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What constitute a healthy relationship? I think the it is important to find someone with whom you are compatible with first. A truly healthy relationship will consist of both partners who are interested in learning and expanding a relationship so that it continues to improve. Most people argue to be "right" about something. Having a healthy relationship means that you have your experience, and your partner has his or her experience, and you learn to love and share and learn from those experiences. If you can't reach any mutual agreement, that doesn't mean either of you is wrong or bad, it only means you don't suit each other. When both are compatible, the mutual agreement are reachable. The things you do for your partner must always be done because you chose to do them and you wanted to do them. Do not hold your "good deeds" over their head at a later time. Keeping score in a relationship will never work. A person is less likely to notice and value all the contributions of their partner as much as their own. Many people are taught to lie to protect someone's feelings, either their own or those of their partner. Lies create disconnection between you and your relationship, even if your partner never finds out about it. Tell your true feelings; your partner can argue about anything that happens outside of you, but he or she cannot deny your feelings. Do not expect anyone to be responsible for your happiness. You are responsible for your own happiness. Take good care of yourself first before entering in any relationship. Some people are unhappy with themselves or their lives. If they can't make themselves happy, they shouldn't expect others to. Finally, letting go the past and focusing on the present, forgive each other. These are just some I can think of. I am sure there are more. What are your thoughts? |
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I like to be right and I will debate the point to try to get you to see why. If however in the course of the debate, you demonstrate a better position or can show why I may be wrong, I am quite happy to accept that. That does not mean that I am a pushover Good point and I agree. as to the thought about balance.. 60-40 makes 100, 30-70 makes 100 and 50-50 makes 100 and in some cases 90-10 or 10-90 each respectively makes 100.. so when people say balance, there will always be the reciprocation of one giving more than the others, but as long as it comes out to 100 which benefits both of them, then that is what works.. Many of our problem(s) today, is we want instant 50-50, based on what we 'expect', without being satisfied with what we can give and share.. we are looking too quickly for instant reciprocation. the sad part is we have a pre-determined expectations as to what should be reciprocate and how it should be reciporicated and then we want to demand when it should be reciporicated.
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