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Got sick of some foreigners living in China First I want to say I didn't mean to offend you all, as I know several bad guys can not represent all men. But it surely is not a coincidence when many of them you met on the internet (and in real life I guess) were just talking suggestively or directly to ask for sexual relationship even if it was only your first conversation with him! Just wondered what makes them so confident about themselves? Do they have racial superiority as foreigners living in China? I also know it's the fact that many Chinese women love to have something to do with western men, for their superficial vanity. But does that mean you can think all of us as the women of infidelity? Don't judge others by the one you've known. Sorry if I cause any of your unpleasant feelings cause I just met a guy who really made me feel disgusting. I leave no trace of wings in the air, but I am glad I have had my flight. ---- Rabindranath Tagore |
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4/8/2012 12:58 am |
quoting imenyo What makes human being differ from animals? It's because we have spiritual pursuit. i am sure many animals desire happiness
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4/3/2012 3:36 pm |
Love is sharing and caring. To love requires confidence to show your intention openly. Love means you are willing to give something of yourself without demanding any return. When people have excessive monies, abuse of the natural order of interaction becomes apparent. Love is not to be bought or sold. If you want philosophy, listen to John Lennon's song "Imagine", he spoke of love in reality, not love in fantasy land.
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4/3/2012 3:13 pm |
You know peoples, people's, it is just such a shame that our increasingly modern developed society is built upon how to economize, which now they call "rationalization of the workforce". Basically when people are financially desperate, they will do anything for love, as love is the greatest healer. When society and welfare resources are balanced, then peoples treat each other without injustice or false claims to superiority.
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3/27/2012 2:26 pm |
I'm sorry and I usually don't comment, but when I saw the "station in life", I was offended. I am sure you didn't mean it in a demeaning way but it stuck out like a sore thumb. I have been fortunate in my life but I have never thought of myself as above someone else and I despise when I see it happen. As I said before, I am sure you meant nothing by it, but it caught my eye. Enuff said
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most people including many young people look for far more than sx, but many times people settle for just the sx and good friendship, as their guard against investing too much of their emotional selves. Many men as well as women, when they get older, they may well seek the depth of companionship above just indulging for the thrill of a moment. I've told many women if it came to a matter of sx vs friendship, I'd rather have the friendship rather than a quick piece that may result to destroy the friendships if the desires are unmatched.. then it is best always to opt for the friendship. there have been many women I'd like to hook them up, but if I think it will become a destruction point to friendship, then I simply don't pursue the hook up aspect. Not everyone is in the mind-frame to deal with sx on a casual un committed basis. but there are men and women who can reach agreements where they have a friends with benefits and when the hook up stops, they are still able to be friends. It certainly is always and must always be an individual thing, because people know best what works best for them. I don't think anyone should lie to anyone for sx, because if it is not done with mutual desire, mutual appreciation and certainly mutual consent, then I wonder why would anyone do it.. I have never wanted to be with a woman who did not have her own motivation to engage...in "things". there are many women who won't 'hook up with guys", because they know they won't be able to just enjoy the sx, because they are afraid he will try to make it more than it is, or degrade them if she lets him know that it is only sx and not a relationship commitment. the funny thing about it, women will bang each other, and both know it is purely sx, but some women also think its purely sx and find out the other woman is trying to make it something else, sometimes those women become like the worst of enemies.. because the one that wants to make it more will not accept the other woman not wanting to make it more and those situations can become very vicious. I'm sure the same thing probably happens with guys who do other guys... There is no ways to deal with sx except in honest terms... anything short of that it will be a problem and can make very big problems in the peoples interactions.
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All that might be true, but sex is still the biggest business across the globe, and it is still the most utilized depiction used to sell everything from dish liquid to new cars.. songs talk about making love, then they talk about love, movies show images of making love and then it shows the elements of relations and lead back to making love. No sx might not be the most of relationships as many claim.. but the minute the sx is not satisfying people will abandon everything else about relationships. the minute on person has sx with another one will dump the other as if nothing else in the whole of their relationship matter. some may say it is a trust elements, but the thing that sticks in peoples mind is not so much the trust, but the anguish of their ideas about their mate engaging someone else. every show we see of women saying what they like about the man, starts off with how handsome they think he is, and the same is true for men as well.. but when we talk about things, people like to say these things don't matter, and they may well matter less when people develop relationships, but often times they matter so much that people push away potential relationships if they don't get the hots for someone.
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I do think women in general should be careful; in some ways women must certainly guard against unwanted and unplanned pregnancy... but also because there are too many situation where guys have brutalized women, because there are a lot of sick minded people out in the world. It probably is best for a woman, to at least have some basis to understand who the man is and what his over all motivations are all about. It's really a sad thing in the world, that adults can't simply communicate and respectfully connect and engage in their wants without a high level of guard being involved. but that is the world we live within.
