anything they like.

It's as if when presented with options, making a choice and even sticking with the choice made is so much more difficult for women in the society of today.

I do see somewhat of a difference in smaller towns/cities, the women don't have such difficult finding a mate, choosing a mate and even staying with the mate they have chosen.

Here in the South, the women don't seem to have such a problem making a choice and building a relationship with someone. When I lived in California, the women who were within the communities they grew up in, they seem to find a mate more easily than women who lived in the city who tried to canvass the whole of the Los Angeles region.
Again, it just might be when faced with too many options, people find a greater difficulty choosing.

This conditions in some ways seem to impact women who have money, women who have university experience, and women who have careers. Then compound that with the current day media - the rapid change of fashion and what is so called claimed to be fashionable to do, where to go and what to entertain, it appears the choice is even more difficult.

It's almost like taking a in to the candy section, they get so excited looking at the options, even when they choose a piece of candy, they are concerned about all the pieces they did not get to sample or choose.
This is a problem both guys and girls seem have in segments of society today, especially in certain age groups.

Now with the Internet, it may even confound the matter more than help the matter of mate selection.

I notice too here in the South, something I wrote about long ago before they wiped out my blog. The couples seem to be comfortable with the simple things of life, the make family build friendships and a network of family and friends and their mate and they seem to understand, they can't have everything and certainly not even try to have everything all at once.

I think its horrible in some situations where people have money and come through the university system and play in the circle of alumni pursuits, everything seems to be wrapped in an incessant pursuit type of framework, more than a settled build a relationship and make a life and put in the work to try and keep it together. It's almost like nothing is ever enough !!!!

Look at the guys who come to these sites, in some ways when I first came, some of the guys wanted the seemingly country girl who liked simplicity, but now it seems they encounter city girls who are caught up in looking at all the options and simply window shopping on a multiple variety of websites not to mention what they may be shopping in their physical environment.

One member here when he talks about women, he seems to say he likes looking for the Chinese women who are likely new arrivals with a limited circle and who has not got yet caught up in being overwhelmed looking at options.

It's rather interesting???

beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
4/16/2016 6:09 pm

    Quoting papaya1972:
    But option is on both sides, isn't it? Not only females have the options but males too.
yes, .... I addressed the matter of both.
"It's almost like taking a kid in to the candy section, they get so excited looking at the options, even when they choose a piece of candy, they are concerned about all the pieces they did not get to sample or choose.
This is a problem both guys and girls seem have in segments of society today, especially in certain age groups. "


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
4/17/2016 5:16 am

    Quoting Lily20145:
    one of the greatest thing of shopping nowadays is not only choices, it provides 30 days money back guarantee too. We can try and return if it didn't fit for purpose.
this post was written to get people talking, so maybe we can find out together as a group, what is the impediments to finding mates.


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
4/17/2016 8:22 am

    Quoting Lily20145:
    great ideas

    First of all, give all male members hearing aids and female members mask with no mouth openings.


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
4/17/2016 8:30 am

there are 'shopping cart '' too and you can return if you do not like the man you ordered as well.

thing of shopping nowadays is not only choices, it provides 30 days money back guarantee too

(these are funny)
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I do not want to hurt anyone, that's another reason.
Once I decide to stay with someone, usually takes forever to leave

I certainly understand this


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
4/19/2016 5:20 pm

Internet meeting and dating people should be very careful - Some idiot killed and hacked up a woman recently. There are people who set other up to be robbed and many things. I don't know what the recipe is for success, but it is wise of anyone man or woman to be careful.
This does not only go for internet, but even meeting people in bars, or many places. People need to be with care in their choices.

Keep your financial information private, and keep your money in your pocket, and with all the people doing all kind of things, people need to be careful whom they sleep with, because there is not only a lot of diseases, there are lots of fanatical people who show a whole different side of silliness when sex is involved. This goes for men and women, as well as women who chase women, and men who chase men.

A friend who is a therapist once told me, that sometimes women who chase women, can and some are very brutal to the women they catch, some will kick the other woman's butt in a flash of a moment. and if she thinks the woman even looks at a man, she will go ballistic, and some do the same if the woman looks at another woman. She said, some of those relationship are more brutal than that of brutish men who abuse women.

People have to be careful regardless if its in the physical world or the internet world.

I simply can't understand anyone who gets ripped off sending money to people they met on the internet, whom they have never seen. I can see a reasonable birthday gift or such as long as you have DEVELOPED and honest relation, but people who send many hundreds and thousands to internet met people, should just as well "burn their money and watch the ashes fly away".