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Beautiful images.... Tip:  There's no Dream Princes... just "Men"... Everyone has stages of change in the processes of living... We as "people" just get to communicate and make a choice, and then communication must become intricately sincere..... within building relationships. We all... must work within making the communications the best we can, that may lead to a choice. and we work with it day by day from there...
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Those fear are within the young and the older... that's just the nature of the fragility of the hearts of us as people. Communication is what we have... when we use it... not with a fear of discussing what's important, but with a confidence to express what we care about in life, and that must go far and beyond , who has money and who does not. No one wants to be "used", and no one wants to be chosen because they have money, and no one wants to be rejected because they don't have money. But society has taught so much of those concepts into our lives until it become more common until we don't even understand its impact. Communication helps people discern such things, and communication when its direct and honest helps us move forward... People who can't meet that measure, generally fall away from those who do speak honest. I personally feel, give me truth and honesty before flatter and patronization. Also when it comes to looks, we can't rely on it to the degree that society promotes such, because age will change it, and at any time anyone one of us could encounter accident and injury that changes it dramatically. Relationships are bad, because people accept bad things they blind themselves unto by shallow communication in the beginning. Sexual and Sensual allure has its impacts but it only last in developing deeper passions, within those who "communicate".... its not just about "what I dreams', or just "what the person I choose dream"... its about communicating to work those dreams into a unified dream that serves both. I've found, that sometimes "women are fickle" and some are too easy to want to call it quits... and many of such types, are also poor at communicating,, but good at dictating out expectations and expecting submission to those dictations. that lends itself to a toxic relationship from the very start... That toxicity begins to show up, the minute the man gets over his blind fascination with the looks of the face of the shape of the body. The same is true for women, who get blind fascination with the mans looks, or his wallet and the concept she has of his social image and position. I've seen many women, hell bent on "changing a man", but never willing to hear or think of making changes in how she relates with that man, and what she expects of that man, which is many times, expectation that far exceed what she is willing to be expected of her. Again, "Communication"... People are not always single by choice, but by conditions, circumstance and mindset"... Men are just as afraid of being hurt, as women are afraid of being hurt... and that's just the simplicity of life of the human being. Everybody wants to be "right" based on their thoughts, but not stopping to think what is "right for the relationship, that considers how things impact and affect not just self, but the other" Again, that's where communication comes valuable beyond what people comprehend. Its not just about being "heard", but its about "being willing to hear". and people need to give themselves time to reflect, think, and pursue to understand far beyond just their own thoughts. Often times thing descend into 'games of closed legs" as a leverage game, and over time, that becomes interpreted for what it is, a manipulative stragety... and it often resolves not much, because "communication" is the only methodology to achieve that resolution within understandings.
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Beautiful places are "wonderful to visit and see"... but there is the underlying elements of "Wanting to Share that experience' which carries a great deal of values. I use to ride my motorcycle in the countryside... and see beautiful settings, and I smiled about it when I'd see it, and the thoughts and feeling of wanting-to share it soon became a highly interested factor. People should review relationship's nature. when people first meet, they make means to go places, see things and do things. But when they become comfortable with each other.. they find reasons and excuses why they no longer have time to go, see and do things. Rather than "communicate" and make plans to have and share time to continue going and doing, seeing and sharing things... and not make it some "special event" but just a part of what is within the whole of the relationship. when the relationship is new, they can't wait to get their hands on each other, and will give and share massaging each other... but as time moves on, they even relegate that to "special occasions" or play a game of "reward and punishment" based on if their "expectation of the moment was met". That's about as silly as being nice on Pay Day, and then becoming distant during the mid week, when the pay day money is spent. Anyone who can't laugh at themselves, will eventually have less laughter with their mate. Anyone who can't laugh with themselves, will as well, eventually have less laugh tr with their mate. We have a choice... to work within self and with our chosen mate, to agree to work on always improving our communications. But we have to see the weak points in each other and help each other strengthen it, without beating and battering the other over the weakness... Which means, stop assuming each other is superman and superwoman.... then we can appreciate the works involved in the ups and down of just being individuals and being mates within a relationship... No one will ever be "perfect" and if we delude our-self to think so, we will become foolish... and in that foolishness we will become fools of ourselves and make foolish between each other. Now, as Adults... we have to be adults... and not try and built relationships based on non adult shallowness. The greatest challenge any human being will find it life, is the challenge to be ones self within society and within relationship... and that means and requires "communicating". There's billions of pretty faces, and billions of people with money and without money.... but the Billions that have functioning relationships... "Communicate". Go look at very old couples... their faces and bodies changed from what it was in younger days... but their communication has given them a depth of understanding not only of themselves, but of the other, and each other.. until they can sit in a room silent for moments, and not develop a series of questions upon and against themselves or upon and against the other... because they learned to respect and appreciate the individualism of themselves and their mate... It did not happen overnight. Look at very wealthy people, they have all the money for whatever, but they don't last if they can't communicate where they continually learn about themselves and each other and look to find and learn of things to appreciate in and of self and each other., that goes far and beyond money and materialism. (I use larger text, because I remember one members said they have a hard time reading small text)