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I enjoy giving people the benefit of doubt as well.. but  we still have to look beyond the mask and the costume, both the attire type f costume and the personality presentation costume. and what we find is the real character...of the individual, then we get true measure of their integrity as an individual.I've seen people who do a variety of jobs that may not be socially popular on the acceptability stage of some parts of society. But, there are many who are genuinely good people.. some just like doing what they are doing, and some go for the money and remain with a internal detachment to others by many ruses and means. Many women like to read men by what they see, and they will put on a show based on how think that particular mans wants to see them.We've all seen much that people do and much that people will do... It does not negate us from giving people the benefit of doubt.. but we still have to be mindful not to let our infatuated appreciations blind us when variables present what it presents. One thing I like about some women who work in various parts of the sx business, is they will talk openly, and they don't hide behind the claim of being non sxually motiavted.. I don't personally like when women act like they are so non sxual.. that does not means she has to act like a hooker nor a saint. just cut the crap when the conversation discusses sx, because it certainly is not a subject she is unaware of what it means and what its all about. Those women who are quick to claim themselves so non sxual, will also lie about a lot of other stuff too, all in the aim to try and pretend to be so non sxual.. Each person simply talk to each other as human beings who have a reality regard for and with life, and they don't have to play the pretend of trying to deny they are equally so human beings who have sxual organs and a reality of being aware of it, as well as knowing what points of reality that sx is in the scope of living and life. We can see the best in anyone, and if they are generally a good person, then being equally so a person who does not lie to themselves about sx is as much a part of being a good person. Many women like self delusions, to pretend they are shocked to realize someone has a sxual attractions.. but if she has a sxual attraction for someone, then she feels its all ok... and many will get angry if the man does not then act like he has a sxual attraction for her equally so. Being pretty only means one is pretty, but pretty does not mean honest nor does it mean a lot of thing we as people often attach to it. Its just how people look.
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Woaini... I don't buy it that these women are working and sending their money home to some man... women will say anything, just as you said, they are trying to keep men in general from thinking little of them.. and they know telling an American man they are married back home and they are doing something honorable such as sending the money to support some man back home.. Is just not even remotely realistic. Now they may help their parents, but they are not sending money to support a man back home. some women work in these parlors because they like the work, they can play and do what they want, get money and buy what they want, so why would they need to date anyone, when they can do all the 'banging' they want to do in the line of work and get paid at the same time. Most western men who are interested in dating a Chinese woman are interested in meeting a lady of culture and refinement. let's not get into any delusion here, because Chinese women as with any woman from any place is not all of some refinement or what ever that is to mean. There are many who are not unlike women any other place. there are many parts of LA where the Asian women are all about material status, designer name tags and every other status thing any other women gets tripped out over. I think if a person want to choose any woman, be it a black women, white woman, Chinese woman, Japanese women, Middle Eastern women, or etc... it is the woman he choose as an individual... yes, people like particular looks of individuals, and they may like the manners of various women.. but to tag any culture as being exclusively refined above another just is not reality. Because women of consideration can be found among any culture and ethnic group... it is all still about the individual. Now there are cultural norms that are part of various ethnic groups, but it is not something that is a generic across the board, because each household has a different take on how they interpret their culture as well as how they interpret what are considered traditions. In Asian cultures, massage parlors are as common as ice cream shops is in America.. So they don't always view it the same as Americans do to work in these parlors. Just as there are many different view points about sex across cultures and certainly within cultures there is a vast spectrum of how people interpret sx.... as to what is a considered options in how it is dealt with. Asian women like sx as much as any other woman from any other cultures.. and every women from any cultures know how to market her sx if that is what she wants to do. sometime it can be the person as a individual whom one least suspects, because we see it every day.. of people least expected to do something, are the ones that may be prone to do stuff.. this is the very reason people like Madoff and others could steal peoples money.. because they were considered so above such ... In America society, white people in general are least suspect for a variety of criminal things, because of media and folklore depictions, but you see mass murdering, child molesting, robbery, killing for insurance and many other things.. they did a study in Los Angles by a group, who had a black man in a suit and tie to go into a large office building, he was immediately stopped and asked if they could help him and who did he want to see. Then they had a white man in a suit come in and walk right past the desk and went into a controlled areas and no one asked him anything. so... not slamming you, but Asian or non Asian, the women still has to be dealt with as a individual .. the delusion of them looking innocent is a western and maybe a global delusion.. the look does not imply innocence, it implies that is how their cultural appears is.. they look younger than they are up to the age of maybe 40=, but by the time many are a bit over 40 they show age and some times it escalates fast between 40 and 55... how and why who knows.. Each cultures has a variety of interesting things within how they age. young white girls are very pretty, but as they get older they can change very rapidly, some black girls may not be all so pretty when they are young, but they get prettier as they get nearly their 30's ... and some do not show age as much as they get older. The mix of how the human being is in the span of life is very interesting.
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Today the music, the commercials, the print advertisement, the entertainers and the general climate of society is all promoting and selling sex.. Everything is geared around the push of sex sells... it is a global function in todays society... homosexuality is promoted like the latest lollipop... and every kind of sex availability is pushed like cotton candy at the circus... Everything is about selling luxury, sex and chasing the lure of a delusional good time, that often turns into a nightmare for many, beyond their worst nighttime dream. the game of sex is pushed more than the over excessive volume of stocks being traded every day.... people today in many ways see each other as objects, and that immediately goes to seeking a selfish quest to feed fragile egos... One simply has to be discerning of what they choose, because not much will change, because sex and money and power that is derived from both sex bartering and money flaunting is what the society across the globe seems to focus upon... It's not just foreigners in foreign lands, it is the people in every land, that today has a very different view of life, and sex become the mass novelty point for many and when they are not with some level of sxual motivation, people began to claim they are depressed and some go into trips claiming they are not desired because they are not being pursued... so its'a catch 22... either way you flip it ...
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