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Do you believe in love？ I have experienced the frustration of marriage, a man of deceit and betrayal that I suffered great harm, when I was young, pure and naive, I divorced. This hurt, let me to doubt the love, fear of family life. From then on, I closed my heart, my love, I no longer love, don't wanna get married, I fear marriage, afraid to hurt again. I put all my energy into work. I no longer love and happy marriage life, I work hard to his paralysis. So one day in the past, I refused countless men and the pursuit of love. I adhere to the single life, I think the single life is the most happy, relaxed. Will not be any harm. The flight of time, my life one day disappear. Until one day, my friends remind me, not the punishment, refused to love, not the life of a person, must have a good woman will have a good man is waiting for you... I looked at my life, understand, a person's life is not so much trouble and hurt, however, that life is not complete without health. My heart has the love, I need love. A man is not good, not equal to man in the world is not good! Why not give yourself a chance to love again? Why not give the other man once loved my chances?.... Love is a great feeling, a basic requirement for human survival. As long as you dare to pursue love, accept the love of others, you'll get love. We no matter what setbacks, both suffered what hurt, love is great, love is forever. He will give their power and wisdom, make you brave to face all the difficulties. I finally stood up, I came here, looking for love and be loved, to find that I love, and give my all the man as he. Love really so difficult? I think, as long as we have love in our heart, love will befall you; if not love your heart, then you can't get love. Let each of us, with your true heart, looking for the beautiful love and be loved! Do you believe in love, love will come! |
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good point and message... why its harder for women to get over their grudges at what they expected or what may have happened is something each woman has to mature and deal with in herself. Sadly, women develop grudges, at a man, and try and label and blame all men, that is the most unreasonable and illogical thing ever imaginable, but it is so common in woman that its almost absurd,.... because no relationship goes bad by the acts of one person, it is always two people involved in making it as well as two people are involved in breaking it. The first thing of growth is to accept ones own faults and acknowledge what one has learned about themselves, but sadly too many people men and women, focus too much on blaming someone else, when that is evident they themselves have not faced their own issues within the relationship. What many have to learn is, the relationship is not all about them, no matter how much they want to think it is, its about both people.... but until people learn that, they will hold a grudge and anguish, as if they assume themselves to have been or be perfect. Women know when they don't get their way, they throw attitudes, they climb up , they become inconsiderate and contentious, so why try to lay it all on the man,... equally so when men are either mistreated of feel he is being given inconsideration and meeting contentions, he is not going to sit there and take it forever.. then when he goes to find someone who does show him appreciation, he probably will leave and go to where he feels appreciated.. and not like someone is always demanding something of or from him. So it's a two way street, and being adults, it should never take us a lifetime to learn these simple things. The funny trippy part, is this is the exact information mothers will tell their kids, but then turn around and don't heed their own advice. Part because society has too frequently taught women, that she is some how the unspoken controller of the relationship, and that becomes the contribution down fall of many relationships.... We've all heard it a million times, it always starts out the same... "he did not do this,", " he did not give me this", "he did not treat me like this or that", and " he treated me mean",..... and for every time its uttered, if they look at their acts and actions in relation to that, they would find they have exactly as much fault as they claim he has. But simply have too much vanity and ego, to ever apologize and some have so much vain ego, they refuse to recognize any faults within how they conducted themselves in the relationship... they want to only see themselves as some illusionary goodness. but one fact is certain... age and loneliness will generally wake them up, but often it is very late that it does so, and generally they only wake up, when the suitors are no longer uttering flattery and they have to accept they are no longer the illusionary queen of being pursued. . Through paint people grow and learn to grow, except hose who choose bitterness, rather than acceptance of learning and healing . I use to watch some women, they were as nice as can be, until two or three more people hit on them, and wow!!! out comes the dragon, and they get the illusion they can dictate something, because they are being hit on by multiple suitors. What results often is, pretty face and shapely butt becomes its own form of curse, but