sentttiiie_11 41F
1455 posts
8/8/2015 11:54 pm
Before and after marriage.........

Just a joke photo shared by a friend.
My friends said that when a woman/ man gets married his/her slim figure won't be the same as before. Same as what my Mom had said. She showed me her pic when she was single and see the difference then I joked at my Mom saying it was not you hahaaha because you gain more weight now.
Anyway I have friends who from slim/ thin.... turned to be big... They said they had no time to exercise and they forgot to control their carbs and sweets.
But many couples stay together no matter of their sizes
Anyway Health is wealth... you don't stay slim/thin because u want to be attractive or sexy but it's because you want to stay healthy and keep your heart on the go!
Have a nice weekend


1ClassyLady 68F
3276 posts
8/9/2015 12:20 am

This is especially true in USA. No kidding. Too many obesity in USA. Too much "Fast Food".




Honesty is the best policy.


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
8/9/2015 8:48 am

It's a good thing love dominates much more than the physical image in long term marriage. Because there are many people who get "big' once they feel they are settled into a relationship.

I would not like the concept of someone blowing up like a blimp after marriage. Not for myself or for the woman.

some people are "just big"- I don't know if they like being so, its just that they are.
I do know this, when people reach the older stage of life, being "big" brings health issue and may even amplify the health issues. It can and in some it does affect their mobility. When age is really advanced it can become even more of a challenge nor only for the person, but for the care taker of the person.

Age brings with it some additional weigh, because we can't maintain the metabolism of youth. It just is not possible. but some people figure out ways to manage their weight gains as they age, some don't .

When I was younger, I'd think about what if the woman got "big", how would I deal with it. that is a question I never derived an answer to.


Rattlebone95124 69M
11 posts
8/9/2015 8:51 am

You can still love someone but not be sexually attracted to them after all those years of weight gain. True of mens huge abdomen! Now,what do you do when because of weight you are not attracted to your mate, and after you talk about your feelings: Do you seek sex elsewhere? Do you stop having sex? Women say: "If you love me you will accept me". Let's face the truth women are far more critical of looks than men, so what now happens? I had this issue with girlfriend who got fat, and then my ex-wife who doubled her weight. I exercise and do not have a paunch abdomen. I work at hoping to be the best for my mate. I cannot do fat women, and am not apologizing! Good post sentttiii...


1ClassyLady 68F
3276 posts
8/9/2015 7:36 pm

    Quoting sentttiiie_11:
    Yes... Very big hamburgers, big fries and big soft drinks.. People a lot than they usually do.. to much calories and fats and no time to burn....
I actually don't eat hamburgers, or French fries. I eat steaks about 5 - 6 times in a year. Eat lots of chicken breast, drumsticks, .... I don't eat much of rice or noodle as most Chinese do. However, I still gained weight.

Recently, I doubt I am "hypothyroidism" that causing weight gain. I need to make appointment with my PCP (primary care physician) and blood test for my "Thyroid level". Some women takes "thyroid pills" and lose weight.




Honesty is the best policy.


beyondfantasy3 113M
4740 posts
8/10/2015 4:48 am

the real work in marriage is not about getting married, but how to work to maintain and progress the marriages. This no only includes managing ones self, but being mindful of what they can do to present themselves as favorable and desirable to their mate. Too many people think the point of marriage means they can back off of self maintenance and assume the word marriage means 'take me as I am"... that's not always true, Take me as I am, should include one 'CONTINUING to maintain and improve themselves, in mind, body, spirit and being one who contributes"....
this assumption one can let go and just plod along, and neglect to maintain their health, their body image and their personal self in all regards is a killer to many marriages.
Prior to marriage the work one does to attract, should not be a sham, that one abandons when they get married. It should be a presentation of qualities that one is committed to continue upholding in being and improving themselves as a individual as well as being a mate.

I would not want to come home and see a woman in some house coat or some of those sad and pathetic floor sweeper gowns or such things, Nor in some over worn sweats and does not take care of her hair and other things.
Nope, what ever you are doing to be attractive to catch, someone-- is what you should remain doing to keep someone.

Other things, is MANNER'S... don't abandon good manners and the habit of improving manners, once you get married. The other thing is close the door when you go to the bathroom!!!! don't suddenly become a "pig out person" and a great many other habits that become visible that were once not so visible. THINK... if you want to be desired, then work on being and maintaining the works to be desirable.

I can't stand a sloppy woman, nor a unkept woman !!~!!! the competetion does not go away because you are married, people still have eyes, whether they pursue what they see or not, they still see it.
so its important to keep yourself in a presentable desirable presentation. I'm not a fan of a lot of make up, so I would not choose a woman from the beginning who wears heavy make up....
People have to know what they like and what inspires them and choose accordingly.
Men as well, if you put on an image of being neat and well groomed, then when you marry you need to keep being neat and well groomed and manage your body image and how you present yourself.
and watch what comes out of your mouth!!!!! you can't just say anything, when dating, so don't think being married gives you the right to just say anything.


hotelmikel 70M
533 posts
8/10/2015 7:13 am



Before and after,,,, I am sure there are people who love who there are with,,, and take responsibility of each other's health,, they eat healthy, and keep the body moving to burn body fat,,, lol he he,,,,
On the opposite side of the coin,,, the whole world is getting fat due to fast food and less active activities,,,

then you see/hear the phrase this is how I am take it or leave it ,,,
your partner left you because YOU said to your self I am now married ,,, I can eat what I want and why work out now ,,,,,

On and on about fat,,,, look around at the kids in school here with no recess,, and the ones with toys one plays with fingers while siting lying around the house lol

take care, I am still looking, ohh some just do not know when to stop, eating ,,, there is a problem in the genes ,,, with addiction ,,, food drugs on and on ,,,

sorry I got carried away


1ClassyLady 68F
3276 posts
8/13/2015 4:08 pm

    Quoting sentttiiie_11:
    I see! then you really need to see your physician about it. I heard about hypothyroidism. Maybe you need to boost your metabolism.. ask the help of a nutritionist too.
I did see my MD for blood test on "Thyroid level". My Thyroid level is normal. However, MD will apply insurance for me to consult with a nutritionist. I am waiting for insurance approval and recommendation of a nutritionist. Hope I will change my diet to lose weight.




Honesty is the best policy.