codamuse 60M
13 posts
9/4/2010 10:28 am
Day One 9-4-10


Well, here I am. I finally did it. I broke down and paid a fee to date online. I have been signing up with allot of free sites the last few months trying to decide which one to go with and this one got the best reviews. From what I can tell, there are allot of affiliate contractors at some of the other sites that emailed me their addresses like crazy pretending to be interested woman. This only discouraged me from signing up after I figured it out. I have great hopes for this site so far. Anyone who looks will see I have spent allot of time filling out all the fields and checking all the boxes. I wonder if woman really reads this stuff as opposed to checking my age and picture and moving on.

I suppose I'm like the rest of the 46 year old guys here; worked hard, got an education, got a career, spent all my time doing that stuff, never really dating, now wondering how all the time slipped by so fast. I think what bugs me most is that I still have the minds eye of a 23 year old unaccustomed to the idea that very few woman from 23 to 33 in the US will have anything to do with me. Not that I particularly want a 23 to 33 year old. I don't know what I want in terms of age and never thought about it that way anyway. I've always believed that a woman should look good no matter what age she is. At least that’s the story I'm sticking with. But then again if I meet a girl who plays piano or violin or is a dancer, martial artist, actor, or artist I'm toast no matter what age she is. Maybe the bottom line is that we each must supplement the life of the other in equal proportion using a weighted scale to account for age difference. After all, I can't expect all potential woman to have an education, career, and property. I can only hope having an open mind will be the key.

So, I think I'm set. Current pictures = Check, profile filled out = Check, did the blog thing = Check. Yea. Ready to roll, baby. Let the process begin.

I will try this for one month and let you all know my progress.

beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
9/5/2010 10:03 am

It's simply another way to communicate, you should do well, as long as you keep in mind, that people lie, in the physical world and they do so in the internet world

as the saying goes, "don't take any wooden nickles..", so discernment works fine in the web as in the physical face to face world.

As to the age, spectrum, that depends more on the individual female. but at your age, and with the reality of the world, we know, that there are age spectrum where people meet different levels of realism.
23-27, to some is play time for dream chasing, but the dreams have many illusion that interrupt stability. 27-30 people fear they are reaching that 30 point, so they get over urgent in their eagerness, and may push a demand more than they push for collaboration. beyond 30, is a mixed bag of many things. If they married young, by 32, many think they need to break away and check out stuff, because they fear they have missed something, or they think they are missing something, so they may flee, or claim they married for the wrong reasons.

but, I'm sure you have you own concepts about the age factor(s).

I personally don't care much for "dating', by the title of "dating". I prefer more that If I see and I like, and we 'share interactions", then it will be what it becomes to be.

Dating sounds so much like a "test script', that is more a pressure cookers, than the simply joy of sharing time and experiences, without a bunch of expectations of what it should or should not be.

but on the humor side, "be Aware there are such things as "serial daters", they have no mission other than to engage a series of short term dates, kinda like "window shopping but no interest in trying on anything".
then you got the one who, remain on reserve, for "dinner and expense paid outings", that have no objective beyond, to be seen at places, and on someone arm, if it will secure them future options among those they are eying.

all in all, that's simply to say.. don't expect too much from this, and just enjoy the communication.


love2muse4u 50F

9/4/2010 8:28 pm

great... u seem to be very open and honest guy. i ll look forward ur second Blog here about ur new experience.