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That's an absurd statement.... When most of the Chinese women are quick to say, Chinese men look for younger women and then some of them even leave their wives so they can go after younger women... People should stop trying to make themselves come across as better than someone else. This is a bunch of crap thinking... Not only are men involved in Casual Sex, it would not happen if women were not EQUALLY participating.
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In every country, women outnumber men.... there must be some master process which is involved in this factoring ratio.... by the laws of nature, men can impregnate many women within a span of time, but a woman can be impregnated by one man within a span of time. Historical society which have many 100's and 1000's of years history, also had multiple wive programs within their past cultures. maybe they know much more than we know, and our efforts to try and make a one for one match up... simply does not fit the life system process. and is a great promoter of "casual sex".... the more the civilizations try and promote an equality concept of woman with man, the more reality shows that. each is unique as being what they are.. male or female... and what that involves in the mating process is not designed for such a measurement of equality measure.
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Sex by the nature of what it is, it is of pleasure to both man and woman as human being. Men are no greater Desiree of sex than women; nor are women any greater Desiree of sex than men... Now, as to what may result of enduring responsibility, yes, a woman certainly has to consider what remnants may be put into growth motion after sex, i.e. pregnancy. And they may consider well what that entails, because what may result is a child, which becomes a life long responsibility... as a mother. So, it is certainly to a woman's advantage to get as much information as she can, and learn as much about the man as she can, and make a good determination as to his sense of responsibility and if he will honor it based on the result of his actions. One is not made into a good person or a bad person, based on the fact of whether they have sex or not... Being a good or a bad person is more about the quality and content of the character, the dignity in how they honor what is their truths. __________________________________________________ With respect to the above statement, Birth control and Condoms should be a high concern for both male and female. If its a casual sex mate, then Birth control and Condoms should be a high concern for both male and female. as casual sex mates, it should be a premier concern without much questions, for both man and woman. In choosing, if much of the above is factored and considered, it may become a more reasoned engagement for both, under the terms of their agreements to indulge. As adults... it is unlikely that the sense of urgency would be wild and without communicated agreements. unless one or both just don't care of the consequences or the seemingly inevitable subsequence . Although, as always in life, some people play the games on themselves while caught in a self designed fantasy loop, driven with a lusting for a spontaneity that borders on the edges of 'dare devil risk taking ignorance. and for their callousness of blind lust for the fiction of "spontaneity"above all else, then they will get the consequences that such ignorance will bring unto them "both"... !!! Result: Individuals make a great deal of what is madness when it comes to sex. by looking for childish fiction and fantasy, rather than adult regard for honest and up front communications. so many play, "let's pretend" to the tune of ... seduce me as if I'm a mindless being who can't wait to submit to seduction. then whine like crazy when they become entangled in their own web of fantasy seeking games of 'let's pretend".. Man and woman both should be adult enough to "mutually consent", this may well be arrived upon by ... clearly communicate agreements. Get over the delusion of self judgements and judgments of each other based on whether or not eh other has had sex before. BECAUSE One is not made into a good person or a bad person, based on the fact of whether they have sex or not... Being a good or a bad person is more about the quality and content of the character, the dignity in how they honor what is their truths. As to each person: Number one... "Everyone should have high concern for their hygiene". Number Two: "people as individuals should have concern for their health maintenance in the sense if they have any viral or infectious condition to any degree, be it a cold or something more"... then don't contaminate others with it. ... because germs can and will do many various things when they are mixed and mutated. Number Three: Stop Lying, Stop Pretending, and Stop "covert Bartering" and deal with the fact of the situations. If you expect some payment or favor, then say so... If you expect some commitment then say so. If you have any ulterior motives then face them and get real. If both are just seeking the drive of desires motivation to hook up, then tell the other... Repeat One is not made into a good person or a bad person, based on the fact of whether they have sex or not... Being a good or a bad person is more about the quality and content of the character, the dignity in how they honor what is their truths. But, people seem to have much assumptions, and many times people play coy games, as they claim to spare a delusion of dignity, based on pretending they are not sexual, or that it must be this or that condition. The dignity that may well be of matter, is simple... do you want to share this with the other. Repeat One is not made into a good person or a bad person, based on the fact of whether they have sex or not... Being a good or a bad person is more about the quality and content of the character, the dignity in how they honor what is their truths. If people like to play some game of ... "make him wait", or "make her wait"... if that is what gives them the thoughts they seek, then they will find out sooner or later what the real truths are. So if there is a wait, the rather than for the sake of ego games, the wait may well be better suited to support communications which improve understanding of whom each other is, and what of responsibility they uphold in being what they call of themselves, as man or woman. Now, problem is... most people don't have time for this... because they fictionalize romance to be the " urgency of uncontrollable spontaneous urges".... and when in some cases, the consequences and sub-sequences comes.. they want to sling out blame.... and go into bewilderment. People should be aware, that it is human nature that if you continue to have sex with the same person over and over and over, you will develop some level of connections on a level beyond sex….. (Now if you communicate well, then you can manage how this aspect progresses or remains within some reasonable concept for each), or one can be on a different concept about it and conflict will arise.. Between them. I think people figured it out long ago That may be why so many of the ancient civilizations and those today who still have a long history as a civilization, had within their history... Multiple Wives. It may take mankind a long time to get back to that realizations, But one thing is certain, when there is a situations of multiple wives, both the man and the woman benefits.. because the man has a variety of mates, and the woman has a man, but she also has a variety of females who can be friends and sisters in support of each other or what ever else they want to do among and with each other, and they don't have to fight each other for the man, because they each have him already. THERE ARE OPTIONS which may require less conversation, and the assumed risk are already a factored part of their search. *Brothels" *Call In Services" "Street Walkers" "independent Contractors" "People seeking mutual hook up" "Booty Call Mates" "Covert Affairs" "Covertly - Kept Mates" and a variety of other things people do to find an activity mate.
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One is not made into a good person or a bad person, based on the fact of whether they have sex or not... Being a good or a bad person is more about the quality and content of the character, the dignity in how they honor what is their truths. This was not written with the perspective of people in a committed relationship... it is in perspective of UN-attached/ UN-commited individuals... In the context of marriage, they would not have honored their claim of truth to be only with the one they married... so, it would be a change in the dignity of how they honor that truth. ( truth, being + they are married)
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It's always going to be about "individuals'.... many relationships many people have become married though they may have first pursued sex with each other. All the search for 'perfections"...is part of what has so many people single and without a relationship. Another part is become far too many people have a baseline material focus within their aims...Another matter is people have the TV Media depictions of " media image measurement and fixations". Too many people don't want a mate or reciprocating love, they want to be worshiped. if people don't get an instant infatuation, they simply by pass each other and keep looking to be blindly infatuated... then they blame love when infatuation simmers down and they have to deal with the realism's of life and living. Go and look at long term couples, they have moved on beyond that shallowness of "entertain me and flatter me daily" and actually truly care about and for each other, without the fanfare of expecting the other to provide them with a circle of entertainment. The people who build lasting relationships, learn to let go of the "reservation mentality of expecting something better to come along"... Life is quite simple, It's more difficult to appreciate anything, when one's focus in on a multitude of potential options.
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