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Love is Fickle Love is a byproduct of sacrifice, pain, selflessness, discipline, and trust. It takes great character to be in Love. And Love always goes on vacation in a marriage or relationship. There are simply times where you can't stand the other person. But these feeling fade because the solid reasons why you loved that person to come back. And if they don't...that should tell you something. But don't expect to have that fluttery feeling for the rest of your life. Don't be disappointed when love changes or flees your relationship. Work hard, be patient, it'll come back! |
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sometimes at the points we can't stand the other person, there may be thoughts, feelings, ideals and expectations within ourselves, we may better let lie down and let rest, then we may be able to see the other person more clearly as well as we may become to see ourselves in a broader sense. for every condition we place upon others, that condition is also place upon ourselves, and sometimes we become the ones who must break past or reconcile the condition within ourselves. the challenge is in knowing and yet learning to know more of one's self, which is something often times we fight, because what we feel we know of ourselves is greatly connected to many values we hold and many values we are not sure of how we hold them or what we are holding them for. Love is 'learning" and not gains of any sorts come with only bliss, some come with blisters of many sorts, which means we will sweat and toil and we will have to hoe the weeds and rake the leaves ... those who claim their love exist without work, may find that their love is trying to contain itself in a fantasy, and they fade apart wondering how did it happen. Love is: broader than all we know and conceive of our living experiences, because it is filled with all the experience we are yet to live. What we might be better to seek aim, is to be aware, pay attention and learn how to respect, that we may then be open to understand, which paves the ways for us to renew constantly our appreciations. We often miss the beauty within relating by being consumed by the selective consumption with only external attractions and distractions, which many times, can block us from seeing what there is to be seen. some rely on tricks, schemes, deception and self delusions, and wake up to wonder how did they choose the things they have been choosing. All sure fire tricks, are guaranteed to do one thing ~ and that is: 'Backfire". and when they do, there's usually smut all over the place that has to be cleaned, just to get things back to a point to be clean. Most people are not up to do the work required to clean up their 'Backfired up" situations. some their vain pride is too over dominating, and their pride in loving is far too weak. they become shattered within themselves, and sling blame every place imaginable, except to assume some responsibility and get busy with the work of cleaning up the smut. This is the point many dump one and go looking for another. Lazy love and fearful hearts is the downfall of many. “Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” Albert Einstein Love is - powerful beyond our concepts of power.... our vain concepts of power is rooted in weakness.. Love's power is built upon truth's labors.
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Einstein is s3xy. Smart men are s3xy. Nicely put Beyond. Sometime, there are people who uses deception or untruthfulness to gain others acceptance. Maybe in fear of rejection but its a way for them to attract a potential mate. But they can't put up a false pretense for the rest of their life. Eventually, the jig will be up. Unfortunately, when things go wrong or things catch up with them, they are the first to look for other people's imperfections and laid the blame game. People should take responsibility for their actions. A relationship need both sides to work to maintain. You can't always be the "giver" or the "taker" in the relationship. It's easy to leave when s##t happens. It's a coward's way out. What they don't realise, they may have a backup plan out but they take the problem with them to another relationship. If you can't fix and re-build the relationship, you won't have a lasting one. Same problem will persist in future relationship. If two people work together to work things out, they tend to grow closer through the hardship. A relationship take time to build. Trust grows in a relationship over time when two people spend time together you built knowledge, understanding, and authenticity. You gain insight into the person's character, needs, fears, and motivation. Why is it when someone ask for time to get to know someone in the beginning of a relationship, people get turned off by it? This is a way to weed out the ones who are not genuine. People are so eager to enter into a relationship. In the end, they are eager to leave and move on to someone else. God doesn't drop a perfect relationship in your lap. He give you the opportunity to work for one. you've stated a great deal, but many fear the work it takes, and many are weak when it comes to the labors within those works. and many want the joys without the work it takes to pave the way for those joys, nor do they want the labors it takes to keep the pathway cleared that they may travel back and forth to share those joys.. unfortunately, people want to "fall" in love, and rebuke the opportunity to "grow in love". How is it we in life 'fear falling', but expect to 'fall in love'.,.. but all of life say's take pride in growing, but we detest the concept and work to 'grow in love"... We live by the process that breeds discord, rather than embrace the process that assures loves can live and grow. If we don't learn the difference between the results of the evils of the world, then we will fail to choose the methods which bring the grace and sustain the love in the world.
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People have despair when things go wrong. It is the one thing we shouldn't have. Often when there are issues, the first thought people have is "What is going to happen to me?" We should have faith in the one you love and that things will eventually be okay. When two people both work toward something, things may turn toward your favor. Strangely, things usually work out in the end. Where as in despair, you have more chaos. You panic and do more damage. then we fight and make reasons to continue the fight until our pride becomes bigger than our will and want to find the joys of resolve.
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