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Some words before leaving Yesterday, I was scolded by a man on AFF. The reason is that he sent me a message and praised me for "having some good looking meat" of my body . Because my English is not good, so I misunderstood that he means my breast and bottom. I thought it was inappropriate because we didn't know each other at all, so I asked him not to say such "dirty jokes" again. I didn't expect that he was so annoyed. He said I was the stupidest Chinese woman he had ever seen, and my head is "stick to my ass", and so on, although I apologized to him twice , it didn't work at all. He also said he had hundreds of revealing pictures from varied women on Chinese FriendFinder that he could show me to "shock" me. Finally I decided not to reply to him. It was just a simple misunderstanding, but he turned it into a serious conflict. What made me even more surprised is that if he was telling the truth, my fellow women are acting so competitive for survival. Although I appreciate Western values, I don't appreciate Western "sexy", they basically are just showing off some sexy organs: breasts,bottoms, thighs, and to tell the truth, it's made me a little disgusting by watching too much of them. I had a peep at AFF, and I saw photos of my fellow women, most of them definitely sexy. I think Chinese are essentially conservative, and many women do this just to cater to the tastes of Western men on the AFF. Our traditional Chinese culture stresses the dignity and decency of women, some of which are sexually apathetic. But sexually apathetic does not mean that there is no sexual attraction. Sometimes shadowing is more attractive than exposure, just as implicit is one of the art of our language. But Westerners do not understand this. They only appreciate naked bodies |
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that's called sexual harassment, you should have cutted him off when he first started to talk about your body. There is no point to carry on and letting him to abuse you at all. In case you keep the record of his conversation you can report him to AFF. Lesson has been learnt I wish. .
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hi ms, 'having some good looking meat', does refer 2 your body as a sexual object. he does not seem like a very nice guy. i like china, have been there multiple times(i have a 10 year visa), will visit china/asia again next year for my winter vacation. there are cultural differences , but people are basically the same and everyone deserves respect until proven otherwise.
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8/28/2018 12:20 pm |
Mulan, This usage of the word "meat" is not correct English. You could memorize the English dictionary and would not have learned this. It is guttural slang. Below is the Webster's definition for meat. It has become very popular in America to use social media as an outlet for anonymously perpetrating anger and rage. You were abused. Websters Definition of meat 1 a : food; especially : solid food as distinguished from drink b : the edible part of something as distinguished from its covering (such as a husk or shell) 2 : animal tissue considered especially as food: a : flesh 2b; also : flesh of a mammal as opposed to fowl or fish b : flesh 1a; specifically : flesh of domesticated animals 3 archaic : 1meal 1; especially : dinner 4 a : the core of something : heart b : pith 2b a novel with meat 5 : favorite pursuit or interest
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8/29/2018 4:15 am |
"Meat" is definitely a derogatory term for a woman or parts thereof, in a sexual context. In his sick mind, he may have thought he was paying you some kind of compliment, or he had translated something wrong, but then he took exception to you not responding as such. His actions afterward show no respect. The word may be used in a derogatory sense in ways such as "fresh meat" when a new attractive woman is introduced in a group setting, or "f**kmeat" as in a woman of low morals, or a pickup bar being called "meat market". I do prefer a woman of diminutive proportion and sexual attractiveness, but that's a matter of taste. I do not take that as an excuse for disrespect. I've developed a couple of friendships here with women I find very attractive, who have very mature and dignified attitudes to relationships. I speak to them as ladies. Women in the west by that age are largely lacking in respect for themselves or others, which makes the Asian women a breath of fresh air.
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The guy is a total creep. His words are incredibly vulgar and offensive. They remind me of Portnoy's Complaint. 我的天哪！
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