beyondfantasy3 113M
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8/25/2016 5:13 am
You could come across a Catfisher

From the News

They met on a dating site and went bowling. It was a setup, police say, and now he’s dead.

There was no reason for Adam Hilarie to believe anything but the obvious: He had just been on a promising first date with a pretty girl.

Hilarie had met Hailey Rose Bustos on PlentyOfFish, which bills itself as the largest dating site in the world. He’d picked her up and they went bowling in Winter Haven, Fla., at Cypress Lanes, which offers shoe and lane rentals for a quarter on Thursday nights, and specials on pizza and beer.

A few hours later, the pair ended up at his place, where they talked a bit more and met up with his roommate.

Then, Hilarie dropped his date off at home.

Bustos sent the single father a text afterward: She’d had a good time, she wrote to Hilarie, and wanted to meet up the following night at his place.

The next night, her real intentions became clear, police told The Washington Post.

Bustos, 18, brought three men with her to Hilarie’s place, including two career criminals on probation for violent felonies. At least one of the men, police said, had a gun.

When Hilarie, 27, responded to the knock on the door, the men overpowered him and dashed inside, police said.

Hilarie was begging for his life, he was not putting up any kind of fight, and was telling them that he had a 5-year-old ,” according to arrest reports obtained by the Orlando Sentinel.

Hilarie was shot in the head and collapsed on the kitchen floor, Auburndale’s Deputy Police Chief Andy Ray told The Washington Post.

With Hilarie on the floor in a pool of blood, Ray said, the suspects went downstairs, pulled their car to the front of the apartment and began stealing the dead man’s Xbox, iPhone and TVs — valuables Bustos had spotted the night before.

A witness told investigators that Bustos had been involved in at least one similar robbery before, Ray told The Post.

For her role in the deadly robbery of Adam Hilarie, Bustos was paid $50 in cash, police said.

You could come across a ‘Catfisher’ ‘

Using the lure of Internet love to get money from unsuspecting people is a scam as old as the Web itself. Experts say people are getting better at spotting many of the Internet’s longtime scams:
the criminals are getting smarter, too. And on dating sites, would-be scammers have a trump card: People are irrational when they’re looking for love.

“Romance is by definition quite irrational,” Jack Levin, co-director of Northeastern University’s Brudnick Center on Violence and Conflict, told The Post. “And the smartest person can be taken in during the early stages of the dating process. Except now it’s more sophisticated and easier for someone to lie and cheat and fabricate because they can pretty much change their identity to make it fit a new reality.”

Scammers, Levin said, “are experts at presentation of self. When you’re dealing with the Internet, you don’t need the resources that you might need in an interpersonal relationship, or face-to-face. But on the Internet all you need really is to be very skillful at presenting yourself as something that you aren’t. And it’s so much easier for someone to do that online.”


beyondfantasy3 113M
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8/26/2016 5:02 am

Why has my last few post not showed up on the blog list?????

beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
8/26/2016 4:38 pm

I am very selective about people, these things are all too common today. People from these recent generations have no sense of humanity, decorum, the concept of dignity to them is, gluttony of any sort, sloth and looking to pretend they have it made, or playing the pity me madness, looking for an angle to chase some of their lustful craving.
people now take the life of others for the most simplistic of motives, even if one take notice to dogs, they have a sense and level of decency they show unto one another, they have their tiffs but not like the (some) people of today.

I don't know what it takes for people to become to be more civil minded, other than at present one has to be select in whom they enjoin.

I've never been one to just cling to people quickly.

When I first moved here, I had all the cars and bikes, one day I had them all out while I cleaned them, and when I thought about the attention it attracted, I quickly moved them back in the garage. There is no need to advertise anything others can make assumptions about, and assume one has more than they actually may have, which can make one become a target.
It's really crazy.

I understand why wealthy people gravitate to certain communities, because of the security which surrounds those communities.

But on the Human Level, no community is exempt from "crazed people" who fit the previous descriptions of these recent generations whom too many among them, have no sense of humanity, decorum, the concept of dignity to them is, gluttony of any sort, sloth and looking to pretend they have it made, or playing the pity me madness, looking for an angle to chase some of their lustful craving.

I also don't deal with argumentative people or people who like too much drama!!!!!

beyondfantasy3 113M
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8/27/2016 7:10 am

It may not be the norm based on the volume who engage social media, but the % factor is enough to promote a high level of caution. I think none would choose to be a part of the 'deceased or killed by" statistics.

We've had killing in particular cities for the past few months on a daily basis, it is said that these cases are an outlier, and not a systemic wave of a particular group such as gangs, or etc. The fact which remains, when they are recalculated on a basis of death by acts of gun violence, then the outlier factor is changed, then its a matter of ratio's which fit a profile of being "high violence deaths".

