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Shopping for soulmates:Does online dating make you superficial? It's official: online dating is the second most popular way couples get together (apart from meeting through friends). But according to new research, looking for love online can bring out your superficial side — and dash your chances of true love. Welcome to 2012, where dating websites are no longer just the domain of the socially awkward or shy. Chances are that hot, successful and single friend of yours who always seems to have a date has an rsvp account or Blendr app on their phone. But research by the University of Rochester in the US has found scanning profile after profile of potential love matches creates a 'shopping' mentality, where we become too focused on more superficial aspects of a person such as looks or interests, and ruthlessly compare people like we do platform wedges at an end-of-season sale. And, the tendency to make ourselves seem 'perfect' in online dating profiles means we can develop unrealistic expectations of a new partner and what your relationship will be like. The authors of the study said this means we are more "likely to exit a romantic relationship when problems arise … and to become vengeful in response to partner aggression when they feel insecure in the relationship." Does clicking through 200 profiles on the bus home from work take the romance out of dating? Or has the online dating industry opened up the once geographically limited dating pool, for the better? so enchanting she delights the soul |
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2/7/2012 8:30 pm |
Yes,i agree,soulmate,mr or mrs right does not exist,just fantasy words,most are not looking for either,just an easy way out of their miserable existance and surrounds,hoping some saviour or knight in shining armour will come along and rescue them,here it is mor elike PERMANENT RESIDENCY FINDER!!!!!! so enchanting she delights the soul
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I don't go for the soul mate thing.. It's to me just a matter of finding someone that likes me and I like them and want to share together. There are people with favorable characteristic. Today, I think many women are generally fickle and it is not so easy to trust that they are sincere about things. Because women are very good at play acting. So a man needs to pay attention to whom he is choosing and find someone who has some determination to put effort into relating. probably the best thing for a man, is don't start out giving women a bunch of stuff. If many men pay attention, there are many women who don't give him anything, and thinks that just showing up to receive is all she has to do. Some even come with a bag of expectations wrapped in a ribbon of conditions. Sadly too many men get tripped up by the games women make about sex, so, the first thing a man should realize, is don't chase any women that does not have a honest self motivation to share it. When she starts putting all kind of crazy conditions on sharing it, it is probably time to re-consider and pay attention even moreso.
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