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Married I always thought, married is not big thing, very easy, we meet someone we like, have true connection between two of us, build family, and life, like everybody else, raise beautiful , waiting husband home and make dinner when he come back after all day work. But, after time by time, its not so easy as i thought. In fact, meeting with someone we truly like to be our lifetime partner is so so hard, first, maybe we meet someone we like in appearance, good looking, nice smile, have lots of money (that is bonus) after its not work out, we looking for others, who's nice, good heart, gentle, okay, not having much money but able to work and earn it, and after that is not work too, we just looking for someone who willing to accept us as what we are, this is like, after long time we cut our price about 30 % to 50% so we could able to at least find our partner with whatever they are, hahahaha thats funny, like an old clothes from our closet and just can't wait to throw it away. Life is difficult, when we just walking by ourself, but with someone next to us, its just maybe, we could get better and better. ^_^ |
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Be patient. Life is difficult being alone but it's not better with the wrong partner. Get to know the person and see if he's someone you can imagine sharing yourself with everyday.
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Marriage is hard so don't rush. 
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Everything in life is lived 'DAY BY DAY"... manage ones attitude and one can work and make work what ever they choose. too many people can't make relationships work, because they are too busy trying to compare their daily activity to some dreamed up fairy tale concept. life is lived in the seconds we get, which become the minutes we engage, that become the hours we indulge, that makes for the days we live.. Everyone dreams in some "big picture fantasy", and forget the details are the moments within the days, and many forget how to appreciate the moments, for trying to look at some big picture concept and then trying to manipulate everything to fit THEIR fantasy, rather than learn to simply , live, share and deal with the reality which presents itself in the daily living. More women can't find relationships, because they don't have the mindset to BUILD IT, they are fantasy chasers, who are more like wrecking balls, at a demolition site, than actual construction workers who are engaged in building. Every woman has some delusion that she can set high prices and then expect and try and command some man to pay it. but any man who is wise would walk on past that madness, because everyday she will set a new price, and slap another coat of paint on something, as if to cover it as if to hide an older product and claim it as being new. The women who make the worst mates, are the ones who are always trying to be everything but a woman, and then those who think and claim that being a woman is to be compensated for simply being a woman. Young women are often time a disaster unto themselves, because they live like a commodity, more than they live like someone who is driven and willing to share and actually engage in doing so. they are daily trying to measure everything, against her expectations of pay, until she can't appreciate anything, including herself, because she measures it by what she can extract as compensation and or pay for her simple presence . Most women defeat themselves with this cycle of insanity process, but they want to lay blame in every place except her own attitude and disposition about being a mate. those who can't find or make relationships, are generally one who think sharing only means someone is suppose to give her something for her presence. for any man, if you go out and buy an ornamental covered show horse don't expect to ride it, but do expect to only be led by it in a parade or for it to lead you in a circle of a parade. If any woman goes out and choose a peacock, don't expect it to be able to do anything but parade about and fan its tail feathers. Men and women who choose to be helpmates, make equally so good bed mates, because the premise will be the same in bed, as well as out of bed. they will be willing to give, to share, to please and be pleased, they will want to delight each other, as well as they will want to share in the efforts and acts of care for and with each other. Most people get lost in the pageantry of imagery BS, and age takes it and they have less and less of what was already about nothing. if you just want to bang someone who looks good, then stop calling it l a love relationship trying to pretend it is something it is not, and just go bang people who look good and move along until the next one that looks good comes along that want to do some banging because they feel each other looks good. K.I.S.S. ( keep it simple stupid) maybe the best scenario for people who have more concern about the looks than the character and the work required by BOTH in a relationship. if they look good and you know in yourself you are not going to do any sharing beyond what the look inspires, then don't delude yourself to claim it as being anything but a flesh based connection.. bang it, be happy about it and move along, then people don't become destroyers of each other, by trying to make a duck into a swan. the best thing people can learn to be is, true with themselves, and that means to look beyond ones own vanity about self, and see the reality of ones self... they may then learn better how to relate with and unto others in making relationships.
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