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question on those members who are still in marriage / relationship but still looking for more recently chats on IM and encountered with a few married male members. If any of them are just want to chats on interesting topics, I felt fine, coz we learn many things from one another. But quite obviously their intentions were not what i expected. one or two would stop chatting after I told them to bring up with real interesting topics. and other just wanted carry to some intimate talks..... So I quit. One question in my mind: why they are still here? with a wife /gf at home? and looking for more than friendship? May be its normal in many countries although with different culture background? But do they really able to enjoy such a relationship,making hundreds of lies to their wife/gs and also probably to the woman they chat with? isn't it too troublesome to make up all these lies, and in the end being found out by the wives and gfs? Do they ever feel guilty about it? Why they want to make their lives so complicated? Complication brings a lot stress too, mentally. And lead to coursing illness, damages to immunity system。 |
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remember not all people are honest,,, some will say married on bio,,,, or something to that fact and have no photo ,, flag  ,,then there are the women who know that these men are not honest and still continue chatting with them which gives the man the impression that it is ok to continue doing what he is doing,,,, I will not mention names ,,,  have a nice day to chatters not looking to have private chat 
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Some people will try to rationalize and justify what they do, when they know they are not honest with their own situation. Result: BS is BS.... !!!! Let them tell it, "It's always the other persons fault" . Empathy/Sympathy Players, there are many.    As some put it in some many words, they are providing a empathy based or sympathy based (service) affair, and they feel that makes them more honorable.
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Ladies, I am very single! And 40 is not old. Write me lets chat.
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"Temptation" is a ever-ready beast in the lives of the married, the unmarried and the despaired- the world today presents options that are overt and covert. pleasure seeking, intimacy pursuits, and many other emotional as well as physical which includes fetishes are presented by the mass volume with the aid of the internet. The media presents images using the old adage "s*x sells" and it provides a 24/7 barrage of imagery to wind up the "temptation factor". (for men and for women !!!!) - It's not likely that the average individual is so overwhelmingly strong to resist all temptations. But in a relationship one has to keep interaction and focus within and upon their mate, their life responsibilities and their claim of values, or it will become the beast that finds its ways to bite you, and for some it may well consume you. Intertwines has existed within the longevity of the human being, some will pursue pleasure and other indulgent activity and some will hold true to the choice and the mate within that choice. There are others maintain reservations of many sorts. People make/take mates in search of money, lifestyle, and as some so vainly proud say, they require a 'degree", some have many criteria's which are not only material, but worldly beyond just the sake of loving an individual. Love cares not about such things, Love cares about Love. Love can make a person squander a fortune through the pains of unrequited love, love can make one walk away from any material substance, in pursuit of fulfilling the essence of whats in the heart of and about loving. It is wise for any, to think and understand, Temptation stands before each choice, and infatuation is often a pre-curor to love, but it can also be a delusion for and unto those who have no intent to work through infatuation to build loving bonds. Everyone claims to want love, the question is to any and all who seek love, "are you within yourself prepared in willingness to love?", are you prepared in understanding and willingless to be and do so to accept love and being loved?" (If you don't know, it may be wise to find out within yourself- before you claim love, you have not prepared yourself to indulge) One can't steal the gifts found within loving without becoming battered, bruised, abused and maybe even brought to lifelessness. To get, have and hold and embrace and enjoy those gifts found within Love, one has to give themselves in to love and be loving within how and whom they love as well as maintaining loving themselves in the doing of love and loving. . Most live with the illusion they have plenty of time - yet, the matter of time one gets is and will always remain and unknown. IF it is Love you want, then it is Love you must give, and the more sincere one is to do and be so, the more they are able to enjoy it in the moments of their living !!!!!! For any and all; "Don't cheat yourself with illusions". Either make love a wonderful and full spectrum part of your life and living, or spin in confusion and find the wanting, continually consuming up your life. Each person has the option to make it a glorious part of their lives or a nightmare in the middle of daily reality.
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"Perspectives of Mental Environments - Impacting Attitudes" Thoughts are many things, how you manage your attitude, will manage your attitude. choose respectfully, and respect what you choose- if communication is a problem, then you can be certain the relationships, will have many problems. Beyond fantasy, always is where you find the rest of your reality. (quoted from my profile)
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that's an understandable situation, I'd liken it more to the men to have 'deserted the woman", therefore that give her options to find what she wants. The curious question is, "how do these women so easily get here"? If they know the husband sent them and the kids away so he can replace her with a younger woman, but profit from her at the same time, then its a done deal... she should find what she wants. Life is quite amazing in the spectrum of the human being. If she creates a business, her first thing should be to make the separation legal via divorce, before he wants to claim profit from her business.
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