aliceyumi 51F
410 posts
2/26/2019 12:26 pm
I took my profile photo yesterday 25-02-19

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Lily20145 58F
885 posts
2/28/2019 5:57 am

still the same smile


aliceyumi replies on 2/28/2019 1:13 pm:
Thanks Lily, for me it sounds like a compliment

yvncsw 50F

2/28/2019 8:30 pm

Hi Alice, nice to meet you ! Not to worry as you have a sweet look and a good smile !

aliceyumi replies on 3/1/2019 1:37 pm:
Thank you yvncsw! And nice to meet you too!

Lily20145 58F
885 posts
3/1/2019 12:02 am

we all look prettier when we smile.


aliceyumi replies on 3/1/2019 1:39 pm:
Hi Lily. Yes, I couldn't agree more

oldghost32 76M
211 posts
3/1/2019 3:44 am

I am sure I recall the hair as being jet black!

aliceyumi replies on 3/1/2019 1:41 pm:
Hi oldghost. Yes, after 3 or 4 months without colouring my hair, that's the result !

1ClassyLady 66F
3159 posts
3/2/2019 1:21 am


Nobody wants to grow old and has gray hair. You are only 48, I am 60+, of course, I have my hair dyed every 4 - 5 weeks for "touch-up" the roots.

I am a very honest person, NOT to offend you, but you should continue to dye hair. Everyone is responsible for her appearance. I meant well for you, please don't get angry. I am not a hypocrite. I am a "call a spade, a spade" person. You must dye your hair with dark brown color (black is too obviously). Your social life will be better, no matter male or female.

We all hope to be younger, but nobody can stop time. We all grow old by time. You will gain much "confidence" and improve your relationship with other people. You have to take care your appearance and respect how other people's feeling about you. Everyone likes active young and happy woman, nobody likes to see gray hair.

You live in Brazil, a country that full of sexy women. How can you not to dye your hair? I don't mean that you need to be sexy, but at least start from dye hair. It is necessary.

I like to travel, so I always dye hair before go traveling and immediately touch up the root when return. Nobody has time to know how nice person you are, but they can immediately notice you have gray hair.

If you don't care about my advice, you can continue to live the way you want. I always put on lipstick before I walk out my house even just for a lunch. I put on "make-up" when dating with a guy. This is a comparative world. The better man chose the prettier woman.

I can say something to make you happy but I am not a "silent lamb".

Dye hair is a basic step to attract people and make yourself more confident.

Honesty is the best policy.

aliceyumi replies on 3/2/2019 11:37 am:
Hi 1Classylady,

Thanks for sending your opinion. However I am going to stay the way I am now, cause I need someone very tolerant and who doesn't mind much of my appearance in my side.

The reason is that I don't care that much if I don't meet someone for ages, I am used to be alone for most of my life. I really do not care.

For example, I prefer a international dating site like Chinese FriendFinder to tagged where I could meet local people. Because real dating can scare me somehow.

beyondfantasy3 111M
4737 posts
3/2/2019 3:33 pm

I have not dye'd my hair, but I have lots of friends "male" who die their hair, some of them their wives help them dye their hair.

I have only tried it once, I was in Thailand, and they dyed my hair "very black", it looked very odd and the heat kind of made it turn a reddish look, when I returned home, I had it all cut, its just the natural grey.... a few years ago it was more sprinkled with black and grey...

I'm not sure I'd invest the time to keep the cycle of adding dye to my hair, and I don't want what I see some people where the roots are grey, and the top part is dark color. I even see some guys who's mustache has grey roots but dark color.

I do like that when young the black hair, showed the "edge line very well",

1ClassyLady does make a point, about people and image, if they are not drawn to the image, often times they don't or won't take time to learn the person.

I see many many many many many women in "wigs'... I'm not a fan of wigs, but I do know some use them because of medical concerns of hair loss, but some use it just to be quick about things and not have to deal with their hair, and some have short hair and want it to look longer.
I see a very high volume of women with "weaves', and now there is more people with a variety of bright colors to their hair.

