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Do you want a happy wife or just a wife Many gentlemen here are looking for a wife and most of them I think are serious about it. But when you are trying to find the one, have you ever think about it: do you want a happy wife or just a wife? I am talking about this coz I have a friend (Chinese women) who successfully got married but she is not happy. Her husband is from one nice country in Europe and herself from China. both are very nice people in my view, well educated, independent, nice characters She had imagined life in Europe better than in China or maybe more freedom? Anyway she decided to get married before she reached 50-yr-old after 4 years dating. We felt happy for her. But recently she told me they are lacking of common interests in life, and telling me not to consider a marriage if there is anything making you uncomfortable during the dating period. herself is thinking to go back China after her stay requirement is fulfilled in Europe. So i have this question: if this is the real case, why get married at the first place? though it is online dating here, happiness still follows its old way of practice, and happy marriage still need the fundamentals to sustain. So set your desire first- a happy wife or just a wife. and what you are able to offer to make a happy wife, what you require from the woman if you want to be a happy husband..... then you will know what are the key points to emphasis on when you set up your criteria to find your suitable match. Best wishes for all and hope you will find the love for life soon! |
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illusions an delusions dominate so many relationships.. its no wonder Divorce finds them quickly. a relationship is like anything else, you build it carefully, make sure the parts are quality and they fit well, and when the design is in place, then be careful about the accessories one adds in. SOME are like people who design homes together, they build it, live in it a short time, then they can't stand the house and it goes up for sale. I've never figured out why people have the delusions of building a custom house, and add in all these things, because they look good at first sight, but none of it suits them, the image is built so other can swoon over it, but the two who built it, become farther apart during the process. Again, the house goes up for sale. It's the person you should be marrying, the character, the personality, the integrity, and the sense of dignity must fit well. Then they don't need a custom home, they make any house they buy into their 'home" and they make the long term investment to make their lives work within it and through the many works of repairs that come and go. If you want a fantasy, find out first what is your true reality, respect it, appreciate it, and work to make it survive and then nurture it to thrive, and when you "look back', you might find you've put in the work to have lived a fantasy. (how many want to understand that).
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10/10/2015 7:27 pm |
If you have marriage in mind , be prepared for the three RINGS; engagement RING then the wedding RING and of course the suffeRING, 
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My wife has been in America for a year and happy to be with me. She misses China and will soon return to her homeland for an extended vacation to visit friends, family and take care of some personal business. I'm sure I will miss her and she will miss me while we are away from each other.
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Definitely a Happy Wife. If she is not happy, then you are not happy, and the marriage is not happy. Definitely preferable to have a Happy Wife and don't forget a Happy Husband...
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