only when the women fall for the self delusion that they are the grandest and most desired prize by many... they loose the ability to appreciate the one they are with. They think he owes her something just because she is with him, because she is too busy tripping about the options, that she can pay attention to the one of choice she has chosen. It happens everyday, all day all across the world. If only women would learn early what it is to be a "help mate", rather than thinking the man owes her something for simply being there and being a female. If they learn this early, they would not be quick to issue ultimatums, and throw tantrums and push attitudes and act distant when things don't go her self concerned way. Most know if a guy is a user, when they first get together, but the vain one that want to try and tame him, deludes herself, The same as a man who knows a woman is a temptress and he deludes himself that he can tame her..... these become fools playings foolish games and creating folly. It's really cazy, because people go to school and get their degree and their money and think it has or think it will make them supreme, but that is not what makes a relationship... what makes a relationship is being 'help mates", knowing how to not always think in contentious terms when they don't get their way, and to know how to not get bent out of shape by measuring everything expected as being the measure of care.... the wise learn to do for themselves and not have contempt because they had to do, but to learn how to do it and then be willing and self motivated to share it, once they get it done. But society did not groom women that way, unfortunately, when they have to do something themselves, the first thought and utterance is often... "well if I have to do it myself, why do I need a man".... that is so childish, the wise thought is, Thank God, I was able to do that, and now I have something more to share ..... But women don't think in those terms until its too late and the relationship has become destroyed. These same things happen to men as well.... As adults, we need to learn much about what the word sharing mean, and how deep the concept of sharing has to become rooted for a relationship to work and prosper. Sadly, people... are prone to being tempted.... both male and female... its the one who both learn how to deal with temptation where it does not become more important than their vested interest in each other. That's an ongoing challenge in the lives of many.
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Very interesting .... it is certainly a fact that some of the things women think about and focus on are most certainly in a very different perspective and focus than that of many men. As women often state to men in public , " we need protection , support , security and stability ......." ,which are all the additional offers men can provide , having nothing to do with a man itself This is a point and fact that some men come to learn far too late. for humor sake, I notice you did not say, 'a man, himself".... you said, "a man, itself".  as that implies he is a object selected to provide for her needs, and has nothing further to do with or about him except his ability to keep providing. .
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I have two female colleagues, a husband for a divorce. A married woman invited to single women as a playmate, went to her house to play cards and travel, they seem to be very good, a year, they often play together, and has always been a couple of entertainment. One day, the married female because she heard another girlfriend to remind her to be wary of single women: "you be careful Oh, she will not be destroy your family..." Married women and panic, and call the single women: "some people say you will destroy my family, we don't play together!" Single female very angry, feel that he has been framed and insult, it is wrong and grievances. So with the married female theory and mutual Jieduan, each other is very excited and lost control, hurt each other, as revenge. Two people from the beginning to the end, are not clear, what rumor is how come? What is the purpose? In fact, single women in addition to play with them, no damage to the family behavior and language, while married women never want to clear single women really do those things.. But they soon from friends become the opposite and rival. A friendship so soon ended.... This is the women's sorrow. Hear the gossip, without any analysis, more not clear investigation, is easily ignited the jealousy. The maintenance of family, to defend the love be without rebuke, but the conflict so naive, can let your friends and gladden enemies, it doesn't help the situation. ".
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Yes, I do believe in love. Do not give up... GOD saves the best one for you.. Be patience, and keep believing you will meet him someday  Good luck Yes, when my first step of looking for love, I believe, will find that belongs to my love, why do you think so? Because I understand a truth, that is, as long as you with a loving heart, you delivered will also be your love, no doubt, you get will be the love you crave! 尽管他不会是一帆风顺，但我坚信，只要我努力，我会得到的，会找到他的！ Although he is not everything is going smoothly., but I believe that, as long as I try, I will get, will find him!
