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Love is largely misrepresented in our society We equate Love with Excitement. When we're little, mom and dad give us toys and say "Be happy!" So we are. We equate their love with getting something shiny and new. Guess what, that doesn't work in a relationship or marriage. In fact, shiny and new are two of the very first things to go. In our consumption, consumer, "me-first" society, we want love to be all about ourselves, our happiness, our self satisfaction. That's not Love at all! That's called childishness! Rather, Love is defined by the lengths you will go for OTHERS. This often means self sacrifice. So parents who try to keep their happy with "stuff" are amazed when they have a string of broken relationships later on. The misrepresent Love with having a new partner. Excitement = Love, right? Nope. Not even close. And we unfortunately have given every emotion connected with others some amount of the definition of Love. For instance, Infatuation is not Love. But many people regard it as a herald of Love. Then the infatuation wears off and they feel like they've fallen "out of Love", which they never were in to begin with. How about Ho?niness? The want to have s3x is not Love. It's hormones. Remember, the human race doesn't need Love to multiply. And boys and girls are often swayed into thinking they're in Love, when it's really s3x chemicals in the bloodstream. So how do you know that you are in Love? Basically, it comes from an instant concern for the other person with little or no regard for yourself. Most mothers love their little babies. Their concern is strictly for the baby. Not any of it for themselves. It's this kind of emotion that accurately reflects Love. That's why Love is one of the most precious things on the planet. |
