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A feeling: Growt it, dont Blow it. Well, there is a lot of difference between u and between being u but part of a team. A relationship is a team where everything counts and mostly when the real grow up begins and the learning process is the most complex of the human relationships. Our coworkers we just need to see them some hours and interact with them some time, we can forget about them when we want. But this person that has put her soul inside our mind all the time. Well that is different. In my last article I talked about being real about the good and bad things that our couple have. Well the second point after we have realized what our couple really have inside him/her, is start to grow as team and also as an individual that is a part of a team. It is like being a citizen of a new country. U have your own individuality but now you do things for your new country or group that you do in order to get an identification as part of that group. In this case couple. Those things that bring us together and that makes realize to others that we are part of a couple are issues that we have to grow together with the other person. Instead or be totally isolated asking for our : " own space" or on the opposite not caring for the relationship on different moments that we are not together with this other human being. I confess to be a very selfish guy about my space and be totally scared about have a relationship in which I lose my individual privileges, but I know that there will be a time when she comes and I have to deal with the idea of grow those some things together that are going to make us being a couple and not two individuals playing together for some hours " the companionship game ". And I am not prepared today , but the time will come when I get totally ready and that day I will know that I have to be ready to grow a team relationship with that special woman, if not I will blow it and will never get a nice relationship. The Universe is billion of years old, you wont live even 100, so enjoy more and travel light. |
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I would not think one is unprepared when the mind considers the factors to seek not only understanding, but clarity within wisdom of what is being understood. what may matter most, is a connection with a woman who's mind engage the nature of relationship as individual.. who can function as a pair, and be a team. vs one which is based on reciprocal subservience, dictated and dominated by the expect of rituals associated with novella romantics. If and when such person(s) who share beyond novella motivations, they find a level of romance that is of person, and respect of individual and merges with an appreciation not just of another but of self, in an ever expanding paring for team nature growth.
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11/26/2011 11:28 pm |
Well, some people believe too much in individual spaces, and that individuality has made people when they are together, just be two strangers under the same roof, like still living single but with another sharing meals and expenses, I think that has contributed a lot to the high rate of separations. People do things as two-in-relationship but not really as couple anymore. People do not even like the other people, they just like the feeling inside them when they see other or are another other, that is like been in love with yourself around someone else. So, very much all feelings are blown by pure sense of individualism that is overthrown the real team sense that couples use to search in the past. The Universe is billion of years old, you wont live even 100, so enjoy more and travel light.
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