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Love • sex A friend of mine, to marry a British man David, they once happy to China honeymoon, as a friend, I also received them. My girlfriend is very enthusiastic will introduce China beautiful scenery to David, she took him all over the beautiful rivers and mountains of the Chinese.. At that time, watching his girlfriend face filled with smile, and her unable to hide the excitement, passion.. I'm sure, they are very happy... Two years of time flew, I got the bad news: David put forward a divorce. The reason is that he has sexual function recession, can not continue normal sex. So, no passion without love, must divorce. She said she was very helpless, she had repeatedly to David said he did not mind whether sex, she love him, love him forever. She would not give up his,,. She want to be with him... However, David refused to accept, determined to divorce. Eventually they broke up,,,. This thing makes me very surprised..... : I know the East West cultural differences, but I don't understand is, did not have the function of both husband and wife can't live together? The original love is gone? So what is love? Sex to love? Without the ability to didn't love it? Then it can be inferred that love is just sex, sexual ability is love? This is the western view of love? David should divorce? This request Is it right? Correctly? It started so happy marriage, will end with the loss of ability, this is a tragedy? 
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I agree with you. Love and sex are different, although they are inseparable, has the close relation, but is still two concepts. Should not be confused. Loss of sexual function, completely regardless of and before the feelings, let people feel incredible. My girlfriend told me, when David sexual function recession, she did not complain him, not disheartened, she kept talking to David, that you don't mind, she repeatedly said he still loved david... However, David is very depressed, feel no face, and therefore started drinking... Home very late...
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You do not know what really happened there. You heard what she told you.. We all know many women lives with their husband although they have ED. I guess there were more than sex that made her husband dvc her. I maybe wrong ... She told me, David feel have no face very much depressed, just ask for a divorce. Depart from one's normal behavior and not a normal life. But I don't know, David is how to think? His family and his wife abandoned? Did they not love? From the beginning?...
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Well, yes, according to friends said, David is very self sad, he drank, drunk, night does not go home... Determined to divorce, no room. Love is gone. But I do know is, of the woman is very strong (they are all over 50 years old). But she stressed that she loved David, do not want to divorce, she has been doing efforts, and stressed that the don't care function. But David did not accept the. The question now is, a man who will care so much about their sexual function? But the function does not seem to be entirely dependent on subjective to determine his strong and weak.. People how to handle this kind of events is a relatively correct choice?
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I know many people who have poverty and they have truly devoted relationships and work together to deal with what they need to manage their lives. As to the ED.. what many may need to consider is, Prostrate Issues, Diabetic Issues can affect sxual function, equally so, in some people psychological issue may affect function. There can be heart and blood flow issue that affect it as well. What would a man or woman do after a situation where the man has to have prostrate surgery. There is not only the ED issue that comes about, it may regain some level to perform and in some cases it does not regain the level for intercourse. Yet, the man is still able to feel the sensation and have a climax, even in the case without the erection and without the excretion of semen. These are real life issues that affect millions upon millions of men, In many cases the prostrate enlarges with age, but there are many other things which can contribute to this particular area, and the medical choices are radiation and/or prostrate removal. Many many couples work with and through these changes, as well there are issues that women have which diminish their sxual function... When people are young these things don't generally become something they give much though or awareness unto, but time brings with it many things. Now whether those thing invoke a divorce, I don't know, but I'd think it would not be the leading cause for divorce. It may be a ready excuse for some who choose to use it as such for an excuse. Love is Love... I had a friend who's wife got Muscular Dystrophy, she lost the ability to do any things, it got to the point he had to bathe and feed her.. But during it all, he never lost his love for her, nor did he go out seeking to do other things, at one point she told him that she would not blame him if he did, but he did not. This couple use to go and do all sorts of things together. and during the many years I worked with this guy, no matter what he talked about, he'd always mention his wife, no matter what he planned to do, he always mention his wife. They were a couple who truly loved each other. When she died, it was a long time before he went out, he was not only working hard to bring himself to meet women, he was looking for a woman that was interested in a solid stable relationship. it may be wise for people to build their relationships on foundation far and beyond sex.... equally so, it is wise for people to build their integrity and character on things far and beyond sex. And certainly, to not measure ones self by sexual function, but the quality of character as a over-all person.