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People say that women's friendships with the most sincere, because women can understand women. You don't have the time and energy into love, I can understand, and deep. Because of the divorce and hurt, let me pay the price of life! I doubt not married, marriage, their love is closed, rejected all suitors.. , just feel happy, single life free, no one can hurt yourself.. Thus, the busy work and life let me completely forget their own future, forget oneself also has the right to love and to be loved.. There is need to pursue a happy life... I choose to numb themselves, have been unable to awaken, did not know how to love, love is so important to a person! The integrity of a person's life is how important! The flight of time, the best time so inadvertently flow away... Gone for ever. When I finally was the social reality in those beautiful love again moved, friends persuade me to finally begin to think about this question..... I wake up, do not know this because that is not worth loving man wrong, punish yourself for a lifetime! This is so silly!... Change is inevitable, so the next step is how to realize their aspirations?... Give it a try, don't try not to try, how to know what will be the result? In this website, I meet a lot of people, the feeling is quite much, benefit not shallow... To tell you the truth, I don't know the man to understand men, would like you to do a man loves woman.. Oh, and, to me, is really a great turning point, I learned here all my life I have not learned, too, long experience, although my work let me reading countless people, but rather than income, it is a far cry from the. It is a big school, free school an excellent, self-taught "talent", ha ha! I was lucky I found this website. Feels so good! After talking about myself, I want to give you a bit of advice, don't have to work as we the only in life, in other words I do not want to say, just tell you, your happiness and life is the most important, is not the way to work. The work is always endless, but youth and age we are doing subtraction... This is my advice. Love yourself! For myself! A woman's life on their own!
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Love, the everlasting topic, though who knows him, but for me, the meaning and significance of his true, I'm beginning to start something.... This is very sad, shouldn't, but the wrong time, the wrong choice, the wrong cognition.. Let themselves time and time again refused to even abandoned to love and to be loved... Choose lonely survival condition. Fortunately, finally awakening, although late, but I still think I can catch the last bus?.... I hope you cherish, cherish the wonderful time, you cannot fool, because, with your own life cost. Envy you! So the youth, take care of yourself! Love yourself! To be worthy of its own woman!
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beautifulkayra，Thank you for your kindness and blessings. But this time you bet have lost, those pictures is my photo, no doubt. If you see me, may be better than photos. I can keep young, naturally my secret, that is the science of health and fitness. I can proudly tell you, tell each one of the female friends, I have never fallen into any non smell, especially family scandal girlfriend or boyfriend family gossip, not once, none. It should be said, with men's words, I am a very attractive woman, but is such a woman, no such right and wrong, no sex scandal, but with numerous male contact frequently, you may not believe it, but this is a fact! A fact that allow all doubt. I can even tell you the door, my work let me reading countless people, I have had frequent contact with different people, which of course has a lot of man, but men. Whether government officials, senior officials, or poor people. But, my work is often need me to tell them alone in a room, or even two people travel in a hotel, the room next door. Some people from the beginning of the work and the development of male and female friends, frequent contact with them, I can take one's ease, because of working reason, most of the time we are all alone. Such a condition has become the survival of normal, but no one has ever doubted the wife, on the contrary, they have special and I hope I can help to their husbands, place great hopes on me. Especially like I trust to me, asking me to go to their house and live from the heart... Never doubt me with their husbands, what affair.... How could you do this? I have only one word can explain all this, that I have always followed: behave; self-respect and self-discipline; selfless; open-minded; dare to do everything; sincere and polite behavior criterion, and I believe, who is not afraid to shadow inclined, this is the truth. I take a crystal heart people skills, personality and high transparency. This is I can change the basic elements of the trust each other. Well, nobody's perfect. People of non vegetation, ruthless? In the face of handsome men, beautiful women, and the working relationship and personality, ability to charm due to, who they know each other's affection.... However, I am very clear,, shouldn't you get can't get, don't think don't think, the friendship between men and women on the left of the window paper on the guardian of the pure, I absolutely can not let him break! If the paper windows broken, consequences be unbearable to contemplate, even friends do not have to do..! What is man? The most advanced behavior is the ability of self-control! An outstanding person must be a very strong self-control. It will help you step on any non, mire before stop!!
