aliceyumi 53F
313 posts
6/28/2016 2:27 pm
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1ClassyLady 68F
3276 posts
6/28/2016 7:15 pm

I have seen this coming since your last blog. Men and Women have different concept about "Love". The word "Love" comes with "Need". In other words, you need him more than he needs you. He is a very religious Christian who wants a woman has the same level to worship god. In his eyes, God is #1. Some people are very into religion and want others to be the same. I am an agnostic and I don't believe in god, devil, heaven or hell. (I was born and raised as a Catholic)

Let me explain the "Need" as an attraction. In 1986 I just finished my USC (Univ. of Southern Calf) and I have a tooth decay that needed to have a dental crown. My dentist said $500. I couldn't afford it and no dental insurance. The dentist told me that he had a "dental student' who needed to bring 3 patients to take a oral exam to get his dentist license. One of the 3 cases is dental crown patient. I could save $500 to get a crown and he could take the dental oral exam.

He saw that I am an U.S. citizen, had a condo house, from Taiwan (he too), a pharmacist who had worked in USA for six years that everything he ever wanted. In a token of appreciation that he gave me a free dental crown and helped him to pass the dentist license exam (free dental assistant for other 2 patients), I married him. He is 2 yrs older and the age is suitable. After married, I found out he only have $34.85 in his checking. No wonder I paid all the meals during dating. He promised to give me money when he proposed to me. He got "Green Card", Social Security #, Credit card, ..... I helped him everything I could. However, he has never gave me money. He got dental office, houses, cars, furniture, insurance, .... everything free. The money he made, he stashed for himself and the money I made paid for everything.

I got a free dental crown but he got U.S. citizenship, cars, dental office, .... He is a very stingy, slowpoke, lazy, .... he doesn't pay anything. When I realized his intention, I filed divorce.

You need him (French friend) to love you as a companion, take care of you, caress you, .... However, he just wants you to be a religious Christian as sincere as he is. He doesn't NEED you.



Honesty is the best policy.


aliceyumi replies on 6/29/2016 10:19 am:
ClassyLady, he may not need me but he's very happy to know that I'm taking all the efforts to meet him, he cares, even if he doesn't need me to live...

He's a good person and he knows I'm also, he wants to meet as much as I do, sometimes I get insecure because we don't contact as much as I would like to, but when he calls and I see him on ym I get calm and peaceful to be assured he cares...

Some people with bad experience with guys tend to be more pessimistic, I actually have a friend like that, she says no man is faithful and trustworthy cause it's just when they are dating, they treat you fine, but after marriage they change completely, that was her experience.

You seem to been hurt, ClassyLady, I feel sorry to hear about your experience. Since then, have you been single? I hope to hear that you have found someone good for you, cause I myself still believe in love...


hotelmikel 70M
533 posts
6/29/2016 6:21 am


Love ,,,,,
this word is over used,,,


aliceyumi replies on 7/2/2016 6:18 am:
Thanks hotelmikel. Good saying, I did appreciate.