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did you get laid lately? I find all the sexy talk around the chat rooms quite boring, so I am not complaining about it. AdultFriendFinder (the main site) is propelled by sexy images and dirty talk, and I find this site slightly better, and more apt of a talking attitude than SEX-SEX-SEX-SEX-SEX-SEX-SEX I wonder: has anybody got laid on this site? Or is it just a place to come and go, find someone to chat and greet? |
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come on,..... these women knew what they were doing, and if they had not wanted to take the options for the opportunity to do something, they would not have showed up.... I think many guys got to get over this thinking women are some how helpless or weak in these regards, because that is certainly not the case and has never been the case. It is CERTAIN these women are not naive enough to think they could move and live and work here an the husband is just going to sit home and do nothing. They knew full well the spectrum. We hear it all the time about husbands seeking younger women, and it is no doubt the women who move away for what ever their reasons, it includes the options they may find some options which does not exclude sex as being within the scope. One thing is certain, when women seek those options, if one guy won't fulfill the role, they will find another who will.
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Men can try to be too Noble and too Gentlemanly, when it comes to women, generally, all that does it tell many women, that she can get what she wants from him and patronize his ego and he will go away happy, but it does absolutely nothing for her in the sense of feeling like he is the kind of man that is going to go ahead and get some and make it mutually appreciative to share doing so. Women loved knights of the Round Table, because they knew these guys were going to 'get some' and not pretend that he is too Noble to get it. That's the same way today, how women gravitate to Rock Stars and Prize Fighters, because they know these guys will 'get some" and not go into some trips about putting her on some pedestal as a mantle piece. women cater to the guys who is going to get some and not make a big trip about. Yes, they want to be treated nice, but they also want to know the guy is going to have some actions behind his kindness and considerations. you will never see a Prize Fighter without a woman or women being available, nor will you see a Rock Musician without a woman or women being available. Women don't buy all those fancy under wear's with some thought as if they don't want to become undressed so it can be seen, and possibly be removed with a motivated interest. Many times women play men for money and stuff, because men come off with that manner as if that's what he prides himself on having and giving as his claim to manhood... the men who don't convey that, and shares what he wants based on the simply matter of when and how he wants to share it... generally don't have a problem with women trying to get something from him. She then become more interested in sharing herself with him, because he is not trying to buy her nor win her with money and things, he simply is sharing the mutual exchanges of appreciations without a lot of collateral expectations and constricting judgments. . I've had women tell me, that they did not know how to give it to me, because they thought I was being too noble in being a gentleman... she even told me that her girlfriend wanted to do a situation together, as well as what her girlfriend likes "giving". One day we got together and the first thing she did was call her girlfriend and said, "guess where I am and what I'm doing"... after that she felt comfortable to come and share and do stuff that she liked doing. there was no less respect for her, nor from her for me.... I still helped her with things and she would offer her help to me with things if I needed it. I met bar girls in Thailand, where similar things happen, after the first night, she did not want me to give her money, she said she appreciated that I treated her with respect, and I was more than most guys interested in giving her pleasure than being like many guys who are too interested in bouncing up and down on her and pushing her head downwards. What resulted was she felt comfortable to give and do as much as she wanted to do, and she was more motivated to want to do it, because it was not something she felt forced to do, or obligated to do, just because of the way we first met. men can be as sexual motivated as he wants to be with women, and within being so he should have an interest enough in the woman to include the realness of genuine appreciation of her as a person as well as one who is sensually desired.... sometime, women are no more interested in being obligated as if has to turn into some devoted commitment. But they don't want to be made to feel like she is just one among many. But how can many women even convey this to some men, because men too often come with his judgments right up front. and the more those judgments protrude, the less likely her panties are to come off.  women appreciate being pretty, some are just naturally with an allure factor in image and they already know it, but that does not mean she wants a guy acting like he does not have the confidence to desire her and act on it. but she does not want him to act like he has no self management in doing so. When they do what they do, she is not interested in him whimpering down, nor macho'ing up...
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One thing I did notice about Foreign people in the few places I've been. They don't always see jobs as we do in the west. For example here in this country, there are many people who look down upon 'fast food workers", but I saw people who were very proud of their jobs at fast food places in Thailand, and I saw people who worked at small Cafe's in Costa Rica who had good respect for their jobs. (We somehow in this country got duped by the University Advertisement and the delusion that the only respectable job was one behind a desk.. as a result of that mentality the desk riders proceeded to strip everything from the people who actually do the production floor work, and now we have a system where there are no mass of industrial jobs, and only now have people started to respect the 'clerk jobs at stores", because that is the bulk of what options exist.) I think today these women being foreigners as well as people in general in America are simply happy to have a job. Equally so, Chinese people no longer have to leave China for a job, because Industry is in China and they continually post articles about China using migrant workers because their worker pool is facing some challenges. Sadly, China is following the American Delusion too closely, by attaching the Degree Delusion, to Jobs that absolutely do no require a degree for people to learn and do the work. Now how these women immigrated so easily, when many women say how hard it is for women to get accessibility validated to move outside of China? The question then is, by what means did these women come? How were they able to have earned enough to finance coming? I don't know about whether or not a 'decent" man would or would not allow his wife to move some other place to work. Because today, both men and women travel and take jobs and accept assignments far from claimed home. When people are happy with their mate and their lives, they don't readily make such moves, So, I'd say its a lot more to the factors and reasons these women moved, than just money. They know what possibilities of relationship dissolution exist, and they were more than willing to take that risk. You say they were devastated by their husbands leaving them, but do you think their husbands would agree to them even meeting you or any other man and developing close friendships even if she was still at her home country? I just don't see any level of naivety being within the spectrum. Every woman is going to speak about her honor-ability, but that does not mean she is not going to take care of her basic life wants and needs in the regard of what is found within the mating spectrum of people. As to Sacrifice, that is a questionable matter, ' as to who among the two of them is sacrificing and whether or not they view what they are doing as a sacrifice. I have known people who came here to make money, and if they achieve doing so, some have moved back to their country. But that is not the case for a great many people whom stay right here once they find an avenue to make money. they not only make money but they proceed to build their life and seek and or find a new relationship.
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