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11/24/2013 5:25 am |
beautifulkayra，Thank you for your kindness and blessings. But this time you bet have lost, those pictures is my photo, no doubt. If you see me, may be better than photos. I can keep young, naturally my secret, that is the science of health and fitness. I can proudly tell you, tell each one of the female friends, I have never fallen into any non smell, especially family scandal girlfriend or boyfriend family gossip, not once, none. It should be said, with men's words, I am a very attractive woman, but is such a woman, no such right and wrong, no sex scandal, but with numerous male contact frequently, you may not believe it, but this is a fact! A fact that allow all doubt. I can even tell you the door, my work let me reading countless people, I have had frequent contact with different people, which of course has a lot of man, but men. Whether government officials, senior officials, or poor people. But, my work is often need me to tell them alone in a room, or even two people travel in a hotel, the room next door. Some people from the beginning of the work and the development of male and female friends, frequent contact with them, I can take one's ease, because of working reason, most of the time we are all alone. Such a condition has become the survival of normal, but no one has ever doubted the wife, on the contrary, they have special and I hope I can help to their husbands, place great hopes on me. Especially like I trust to me, asking me to go to their house and live from the heart... Never doubt me with their husbands, what affair.... How could you do this? I have only one word can explain all this, that I have always followed: behave; self-respect and self-discipline; selfless; open-minded; dare to do everything; sincere and polite behavior criterion, and I believe, who is not afraid to shadow inclined, this is the truth. I take a crystal heart people skills, personality and high transparency. This is I can change the basic elements of the trust each other. Well, nobody's perfect. People of non vegetation, ruthless? In the face of handsome men, beautiful women, and the working relationship and personality, ability to charm due to, who they know each other's affection.... However, I am very clear,, shouldn't you get can't get, don't think don't think, the friendship between men and women on the left of the window paper on the guardian of the pure, I absolutely can not let him break! If the paper windows broken, consequences be unbearable to contemplate, even friends do not have to do..! What is man? The most advanced behavior is the ability of self-control! An outstanding person must be a very strong self-control. It will help you step on any non, mire before stop!!
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Nice facial features at age 67 !!!!!!!!
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Nice facial features at age 67 !!!!!!!!
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Sister, I totally believe you,You are an example of our women , you know how to communicate with men, At the same time, you will not have a bit of levity, you would do well to maintain a good image can not be blasphemy. Unlike some women, in their public blogs ，They are not shy with dirty jokes to seduce men,I think such a women is no self-respect, self-discipline. But now the problem is, many people don't respect yourself, lose yourself, spoil yourself, do not know what is the weight, for example, to seduce a married man, being third, betray hue seduce men lose, throw herself... , then, those easily obtain your person, how will think highly of you? Because you don't have a component! You can give your low self-esteem from! Then the woman, who fear that another woman snatched his sad woman, more poor, in her eyes, her husband is a mountain, so she does not understand, her man really is a mountain? Are all the women are so off her man? Her man is so appealing?... Fear itself, that she despises himself, no self-confidence, he was low in other women... Isn't it sad? Is this not to humiliate yourself what it is? Why doesn't she think her husband, in his heart a few pounds? Compared with other women, not have their own weight? ,,, miserable woman! Don't say what the values of self-reliance and so on, because whether a man or a woman, you are a person, should have their own dignity, the dignity is not others awarded to you, give you, but your own personality, is you give yourself! But nobody can take it away! You learn the knowledge, in the society, you are the one, you should know what you want to get along with everyone, with the participation of social activities, no doubt, you need to look in the mirror, not only to browse and examine their own image in the mirror, you should be more colleagues see other people, and you have to compare the differences you with other people, do so only one objective, not let you enjoy yourself, but to find their own shortcomings, timely improvement. Do a self-confident person, confident woman, difficult? The answer is not difficult.
