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Relationship Fiction Do people truly take the time to learn each other, or does the "hot's send them to bed quickly" and they get caught in the fantasy built around pleasure? I've never been one to play the scripted waiting game, or become party to the set up that is sometime the basis of the waiting game. If there is a wait, it is a choice both people make and both are comfortable with it, then its more "realistic". Especially, if its understood that the woman must have as much desire and want to be with the man, as the man has to desire and want to be with her. No man should accept a bed engagement, under any terms as if the woman is doing him some favor, or that he has "won" something. If two people want to hit the bed at any point in their relating, it should be because both mutually want and mutually desire it and both are willing to give, show and share that want and desire mutually. If hitting the bed becomes the single focus mission of either, they should be up front about such, and not create a delusion for themselves, nor for the other or each other. If they want to just the entertaining of each other in the bed, then be up front about that also, don't play "let's pretend its a relationship", because it will not turn out well for either of them in the extent of continued interactions. Can the bed lead to love_ It's likely that it can, as anything shared can lead to love if its done in honest interchanges. It might be wise for people to figure it out and be up front and honest with themselves and the other and each other, before they result to be caught up in "Relationship Fiction". |
