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Mandatory minimum age requirement for marriage I think there needs to be a mandatory minimum age before people are allowed to marry each other. Guys shouldn't be allowed to marry until they are at least 35 and girls shouldn't be allowed until they are at least 26. I only suggest this for 2 reasons. First reason is that maybe it would slow down the population growth of man and second, it would most definitely decrease the number of divorces and broken homes. In today's world marriage isn't serving the same purpose it was designed for. Yes, marriage was a man made ceremony to join a man and a women not for the purpose of love, but for power. One family joining another family. It served a purpose then. Today, it may still serve that same purpose but not often do you see a husband and a wife who never knew each other or fell in love before the married each other. I understand some countries still practice this tradition, but very few. Today we meet on-line and fall in love hundreds of times it feels like. When we are younger and are youthful hormones are overpowering us we make rash decisions. We think we will never find another to love if we lose the one we have. Well, as time goes on we love and experience lose. We get back up off the ground and we learn to walk again, and boom!. We fall in love and lose again. This happens time and time again. Getting married too young with all these temptations surrounding us is a recipe for disaster. Its the born to these young couples that suffer because over 605 of them end in divorce. All this accesses via on line chat is way too easy. There is always someone out there who will better suite my needs. Its like being a spoiled . gets to pick from any toy in the store because his dad owns the store. So he picks and as soon as he gets alittle board he throws it away and picks another because he can. Never has to worry about not having because all there is is chances to have more and maybe better if he is board. Never sticking with it to see if there are new ways to make the same toy fun. Well, love is truly a sacrifice. It is giving when you just don't have another drop to give. Its accepting even though its hard. Its about never throwing it away because you can. Its about committing. These things just cant be understood in the younger generations because they need to live and experience more before they make that choice that is only supposed to be made once! |
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I don't think they should be older, but younger... If you ever watch teen love, they are some of them, deeply into each other, they are at a time in their lives when they are without certain responsibilities. So they have time to LEARN EACH OTHER. Beside, the children don't end up with too much of an age gap or with parents who are too old to do things with them, and they get to know their grandparents and possibly their great grand parents. people already wait too long, and try and develop too many schemes and tricks. and become jaded in ways that breed nothing but criteria and expectations and each come off like they are owed something. Young people are open to learn life together. the big issue, if Parents, if they stop making their kids think life is all about 'shopping' and playing dating merry go round games. all people tell young people is go out and try this person or that person.. when the point they should be learning is how to be honest with themselves and how to communicate with others. We've seen over the past 50-60 plus year, nothing but shop-a-holic grooming, and parents who are so busy thinking they missed something, until they feed that crap to the young people. Most of it is because the parents resent having responsibility, because no one ever taught them how to embrace responsibility, but there is much teaching about how to try and run from it and avoid it. but responsibility is what distinguished an adult from a child. and too many parents want to re-live their youth through their offspring's. We have all these people in their late 30's producing downs syndrome kids and kids that are too fragile to go outside and play in the sunshine. Societies problem is the material standard that people chase, and advertisers know the vanity of people so they insure that no one is ever satisfied with anything, and then they put these make beleive commercials,. TV shows paint teens as concerned about nothing but temp and tease and play the sex game playing tart with a sarcastic flip lip. employers don't want to give them jobs, and the college game it set up to delay their ability to be respected as a human being, even if they have a child to support. The HR people play into this madness, when fact is, no woman who has a child should be ineligible to get a job based on age, because age does not matter when she has a child to feed and house. the same is so for the young men, many of them would step up if someone would hire them to do some of the jobs that exist. Most jobs don't require a degree.. they require simply explaining to someone what you want done. too much is about what neighborhood one lives, what kind of car, what label is on their clothes and everything else that takes the focus from self development as a person of dignity and integrity in the humane regards of life. Today, people tell younger women to go out and be the sex toy until she is past 35, and then they bombard her with a million delusions to insure that she remains insecure and thinking she has to go out in search of external stimulation. Much of society today has trained women to live like a commodity, and barter sx as if her whole life is measured and dependent on it. We have one segment of society that tries to tell women that she can be everything all at once, including trying to convince her that she can be a man too.. So today you have so many homosexually inclined females, because they think they are not living unless she includes chasing women in her life program. We got young males thinking he has to pay her, that he has to have all this material stuff and that he is not even a person unless he can support a shop till you drop waste money type of program. God made life simple... you don't need a degree nor a status title to bring a life into the world... and if people get over the delusion that they have to have every new model gadget, they might learn to be thankful for the current model they may have. There's a great many things we as people must consider. In some circles, society tries to teach women to hate sx with a man, and then they try and teach her to turn it into a gambit game of selfish delusion chasing.
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There are other things to consider in the over all.. For example, countries that have a history of selling off the girls babies or young females; or the families that look to utilize the female to pursue a wealthy man as a means to enrich the family line. This may have a lot to do with some of the motivations of women from some places. Because in such situations the women are groomed to look for wealth before love, and hope that along with the wealth comes love. In the locations that seek to use the females to enrich the family, those situation groom the woman not to care so much about love, but morso about the economic means of the man... Maybe some of the women in some of these web sites may have been groomed under these influences. They are taught to pretend to be loving, but that is for the sake of securing connectivity to the wealth or economic aims. some women many not even give it a second thought, because that is what they have been taught. some have it ingrained in a way, that it becomes not only an objective aim, but a duty... because the parents will based their considerations of the female on whether or not she attracts and attaches herself to economic means or wealth. Maybe that is why some of the women in these sites, forgo the honesty of love, but choose to play the 'let's pretend to being loving, to connect to the economic means or the wealth. it' not the western general average person format, so maybe, just maybe the western male does not know understand this scenario of influences that may have been ingrained in some of the women they meet...
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