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Envy has no place not at, at any time. He is the human eternal topic, because jealousy is a reflection of human nature. In the 5 minutes before, had made a two article about Putin, a male netizen is insanely jealous, immediately post said: "you marry him! Chinese man you don't like, you moved to Russia to live it!" Ha ha, laughably naive poor. Visible jealousy, not necessarily must have what direct carrier or medium occurs, if the heart is full of desires, narrow, prejudice and ignorance, any thing can be used as he is jealous of reason and carrier, he will envy the powerful, and try various devices to vent out, this narrow, impulsive behavior, it is the result of a person's personality defects. Therefore, we need to strengthen their self-cultivation, only need to listen to those people the true meaning of the teachings, and learn to behave, away from envy that let everyone dislike jealousy!!
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11/26/2013 1:15 am |
你好，pink,你没有写博客吧，你不是也批评过某个人的回帖没有什么内容，我也是这么觉得，到处对男人说：take care/ sleep well/ good night,要不就是贴些关于性的帖子，开些下流的性的玩笑，什么男人的装备也说得出，我的天，男人相互可以说，但一个女人乐此不疲参与到男人对话中讲这些轻薄的话，还是个穆斯林女人，未免太风骚了吧，完全颠覆我对穆斯林世界的想象，这是个什么女人？这女人就是太贱了吧，跟男人可以好好说话，犯得着这样勾引男人吗？你知道我说谁了吧，我的好妹妹，你先弄明白再说，好不好？我也是抒发我自己的怨气，不是对你。
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11/26/2013 2:43 am |
We should understand this basic truth, to be respected and respect, you first need to answer is, if you respect yourself? You're worthy of respect from others? But now the problem is, many people don't respect yourself, lose yourself, spoil yourself, do not know what is the weight, for example, to seduce a married man, being third, betray hue seduce men lose, throw herself... , then, those easily obtain your person, how will think highly of you? Because you don't have a component! You can give your low self-esteem from! Then the woman, who fear that another woman snatched his sad woman, more poor, in her eyes, her husband is a mountain, so she does not understand, her man really is a mountain? Are all the women are so off her man? Her man is so appealing?... Fear itself, that she despises himself, no self-confidence, he was low in other women... Isn't it sad? Is this not to humiliate yourself what it is? Why doesn't she think her husband, in his heart a few pounds? Compared with other women, not have their own weight? ,,, miserable woman! Don't say what the values of self-reliance and so on, because whether a man or a woman, you are a person, should have their own dignity, the dignity is not others awarded to you, give you, but your own personality, is you give yourself! But nobody can take it away! You learn the knowledge, in the society, you are the one, you should know what you want to get along with everyone, with the participation of social activities, no doubt, you need to look in the mirror, not only to browse and examine their own image in the mirror, you should be more colleagues see other people, and you have to compare the differences you with other people, do so only one objective, not let you enjoy yourself, but to find their own shortcomings, timely improvement. Do a self-confident person, confident woman, difficult? The answer is not difficult.
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sister,In the world of feelings, If there are three people in a relationship, some one must feel the emotion is not respected.There is an old saying: Chinese origin only new laugh, who hear old people cry.The old one has no choice,just Do a self-confident person, confident woman,difficult?The answer is not difficult. i believe you! There Chinese together, there will be scuffles broke out! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha! No wonder people say: the ugly Chinese. Grief. It is possible to use English clean point!!
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11/26/2013 8:54 am |
I read your post and I was confused. I knew who you meant. Now you continue to give blame and point your finger. You emailed me about your problem with your bf and asked for help, which I gave. Now you accuse me of seducing and betraying. I respect everyone here, as I want to be respected. I might joined the jokes, but its just for fun. Isnt it my right to do so? I don’t harm people nor betray friends, but join the joke? Are you pointing out your finger and judge me badly, just because I joined the jokes? wishing friends to have a good sleep and do take good care of their self? Now after all my good intentions and efforts to help you, you were telling people I am seducing men here? I've only said good things about you, didn’t even tell your bf that you talked bad about him on your emails to me. But it seems not to be the same from you. Never in my life, I fight with other women just for a guy, It's not in my character at all. I hope our men friends could share here if they think I seduce them. Frankly speaking, your emails made me think. Your insecurity now has included me? Take my advise, instead of emailing people, and accusing me of seducing your bf, communicate better with your bf. Try to respect yourself, because then you would be able to respect others. As a teacher, don’t u know it already ? If not, then it’s time for you to learn. Lawrence Sterne once said,“ Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manner” And also, never mentioned any race or religion, because bad and good people are everywhere. It's something very basic and common in this world. Yet as a teacher you also don’t know about this? You asked me to help you and my good intentions of wanting to help did, only to be betrayed. Waiting for her period to come (or not to come) ... Mmm.....you do not need to worry... it will surely come... Unless she forgot to take the pill But nothing in life is 100%!? Sometimes you need to take a chance, even if it does take energy and may fail. At least that's my approach to life anyway. Yes, I would take the chance if the possibility to win is still there, even in a very small number of percentage Good night, sleep well kayra  am patiently waiting for the next chapter of life.The next chapter?? Life is truly mysterious, so we can only keep our fingers crossed and hope the future will unfold like a blossoming rose. Inshallah kois!
