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What are you looking for? Although I've only been here a few days, I've found an interesting phenomenon. Some people start a conversation with me by asking “ What are you looking for?” So I turned to them and asked them "what are you looking for? “But I think this is indeed a question worth pondering. If you've been to a dating website in China, you'll find that there are usually a few key words of demanding a ideal husband: family-oriented, ambitious, and house-owning. The requirements for wives are usually gentle, beautiful and young. When I came here, I read a lot of men's descriptions of ideal wives and learned about the needs of Western men in choosing a mate. Unlike China, they are more about inner or spiritual companionship , with little mention of material or physical appearance (of course there are a few people who require physical appearance). The other thing is that men here are generally older, usually more than 45, and I don't think they might like Asian women when they are young guys, but when they get older, maybe because of loneliness or illness, they become concerned about Asian women's characteristics, such as being family-oriented, gentle, and even respectful and obedient. It's very interesting, as they travel around the world, getting older and more vulnerable, they want to fall asleep in the arms of an Asian woman. |
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 well observed. I tried not to generalise it, but in fact older man are most likely looking for younger girl. On contrary, older woman are most likely looking for younger boy. So if you are older woman tried to looking for similar age man, you are properly marketing yourself in wrong position. try giving older man a chance, they are wiser and know how to look after you..
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8/22/2018 7:07 pm |
Let me chime in as an older guy. This is just me; I can't claim to be representative of all. I am talking to white ladies on another site. Though I've never managed to get one to date me, I've been fascinated by Asian women since I was in high school, and had a couple as friends. I am looking at younger women, because despite apparently being what they call an "old soul", I have a very youthful outlook and appearance. Of course, there are appearance issues. These are matters of taste. First, I want her to be petite with, shall we say, "gentle" curves, but this applies to white women as well. Then, a face that's pleasant, at least. I've had girlfriends over the years that were not satisfactory one way or the other, so it's not as though these are just fantasies I've built in my mind. It's just reinforced my preferences. Still most important is attitude, and the ability to be friends, to trust, to be honest, to communicate, and to be lovers. I want her to want to be with me, and me to want to be with her, as a person. I refuse to try to buy the affection of an attractive woman. There are too many others. I also don't like lists of "keywords". I would rather read a more detailed self description, to find something special and meaningful, than find a woman casting a wide net. Of course, there's never any telling what it might be that catches my attention. Just be honest, you're going to have to eventually anyway.
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