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Companionship is really the matter, as we get older... sex and such things is a interesting thought, but good companionship is really a dominant elements, some people put sex up high, but some even thought they don't ignore the realism of sex, but age does not lend itself to the acrobatics of youth. We find in life people have deep love for mates that may even be pluralized from the waist down... and a variety of other things that come within the spectrum of life. These things can tell us much, about the value basis of "communicable companionship"... One can go out and find the person with the prettiest face and the body shape that is alluring, but as many of such situation have found,... That does not make a relationship last, nor does it make it grow in depth. It has its place, but that place does not dominate and dictate the nature of the whole of a relation that is made among adults. We see a lot of people with pretty faces and shapely bodies, who can't maintain the sustaining of relationships. We see lots of things that life tells us much if we acknowledge. Take the media cast of the Kardasians, they are very provocative in display and very much surrounded by materialism and post many picture that is suppose to infer eroticism... but they also have a continuing series of broken relations that often does not last beyond the publicity hype. and certainly the provocative images does not create a situations where sex can hold and control and maintain the sustaining of a relationship. We can look at many that dominate the media in entertainment, and many have very bad relationships.... Mindset matters.... the imagery people build up around these dressed up images, the provocative poses and the variety of costumes, and the media using the world "Hot"... does not serve beyond the fantasies people build of fictions within their mind. Some get lost in being called "Hot"... until they think they are in a range of being too good for any single person, and some think it means they should get everything they want, exactly like they want it...and still some get so lost in it, until they think the other should be beholding with dire desperation simply because they are with them. Media does a lot to distort peoples concepts of relationships. Money, Sex and he Illusions of Power and even the influence of power over those who place worship like value on those with money, or having money, and some think becasue a lot of hanger on's say yes to anything with a vain hope that they can get access to have benefit of that money.... over time find out... that the 'illusions become delusions and they've lost themselves, and some have mental crisis.... because they lost so much touch with basic reality of even themselves. All this may sound cynical, but most know some of these same things are what's within the make up of the fears that live in everyone when it comes to relationships. A lot of these sites that promote themselves as "dating sites'... don't all have good results in that category. People in many ways are more accustom to seeking glib and glee, and get quickly disenchanted is subject matters goes beyond that. Most don't want to hear of such things as I've written, until they are in a moment of "post relationship hurt and its pains"... Many likes the "sales person pitches'.... Its so unfortunate because some get fleeced, some get swindled, some get double twisted and hoodwinked, and some get very much hurt emotionally and in some sites people become without cautions and get physically hurt or worst. Take time, figure out how people live, what they think, their sense of self responsibility, what is their level of compassion and how to they manage their process of dealing with "consideration"... Everyone can have a Sob Story... but if you wouldn't fall for it with even your best friend in physical reality, why fall for it on a website? Some people are covert and conniving ins their game of need, because some seek out people who are eager to hope and willing to be helpful... But... it takes the ability to not relinquish the principle of being discerning. A self responsible person, does not focus on what money another has, because their sense of self responsibility is invested in doing what they need to do for and by their efforts of themselves to meet their own needs. If it comes to matters of business. Professional Business people, create and develop binding contracts... they don't engage situations of "lend me this or that with a vague promise" which nothing has demonstrated they can meet that promise. If anyone is seeking money... then they likely should have managed their credit rating and go to places that are in the business of loaning money. Now, if you make a relationship... and money comes up as a thing being pursued, it is respectful to do your diligent research, if its a new mate, then that too.. needs to be something where some level of partnership is by a binding legal agreement. As there have been many who have been fleeced by 'emotional situations" that prey on the compassion's. So.. one should be driven within self to "think", research, discover and then figure out what is at the core of the matter, and why and what has the person done to secure this by their own efforts. It's not so hard... Be not emotionally self blinding, because it can cause problems and losses that one may find regret consumes them far more than they'd care for it to do, and some may become bitter and disenchanted by allowing blind emotion to over-ride their common sense considerations. That does not mean avoid helping, but one should know whom they are helping and what is the cause they are helping and how sincere and devoted the other is to that cause... among what ever else they may need to consider in the matters. So... over all, as adults ... there is much that makes the realization of Adulthood.... and emotions should not make one childishly blind. If someone is trying purposefully to make one feel guilty, then one may need to give thought to the reality of how some use "instilling guilt" as a gaming tactic. One who truly is sincere, has no interest to make another consumed with guilt.... So... we can counter many fears with being aware and with a concern and consideration to be aware.