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I think the women here, need not pass judgments on each other.... I'm certain the guys participating here, respectfully appreciate each woman as an individual... it is not something that requires the women to be making insinuation about how each other communicates. We are all adults, we talk, we have humor, we have awareness of reality, we were not born yesterday and none of us in this web blogs is unaware of the human nature of sex and males and females in the realism of it all. It's time the women let go of the attacks on each other.. Misunderstanding exist.. and they will continue to exist from time to time... but geez.... don't let it destroy the potential to be friendly... Because we may all meet up on another blog post, and discuss a whole different set of things. Besides, if any woman or women want to seduce any men, they are adult women who can do so if they want to.... It's life!!!! its been reality since the beginning of man and woman.... existing.
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11/26/2013 7:15 pm |
@Trusty and Worldly, Thank you for believing in me and your good words. Greatly appreciate it .
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11/26/2013 8:06 pm |
Never in my life, have I said anything falsely. I do things sincerely. Same with what i did on my blogs, and treat my friends here. If you do not understand anything, wouldn't it be better if you ask rather than pointed out your finger and accused me wrongly and brutally for it? You even brought up my religion, which has nothing to do with it. Thank you for giving me a chance to see the real you. And now, don't ask me for favors.
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11/27/2013 12:09 am |
Both of you are gentlemen, don't blame the woman, But my feelings are hurt, it doesn't matter with her? i have no good comments for her.
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Please don't get involved in women's arguments because you guys never know women's world well . that's exactly why I did not get into the middle of who said what to whom, I simply said: I think the women here, need not pass judgments on each other.... I'm certain the guys participating here, respectfully appreciate each woman as an individual... it is not something that requires the women to be making insinuation about how each other communicates. We are all adults, we talk, we have humor, we have awareness of reality, we were not born yesterday and none of us in this web blogs is unaware of the human nature of sex and males and females in the realism of it all. It's time the women let go of the attacks on each other.. Misunderstanding exist.. and they will continue to exist from time to time... but geez.... don't let it destroy the potential to be friendly... As to women jealousies, I don't think anything is going to make that completely vanish from the world... Besides, I'm sure most of the guys here would not mind for any of the women participating to have some flirting involved, whether it is seductive or not.... it probably won't be something the guys will take as being a negative thing. Men enjoy to know they are appreciated and considered, and the best way for men to know this is for women to express it... by what ever is the means they INDIVIDUALLY want to express it.
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11/27/2013 5:37 am |
My good sister, you always did not understand the situation ,and then many conclusions were drawn, these conclusions are usually wrong,Only the parties know the truth. No matter what, thank you.
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11/27/2013 7:35 am |
that's exactly why I did not get into the middle of who said what to whom, I simply said: hi,beyondfatasty, Your position is neutral, woaini's is the same, so you are fair, thank you very much! Other men are involved, so what they say is unfair and not convincing.
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11/27/2013 4:06 pm |
In my eyes, Muslim women are pure, noble, holy. A woman in public, so keen to talk about sex, seduce men.Such behavior is surprising. I stated what regardless of skin color, religion. Someone wants to focus on skin color, religion, it is trying to change the subject.