No matter what we do in life... we can't remove the element or fact that 'we are visual people, and we make many acts based on peoples looks.

It's strange, but if a pretty women, stole something, society would deal with her far different than they would a woman that is not so called pretty, and the same is true for men as well. Men who look good can make a mistake and people are willing to overlook it or deal with it. more than if a guy does not look good.

But the odd thing in that scenario is... If people have "bright happy smiles', sometimes they get the same leniency as those who have the pretty look.

We can even look at jobs.. pretty people something don't have to be as good at their skill level in work as people who are not.

As soon as I hit the lottery, I may try to dye my hair for a minute.....

aliceyumi replies on 3/3/2019 12:43 pm:
It's true that people say I would look younger with my hair dyed. But I am not someone who handle to do it alone and besides, go to a hair dresser to do so, I think it's expensive. So I think that I have enough reasons not to dye.

aliceyumi replies on 3/5/2019 9:55 am:
hi beyondfantasy3, thanks for your contribuition. I think that society is very machist, if a man let his hair natural it is ok, but if it were a woman people will probably think she's relaxed as for her looks.

Anyway, society is never always right, one can be oneself and be accepted as well.

1ClassyLady 66F
3159 posts
3/3/2019 3:53 am


It is your RESPONSIBILITY to make yourself more presentable. It is NOT about dating, but for your confidence in yourself and improve your working relationship with your colleagues. You didn't get my point.

I am not a hypocrite person that tell you that picture is a pretty picture. You are only 48, but look much older than you should. It is hard for you to listen to my advice, but again it is your life. Do whatever you like.

I think you are a Japanese descendant, do you know that Japanese women wake up very early in the morning to put on make-up before they walked out their houses??? I am not particularity put on make-up but I do touch-up my hair roots every 4 weeks or so.

Have a great life. You don't need my advice.

Honesty is the best policy.

aliceyumi 51F
566 posts
3/3/2019 12:35 pm

Thank you 1ClassyLady.

oldghost32 76M
211 posts
3/3/2019 10:28 pm

Actually the silver hair looks just fine!!!
My mother, a fine looking woman, turned white-haired at 32 following cancer treatment, and looked no less lovely for it

aliceyumi replies on 3/4/2019 1:39 pm:
Oldghost, it's nice to hear a positive opinion about my white hair. If I were to please anyone I certainly would get ill. I think that more than the white hair, my weight increase should be much more the problem...

Lily20145 58F
885 posts
3/4/2019 2:00 pm

Yumi, you look happy with your look otherwise you won't upload the picture. Many stylish and intelligent people have grey hair too, just embrace it. I don't think hair colour can solely define our age, it depends on hair style and how you dress, obviously personality counts too. As long as you feel happy with it, don't bother others opinions.


aliceyumi replies on 3/4/2019 6:49 pm:
Lily, hello! Thanks for your assertive view on my looks, actually I think that my eyes and my smile are the prettiest things that I could show to everyone!

Beautifulkayra2 51F
823 posts
3/5/2019 7:19 am

What matter most is your happiness.
If you are happy with the silver hair, be it.
Have a good week...

aliceyumi replies on 3/5/2019 6:06 pm:
Kayra, I think I have other important issues that take more of my time than to get looking prettier, if the person that wants to be my partner accepts those, I guess he will be willing to get me for what I am or look.

woaini1947 59M
3973 posts
3/5/2019 10:12 am

"However I am going to stay the way I am now, cause I need someone very tolerant" You don't need to find a tolerant person if you work on your appearance. Who wants someone to be "tolerant" of their appearance? Tolerant is a negative emotion. It's akin to tolerating an unruly child, unhealthy work conditions, etc. I want someone who is excited to meet me and is proud of me. I don't want someone to find obvious negative things about my appearance and decide "well I guess that is ok." We can't all appeal to each other. Everyone has certain likes and dislikes. If we look attractive to ourselves and to the general public, we exude a certain amount of confidence which is appealing. Knowing that we could improve our appearance but deciding we are not interested because it takes effort, is not presenting the best possible image to others and most of all, ourselves. It is unnatural for a woman to turn a "thumbs down" to trying to look pretty.