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I No doubt that poverty agree with the "and ED always make a man lose advantages in a marriage or love" I think a lot of man is happy to show off their functions and tools is how strong, he will take this as the honor, on the contrary, I also believe that, once their loss of sexual function or loss, he would feel depressed,,, in reality, the man of wealth is indeed very important, it is important to spiritual support man confident. In this paper the David, is really no money, plus the sexual function recession, will naturally lose and full of the sense of frustration on their confidence. This is a very real thing, happen in reality, rather than the story, written more than. Is completely described it. My girlfriend told me that. Of course, unless what she hide to me, is hidden behind the other? I don't know. But my intention, want to know, marriage, so the holy things, a man, because of sexual function recession and put forward a divorce? Whether love is the main theme of marriage or sexual? What do we mean by love? How to understand and look for?
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I know many people who have poverty and they have truly devoted relationships and work together to deal with what they need to manage their lives. As to the ED.. what many may need to consider is, Prostrate Issues, Diabetic Issues can affect sxual function, equally so, in some people psychological issue may affect function. There can be heart and blood flow issue that affect it as well. What would a man or woman do after a situation where the man has to have prostrate surgery. There is not only the ED issue that comes about, it may regain some level to perform and in some cases it does not regain the level for intercourse. Yet, the man is still able to feel the sensation and have a climax, even in the case without the erection and without the excretion of semen. These are real life issues that affect millions upon millions of men, In many cases the prostrate enlarges with age, but there are many other things which can contribute to this particular area, and the medical choices are radiation and/or prostrate removal. Many many couples work with and through these changes, as well there are issues that women have which diminish their sxual function... When people are young these things don't generally become something they give much though or awareness unto, but time brings with it many things. Now whether those thing invoke a divorce, I don't know, but I'd think it would not be the leading cause for divorce. It may be a ready excuse for some who choose to use it as such for an excuse. Love is Love... I had a friend who's wife got Muscular Dystrophy, she lost the ability to do any things, it got to the point he had to bathe and feed her.. But during it all, he never lost his love for her, nor did he go out seeking to do other things, at one point she told him that she would not blame him if he did, but he did not. This couple use to go and do all sorts of things together. and during the many years I worked with this guy, no matter what he talked about, he'd always mention his wife, no matter what he planned to do, he always mention his wife. They were a couple who truly loved each other. When she died, it was a long time before he went out, he was not only working hard to bring himself to meet women, he was looking for a woman that was interested in a solid stable relationship. it may be wise for people to build their relationships on foundation far and beyond sex.... equally so, it is wise for people to build their integrity and character on things far and beyond sex. And certainly, to not measure ones self by sexual function, but the quality of character as a over-all person. You describe the couple is very great, I very much agree with and admire and respect them, they tell people what is the true love, this is the true answer! How great and noble! True love is powerful, it can make people overcome all fear and difficulties, survive tenacious; He can make people break through the vulgar conception, beyond reality, to find a way out, will still retain the integrity of mutual love and affection and friendship! I believe that it is I admire and love is great and charm Is the power of love, he let people enduring pursuit of love, believe in love, with love to create beautiful things! I aspire to and the pursuit of it - true love
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What you say I agree with, as a man, at this point more persuasive, let me believe. Your assumption is reasonable. So, I have been very strange, how will this, although I repeatedly asked her there is no other reason, but she only told me so much. Maybe she didn't want to tell me or conceal the truth... But it is quite true.
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What you said is reasonable. Yes, I also thought, my girlfriend may not tell me the truth, she could hide the real reason, because I never heard him talk, so, my story may not complete or incomplete. I also hope that we together to discuss this question. I really want to know A man will divorce because of what? The man said to the woman: I love you This sentence is credible? Is that sure? If there is no sex There will be love?
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Probably the best and most resonant blog for me here so far! Thanks to all commenters and the originator of the thought! My thinking is: When I cannot satisfy her sexual desires, will I go crazy if she goes out to find someone who would? I probably would, like I believe the original Husband may have wanted to prevent by pushing away his lady, drinking and the divorce! If the wife wanted to seek sex outside of marriage, doesn't that act constitute adultery? Goes against wedding vows? I just wish this man would not have numbed himself drinking, and tried to identify ways to please her however she wanted to be pleased by HER MAN!
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