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So... as the blog title is " Do you believe in Love" I think we all believe in Love, now what that ideology entails is of many things within many peoples concepts, but as with the human being, it become many things within many peoples actions. Belief in love is mixed with many things, and 'emotions" being one of them, seems to have many varying ranges of influences in not only how we apply or don't apply the elements of our ideals principles, it at time can and does bring people to, shift their position from time to time, and sometimes positional shifts go directly against the ideals imagery thus affecting the principle and how it is applied. This is why we have the tools of communication, but within it, we have the mindsets capability to use rationalization, unfortunately we can as people use rationalization for something, or against something. Unfortunately, at times that becomes impacted by the emotions and sometimes within the various emotional changes of the moment, we may find our-self in a quandary, working to try and get back to the ideals principle. This is where not only do we have need to employ patience, but also to open ourselves for broader understanding, and it may well require more effort to be understood. What comes then is the nature of 'temperament" we employ... is it at peace, is it anguished, is it anxious, is it uncertain... and etc..... To believe in love would encompass all of it, but as people, sadly and unfortunately, we are quick and frequent to dismiss the ideals of love and we are very prone to dismiss the ideal in direct aim at or unto another. Then we become to be driven with our wants to extract and even deny that love ever existed. Some even want to claim it was not this or that kind of love.. until we can convince ourselves to dis-associate the ideals of loves concept from being something we use in considering another. An we can do all this in the confines of our own mind. But... to achieve what we believe, we must embrace it within the mind, through our acts and actions, and hold fast within our considerations unto and onto the ideals principles... then we can honor the belief in love. It is a matter of this nature of "work".... because what is believed will continually require some levels of work to strengthen what is belief... or we may adversely work to discredit what we believe of the ideals of loves principles.. when we want to withdraw love from someone. Unfortunate as it is, we as people, are very much prone to let situational involvements diminish the basis of the principle, in some cases people may seek and some may even create situations which will be their benefactor unto their aim to withdraw love. but first and maybe even foremost, we may need to discern the spectrum of what is infatuation and what is love. they may work together, one may work independent of the other, and they may be alternated in which comes first. but we must know of what each is, and how it exist as to our ideal principles of what is love. Love is itself wise, it may lead many unto even more wisdom, and without the wisdom's infusing matrix, we may become consumed in the folly of emotions impact upon and within love, and take for granted the principles which can lead us to much folly. For those who believe in God.. or what ever may be your higher authority, . do we discount and discredit God /higher authority, when things don't go our way... or challenges come... No, conversely, we call more upon that belief and we seek to employ patience for that believe to connect us with God/ higher authorities ideal principles which our believe is built upon. so, of why? is our belief so weak when it comes to sustaining love with relations, within relation, among each other, and unto one from and unto another, and each-other? May we first understand our own fragility ? that we may then be more tolerant as well as motivated to strengthen our emotional selves, in dealing with what we consider to be our ideals principles as to what is Love. May we secondly, consider to understand, our own selfishness? as we come to learn that for love to be requite, we may have to consider much that exist outside of our emotional spectrum, to first perceive, and then to conceive that another has an emotional spectrum, they too, are dealing with. Is not communication a humane function means to reach an understanding within these respects. Then thirdly, of what place does love fit within honor ? Honor 1. high respect; esteem. distinction, recognition, privilege, glory, kudos, cachet, prestige, merit, credit; More importance, illustriousness, notability; respect, esteem, approbation "a mark of honor" antonyms: disgrace ~ a person or thing that brings credit. adherence to what is right or to a conventional standard of conduct. * synonyms: integrity, honesty, uprightness, ethics, morals, morality, principles, high principles, righteousness, high-mindedness; virtue, goodness, decency, probity, character, good character, scrupulousness, worth, fairness, justness, trustworthiness, reliability, dependability * antonyms: unscrupulousness, dishonor 2. a privilege. " synonyms: privilege, pleasure, pride, joy; More compliment, favor, distinction antonyms: shame synonyms: accolade, award, reward, prize,
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