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Long distance relationship resulting in marriage I remember some viewer of my blog shared his marriage saying that he was in a long distance relationship for two years that resulted in a twenty year cross cultural marriage ending with that "til death do us part" moment. That was impressive. This kind of marriage is what a lot of women and men would want to have. But how to make the long distance relationship work is the question. I heard stories that most of this kind of relationship will last only about one year and never make it to marriage. Why some are successful like the viewer I mentioned above but others not? Any idea about that? |
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People should never be blind, and number one things, DON'T START GIVING A WOMAN A LOT OF MONEY AND MATERIAL THINGS. Most will tell you anything you want to hear to insure the gravy train keeps rolling for them. I let women know right up front, that I'm not her ATM, and I'm not Santa Claus. If she don't like it then she can go on about her business. The other thing, I have no problem telling a woman, if she is selling me something, then she needs to quote a price, because sharing things does not have a price, but she needs to be willing and capable to share as much as she expects to have shared with her. I don't care if they don't like that arrangement. Save's me time from dealing with a covert Thief or a covert Pro$titute. It's easily to sort them out.. when they start asking for stuff, but has not been one who shares nor give. then she better go find someone else to play upon... I'm not him !!
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This is a good list Mary. From my experience, it can take some time to find the correct answer to some of these.
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mary1407, you are right. People have life situations that they may or may not be willing to share over a long distance communication.
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Do long distance relationships work? There are various, sometimes opposing statistics on this. Relationships resulting from correspondence that have been happening for a very long time. The internet is just a new way to facilitate this. Interracial and inter-cultural relationships are also not new, but are growing in acceptance. The U.S. has census data that shows statistics on the longevity of different types of relationships. These are based on anonymous survey data, and it does not show how the people met. I live in a very small rural, west coast town. After getting to know people in the area, I have met a number of people whose grandparents, or great-grandparents, met their spouses through personals posted in newspapers, or mail-order companies during the late 1800's, and early 1900's. This was really an adventurous thing to do. They may have exchanged one letter and one photograph prior to meeting each other. They took a train, stage coach and horse to get here. Living conditions in the rural west coast areas were simple and rugged. This sort of thing also happened with Japanese and Chinese workers brought over to work on railroads, and sugar plantations in California and Hawaii, who wrote home for a wife. I don't know all the details, but my neighbors met online. The woman moved here from back east. They are not married, though have been living together for over ten years. (legally, I suppose, they are now considered married) They are in their mid 50's now. Now, it is amazingly easy to meet someone online. Society is much more complex than in the early 1900's. People have complex personal, financial, and other considerations and goals. Some people just want to leave their country, for a variety of reasons, and are willing to put up with a lot to do so. We have lists and qualifiers to ensure our happiness (me included). The Grand Game of Life is so interesting.
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