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What a beautiful place to visit. .
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That'a a very good thing... to not be a serial dater... it brings too much that as many who do serial date, find they loose a great deal of ability to be sincere.. You are smart to have developed and held to that value system. Some people bounce from one to the next, and never realize what they loose of themselves in the bounces. Women who make great mates know not to become a "bouncing serial dater"... They are able to keep the heart soft and able to be sincere without the weight of trying to measure each date by the multitude of other dates. Often time, the serial dater does not know what they want, and may well know far less about themselves, other than they get burned out, or a jaded mentality that makes life even more challenging, where they don't know who or how to trust not just others, but themselves as well. I applaud you for your sense of integrity, quality of character and the wisdom to regard and appreciate it... by knowing with inner certainty, that short flings will not give you the solidity, sincerity nor the stability you want. Over the years I've read your posting, and they convey your integrity, and your sharing of acts and efforts of kindness and consideration of others demonstrates that you live with respect to honor the character you want to maintain within and of yourself. I do wish you the best in finding a mate that can appreciate such integrity and character....!!!!
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To all, continue to "treat yourself well"... and as Beautifulkayra2: said... 'treat yourself"... you need not miss enjoying your living by denying to treat yourself, in waiting for a mate. In life, it's often said, Love finds us as individuals, when we least expect it. In treating yourself well, you take effort to appreciate the gift of life God gives... and in doing so... God also give us many ways to love, even when we have not found that one love to stand and walk through life with us. Everyday is a gift and we should accept it with grace and appreciation, God always gives blessing to the graceful.... therefore... stay always with grace in how we live, how we engage others and how we appreciate the experiences of living. A word of caution to any who chase or seek in desperation, as they may find they deny themselves the opportunity for love to find and bond with them, because they are trying to make something happen, that only God can do in ways that brings love to meet with love.
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I've been on this site for a very long time, I don't come to chase anyone... I come to communicate and share thoughts about life and things. Over all the years... I've not engaged in random pursuits of picture images or flings or such things. Even when I was much younger, when a relationship ended, I have never ran looking for another to replace it with any act or sense of urgency. I take my pause, even if its years, and I learn ... what i could have done better, what I may well have been more aware of, and how to resolve myself from carrying bagging from one relationship to another. By the time I entered the next relationship, "I was free to be myself"... I always believe you have to bring the clear heart of love, if one expects to find another with a clear heart of love... that .. can love freely. Most of you here know me, "I communicate", I don't particularity care for shallowness, because life is full and its deep with many things. if one is afraid of being known for what is their thoughts, they may find relationships challenging and difficult, and when its time to dig down deep within self, many have not prepared themselves to do so. Society today, deals with a great deal of "brevity", and in love involvement in relationships, brevity does not suffice to embrace the whole of self or what is communicated by the mate they have made relations with... and they grow apart quickly. Many people are not comfortable talking about the depth of things, until pains force them to do so... at that point.. the challenge of communication becomes extremely confounding, and two may end up disenchanted and breakup happen, some happen that can't be repaired. A great discovery for any individual is discovering the depths of what their love can bond and built ... and such is the works of love... without the patience in heart to know of such works of love.. one can become frustrated and then two becomes frustrated and the damages engulf both. Everything grows with "light"... and truth is the light that must shine within, upon and throughout love... that it may become all that it can become in being love... We have to have the patience of a seedling, if we expect to grow love that has the strength and branches of being like a tree of life.
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12/21/2019 7:38 pm |
Beautiful pictures! Thank you for sharing. Do you have an all time favorite travel destination? If so, where is it and why is it your favorite?
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