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Those people we met in our lives I had a nap this afternoon and woke up from a weird dream. There were so many people in the dream gotten into a mess. The one I loved first, the one I ever loved so much... As time passes by, some people who were ever around us had disappeared in the river of time, even if you thought how important they were at that time, even if you thought how you could live without them. But the fact was that you have been alive, no matter living well or having a tough time. Time is a magician, changes many things that you ever thought were impossible. And when you thought you had completely thrown them behind your back, they suddenly came into your dream, reminded you their existences. Sometimes, what we are afraid is not that life is forgotten by us, but we are forgotten by life. I leave no trace of wings in the air, but I am glad I have had my flight. ---- Rabindranath Tagore |
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I was too young to be reluctant to leave even a little bit of concern from others. I had an unhappy childhood which was caused by my parents' broken relationship. And the middle school I studied in was the best one in local county, that the style was very rigorous. After the secret was revealed, I got very harsh criticism from my teacher, suddenly turned into a bad girl from a good student in the eyes of my classmates. No one dared to make friends with me. The rest of the time in my middle school I was lonely. What's more, another influence this matter brought to me was that I gave up to be a teacher after I graduated from a normal university, because when I thought of the incorrect treatment I got from my middle school teacher, I did realize that being a good teacher, only teaching students the knowledge of the textbooks is far less enough, teaching them how to be a good person with correct guidance is equally important. I thought I was too young to be qualified for it. I am now recalling this, is neither for complaint nor feeling regret. It's all over. As you said, It's probably a phase of growing... that builds these attractions. although some never get beyond these phases... I am glad I didn't fall down during the phase. Actually when I look back my life, I am grateful for all I have experienced, because they make me what I am today. It's sad that anyone would make hardships on a child based on the parents of the child separating. It has nothing to do with the concern to respect the child as a individual. this may even be more reason to be a teacher, to insure that you establish a standard that no child in your class will be treated different because of the status of their parents relationship... Sadly, there are ignorant people who create elitist status measurements about things that have nothing to do with their position or role in performing their job. These teachers in your middle school were lacking in the most basic element, and that is respect of the individual as person and as individual. that level of ignorance became more of factor than the role they signed up for, which was to teach the less and treat the student as a individual person, and teach the student to treat others as individual person.
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Thank you, TAKE5OR10
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A woman I knew in LA, recently called me. I liked her a lot and thought her to have some very good personality and character elements. During the time she had a boy friends, so it never became anything other than friends, it was somewhat interesting. I actually enjoying giving her things and doing stuff for her. I helped her secure better positions, ( she was capable and smart), she was pretty to look at, and had a wonderful smile. she had a son, and being a young women she took good concerns to look after his needs. She is now married to the guy she was with, they have two daughters, and she told me, she really appreciated the many years of our friendship, I became good friends with her entire family including her now husband. She told me that she keeps her girls busy, because she don't want them trying to rely on their looks, or clothes and stuff and get hung up on superficial things. she enrolls them in programs and classes, and her Son is now in college, He recently traveled to Japan...for the summer. She had enrolled herself in college while her Son was in school and during the first years of a little girls growing. She does not work now, but says that her main job is to insure that she is there for her girls and she is present at their programs and class events. She speaks very highly of her husband and she host exchange students at her home. I am pleased, because all the wonderful things I though were a part of her, is actually blossoming in her life. One thing I did notice, she and her mother were very tight. Even when her boyfriend was buying and remodeling her home, she stayed with her family and he mostly stayed there too, They now stay at their remodeled home, but they are frequently at her parents home. They use to invite me to everything they would have at their home. They are a Latin Family... I had some similar relations with various Filipino women and men, who became very close and they were always very gracious and they'd get very upset if they had an event at their home if I did not show up. My neighbor who was Cambodian, was equally as good in being friends and we shared many talks about many things. His daughters were in college and his wife helped with the business as equal partners... It's always interesting the people we meet, how they become value points in our lives and we become equally so in their lives. These connections endure. and in the end, its all about the simplicity of "appreciations", respect and considerations.... It certainly enriches ones life. I have a wide range of people whom I knew over the many years in LA, and it has proven to be links that are important in the overall of simply living and relations well with people and building friendships. .
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Hey, beautifulkayra! Thank you for sharing your thoughs. You are a lucky and grateful girl. That's so nice. I just have a question, haven't you ever met a bad guy and gotten hurt because of him in a certain period of your life?  They say, a woman won't like a man if he is not bad. I did the silly thing a long time ago. Let me tell you a secret, I am a bad girl . When I was in my middle school, I liked a bad guy in my class. Everyone knew he was a bad guy and I was an excellent student, but I just liked him, and of course got hurt finally and it influenced me that I didn't have the courage to fall in love with others until I graduated from university. He surely was the first one I loved but we had not met each other for many years after I finished my middle school. Until a couple of years ago, I saw him in a reunion party of middle school's classmates, and talked for a while, and I thought, how come I liked such a bad guy so much at that time? Can't understand how stupid I was. Have a nice day, too. I think this is something many women, is the like of the 'bad guy".. He represents everything girls are taught about boys, that he is rough, tough and somewhat of a rebel... It signals independence, something women are not taught as girls in a strong sense of teaching. He also represents an absence of limits, as well as he is willing to go beyond the taboo constrictions. and he is appears to be less likely to be judgmental to the point of judgements limiting what the woman can freely do and still not feel held in check. Young women are often very daring behind the imagery that the family expects her to uphold, they are often much meaner in spirit to want to do something different and even rule breaking, if it can be done without great damage to the public image. It's like young guys, they want the fast paced pretty girl who is energetic and somewhat flippant .... and after he gets burned in the mid teens or in the early 20's he then starts to look at women with a different concept, then he is looking for that caring girl who shows compassion and is less flippant. It's probably a phase of growing... that builds these attractions. although some never get beyond these phases...
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