aliceyumi replies on 3/5/2019 6:17 pm:
woaini, as I wrote above to Kayra, I have quite a few issues that appearance seem to be the least important. I probably will not meet a guy that accept me for who I am, but I am here on this site because I believe that people from other countries can become good matches to someone like me who does not need to meet always cause the physical part I could never make it out so far.

judaal 60M
65 posts
3/6/2019 2:23 am

Alice - Hi , u r just gorgeous

aliceyumi replies on 3/6/2019 10:30 am:
thank you judaal !

Beautifulkayra2 51F
823 posts
3/6/2019 5:41 am

Alice, so tell me..
Are you happy enough to find an online boyfriend ? or once you meet him online, you will expect to meet him in real too?

aliceyumi replies on 3/6/2019 10:32 am:
Kayra, of course I expect to meet him in person after some time but no problem if we don't meet often.

judaal 60M
65 posts
3/6/2019 8:58 pm

Hi Alice, at first may b u dont know Kayra is highly experienced in Chinese FriendFinder , do take her advice, hope it helps u alot. Come India I am here to welcome you.

aliceyumi replies on 3/7/2019 5:20 am:
Judaal, I am not here to meet an Asian guy, I want to meet a white one... Have a good evening.

woaini1947 59M
3973 posts
3/7/2019 1:29 pm

"Judaal, I am not here to meet an Asian guy, I want to meet a white one... Have a good evening."

Judaal is extending an invitation to you. He was just being courteous. Ignore his request or just say thank you.

We men are here to meet Asian ladies because we are attracted based on culture, appearance, etc. We never refer to the ladies by the color of their skin. I have been on this site for several years and have been approached by women of several ethnic origins and never once did I reply that they had the wrong skin color.

One of the most attractive Chinese ladies I have ever met is a good friend whose skin color is the same as my own. If she were on this site and I stated I only desired white ladies, I am sure she would not contact me.

Let your conscience be your guide.

aliceyumi replies on 3/7/2019 5:40 pm:
The invitation is a bad thing, why would I go to meet someone I just hardly talked to?

I was unkind, sorry, but that's what I think.

aliceyumi 51F
566 posts
3/10/2019 10:36 am

woaini, each ones is each one! You have met someone nice, good for you? I actually used to have 2 black friends but they were not attractive men to me only were good people and nice to talk to.

consider you nice and good-looking, but not attractice 'to me'. I have a particular preference for short and weak men concerning build.

woaini1947 59M
3973 posts
3/11/2019 10:08 am

    Quoting aliceyumi:
    woaini, each ones is each one! You have met someone nice, good for you? I actually used to have 2 black friends but they were not attractive men to me only were good people and nice to talk to.

    consider you nice and good-looking, but not attractice 'to me'. I have a particular preference for short and weak men concerning build.
That's ok. We all have our preferences and that is good because that means there is someone for everyone.

In California, a lot of the people are into physical fitness and even the Chinese ladies here are impressed and seem to be attracted to a man who appears physically fit or is muscular.

If you are looking for a short white man who has a normal build, there are many nice, successful white men all over the world who would love to meet a good woman.

aliceyumi replies on 3/12/2019 2:56 pm:
hi woaini. I have met a few guys whom I liked for a relationship but he wouldn't like the same... I think it's not easy to meet the right one, someone you like and likes you in return. For this reason, I consider my ex boyfriend so especial and I want to meet him again if I ever go to France when it's possible.

LongWangWong 46M

3/12/2019 11:08 am

I wish that I could find a woman who looks like you!