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Do you have this experience ? I read an article a few years ago, it talks about people who have certain behavior which is proven to be called or considered as an emotional controlling After having shared with a few friends in this matter, I also encounter the type of friends in this situation myself. Friends especially those who are very closed to each other , a few who do not follow their schedules of appointments, no call, and yet show up at least one( 1) or three(3) hours later, they do not seem to feel embarrassing, or find an excuse for their behaviors , but have acted as if nothing is wrong being late. Oddly enough in their continuation of disrespectful behavior, friends and family take it as a flaw but no one has come up in demanding to stop this inappropriate treatments. Whereas, this article points out that, the actual victims who are waiting actually carrying in the emotional distress and worries to themselves , so when the very ( late) people finally appear in front of their eyes, this waiting with anger and fear turns into a complete relief. Therefore, in this sense, all can be forgiven because this matter is being treated as a lost and found with a happy ending. I think it is a very deep analyze of how people behave without being aware of the psychology impact. What do you think ? |
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waiting that long for anyone, is not a reasonable choice. Today, there are cell phones everyplace.
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6/12/2011 2:13 pm |
You both are right, but let me put it this way.Regardless they are being called rude or disrepectful to others who are very closed to them. My question is, after being caught in an emotional distress and worries of the unknown and whereabout of this" late " individual .When he ( she ) shows up. In this situation, we forget our priorite of what we have gone through , we tend to forgive this behavior rather than focus on an unpleasant experiences. Let's give another example, between a wife and a husband, or child and a parent.We do get angry and mad that we don't recieve a phone call no matter what their excuse is. Such as ,a runaway kid comes back to the arms of a parents after an arguments or some differences. A wife is relief that her husband didn't get kill in an accident or some street shooting, eventhough she doubts it 's the truth, she knows he would not bother to call unless it's an emergency . What I understand is , waiting is a torment when we don't know what is the outcomes between life and death of our closed one.
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