In the cases of the web, I agree they may not be a norm/frequency that push the ratio's to remove it from being an outlier. But it does leave it as a 'high concern" factor.
We have other items that are pushing the ratio's which indicate trends, when it comes to "family members killing family members/families". This is at a point that concern has to move to being "proactively alerts of active caution awareness".
Often times people "pass off" signs and other indicators, and when something goes extreme, only then do they allow recall to weave a summary which indicates an ongoing advancement of increased propensity for tragedy.

There are many who live with the eagerness to push blame for their situations, circumstances and conditions upon others. As well as people who are simply do not handle the fact that "a decline" to date is a choice, but some take it as a rejection of the whole and become anguished to a point beyond reason.

There is no such thing as a Safe Category of Human Being when it comes to the general social reality of society. Some think "the word college student, college graduate, professional, and etc, is a guard against aggressive and/or irrational violence, some even consider wealth, and status as if its some protective guard against aggressive and/or irrational violence; then there are others who claim and expect to believe that the pretty factor, as being some guard against aggressive and/or irrational violence. None of those thing are with any 100% factor.
The best people have is a sense of awareness, and the act of paying attention, not being paranoid, but being aware to retain a sense to be discerning.

I think the fictions of media has a great impact on society, as well as the absurdity which is now promoted in the various types of reality shows, which influence people in a wide and endless variety of ways.
We have the anesthetizing influences of violence tolerance training people can get from the incessant play of violent games, where as "some", may potentially have the line blurred in their mental space as it relates to violence and choice of conduct in a questionable or challenging situations.

There was a time long ago before the world became smaller, (such as before the internet, before the ease of access to airlines flights, the saturation of faster vehicles and such, as well as the 'drama encircling social outing events and/or facilities where people gather, meet and mate up), when people actually invested time and had circles of associations which assisted in the learning more about the "character" of whom they desired.

Today, that is quite different. The Salad Mixes of Society and the Mating and the Dating and the Relating is a whole different dynamic of associations.

I'm not much into the one posters continual threads about scammers, but that is an aspect which is all too saturated in some social media sites. I don't concern myself much with it, because I'm not going to be sending anyone any money based on some "sob story". Nor am I going to claim some undying love for someone I've never ever seen their face or touched their hand and certainly have not shared some face to face reality learning of each other.

I joined LinkedIn when it first came out, I also Joined Facebook when it was still based on University Campuses, as well as Twitter when it first came out. I don't frequent Facebook and I have no need for twitter to tell people every little thing I'm doing.
I see people listing and sending me "Accept Me" invitation from LinkedIn, and some of them have 500+ connections. I don't need that, it may be reasonable on a business level if I'm selling something or need to reach out to a mass of people to promote something, or if there was a system of concept which benefited the need for such connections. It's enough to have connections with 100, because the collateral connections are quite expansive all on its own. But some people see it differently and use it differently.

My work gives me enough contact with a very wide audience both internally and city wide, therefore that is quite a lot when it comes down to visible presence and outreach, I participate in various blogs which again is another outreach to unknown quantity. I do know that, web bots have found a way to link profiles from a multitude of sites one participates in, by IP address alone, that links one to a unlimited world of people, therefore, it is a concern as to what one puts in their 'online profile", because the web bot's have already gathered a profile larger than we are even remotely aware of.
there are web sites that utilize this info, which include your shopping habits, your scanned discount cards, to your location of purchase, not to mention, the access your phone has to contacts, location, sites visited, google searches, and anything done on the digital platforms, is all sewn together by web bots that have general and specific objectives, all pushing info into the churning of a detail about individuals lives, they have no idea of summarizing even if they tried.

But, the ironical part is, one does not have to be on the web for these compilation to exist, just the fact one exist and interacts with society, merchants and use digital tech personally, or what agencies upload in their data systems, including employers, means.... "Everyone practically had a web profile of some type". Much as I write, I'm sure there's a web profile that has summarized my outlooks. - Yep, It's mind boggling.

And to think, web sites pretend they have some privacy policy

beyondfantasy3 113M
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8/29/2016 5:11 am

the shame is beyond any point of reason; its an insanity how people have low regard for life these days.
As you said, maybe its always been this way, and the internet simply makes it more publicized and more people aware.
I'd agree to a greater extent, because "one the whole", mankind has done and continues to do some very tragic things to other mankind.

I find it difficult to understand, how many of us, who frequent this site can live with a respect for life, and then there is a segment in society, who indulge in the acts of killing, robbing and all the vile things against other people and against society as a whole.

There is no utopia, but there has to be or become a better regard for civility, on a global level somewhere in the future of mankind. Who knows if it will take Decades or Centuries; or what will be the catalysis for a paradigm shift in the human spectrum.
Sadly, there is expansive evil which lurks in the world, and at the present time, people of good heart, must simply remain alert and be discerning about what they do, whom they deal with and how they go about navigating the environments within their life's sphere.