1bigniceguy 65M
50 posts
2/7/2019 10:29 am
Gentleman (and Ladies) Beware

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1bigniceguy 65M

2/7/2019 1:10 pm

The ink had barely dried on this post before encountering another scammer on this site. A simple Google Image Search (which I highly recommend) revealed that they are using pics from a porn model/actress. The pics that they used showed the model fully clothed. Sadly the scammers have infiltrated a lot of these dating sites. It's hard to comprehend how a person can have absolutely no conscience.


1bigniceguy 65M

2/7/2019 8:41 pm

There are a couple sites out there that do that very thing. Plus the scammers come and go very quickly because they know that their account will eventually be flagged. But I'm sure they're right back with a new account and photo.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/8/2019 3:06 pm

Been on this site for a long time, but the people that send message to me seem not to be real or honest. In general they would deny to use webcam to make sure who they are.

The nice ones I'd meet here would probably be those ones on blogs or chat rooms. Anyway the possibility of meeting a good match here is very low


1bigniceguy 65M

2/8/2019 6:46 pm

You have to be diligent with everyone you meet online to verify that they are who they say they are. I have been doing that for a good while now and am often met with the person saying that they're offended and that I don't trust them. In my experience, that response almost guarantees that they are a scammer.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/9/2019 9:00 am

Unfortunately most of the guys that contact seem to be strange ones. Even when they are gold members the way they contact show they are probably scammers. The most honest seem to be people responding on blogs as we are doing here.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/9/2019 2:23 pm

    Quoting 1bigniceguy:
    You have to be diligent with everyone you meet online to verify that they are who they say they are. I have been doing that for a good while now and am often met with the person saying that they're offended and that I don't trust them. In my experience, that response almost guarantees that they are a scammer.
They have an excuse saying it's not possible to do video chat. On this site most guys say that... So, sometimes I think I am losing my time here. But I still believe there are good people...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/10/2019 6:31 am

    Quoting  :

I agree with you but truly it's most likely to be among the fools gold as you say than the opposite. In so many years that I am on this site it seems that only now I met someone really interested in me, but it's very early to tell if it's real, at least he's been very kind and was gentle even knowing my issue with health and have already shown himself on webcam. Let's see if he's honest he says he can come to Brazil next month.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/16/2019 8:03 am

On the bright side, recently every time I report a scammer, their profile is deleted within 15 minutes. If the scammer accounts are really home grown, then they have a very good reason to make them disappear as fast as possible once discovered.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/16/2019 4:23 pm

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Probably, but it is also possible that they just look at the IP logs of the reported person and check them against past violators. A very simple and quick task. A reasonably well run website would handle all reports accordingly. But then we are discussing AFF.

The last two weeks I've several notices of a single account hotlisting me 5 or 6 times in a day. No reason that I can see why someone would hotlist me and then remove me from their hotlist, wash, repeat, over and over again in a single day. I asked two such account holders and they denied having any idea what I was talking about.

We just have to keep a very large shaker of salt handy when we encounter any activity here.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/17/2019 3:05 pm

Do you think guys that get offended very easily are scammers as well? Unfortunately the guys I find attractive don't seem to correspond to my interest... For example, if I get interested in responding to a blog sometimes it means that the owner of the blog sounds interesting to me


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/17/2019 11:25 pm

Can't say regarding guys, but the female scammers get offended by anything that even hints at suspicion or doubt. Most scammers ask to get off Chinese FriendFinder and move to another communications app or website. If they insist on a pay service when there are so many free ones available, that's a slamdunk guarantee they are a fraud. I've never had the experience of getting far enough for the scammers to ask me to send them cash for a ticket or whatever else they use as a reason. Probably, being a psychologist is useful when it comes to the first stages of communication and determining motives.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/18/2019 2:01 pm

Everyone that send messages ask for a private e-mail, is that a bad sign? I get fed up of that !


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/19/2019 7:44 pm

LOL! Overnight I received email notifications that I had messages from three members. This morning I went to my message box to read them and all had already been deactivated. Obviously scammer who were reported by someone else before I got there.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/19/2019 7:48 pm

    Quoting aliceyumi:
    Do you think guys that get offended very easily are scammers as well? Unfortunately the guys I find attractive don't seem to correspond to my interest... For example, if I get interested in responding to a blog sometimes it means that the owner of the blog sounds interesting to me
I always give my email address right away as I know many non-subscribers can't get to my messages easily. Once on email I try to get them to wechat where I can confirm if they are real or not quite easily by asking for a video chat. The services at Chinese FriendFinder are too poorly programmed and slow to bother with for regular communications. It is easy enough to block an address or content with email or wechat if the communication does not go well.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/21/2019 10:04 am

You guys seem to agree that giving the private e-mail right away to the people asking for is not a bad thing. I disagree because I have done that sometimes and the contacts weren't good, they sent me very unpersonal messages, for example, if I ask a question, they simply ignore it, that shows they aren't really interested in the conversation.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/21/2019 10:46 am

    Quoting aliceyumi:
    You guys seem to agree that giving the private e-mail right away to the people asking for is not a bad thing. I disagree because I have done that sometimes and the contacts weren't good, they sent me very unpersonal messages, for example, if I ask a question, they simply ignore it, that shows they aren't really interested in the conversation.
Yes, so as soon as you determine they are scammers or just aren't worth your while, you can just add them to your blacklist and forget them. There is no way you can avoid 100% of scammers unless you delete your account entirely and never go back online.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/23/2019 11:57 am

I enjoy interacting on blogs more than with my inbox messages, there people seem not to be interested in what you say, so no reason why continue.

Is there a blacklist here on AFF? I didn't know that.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/23/2019 3:43 pm

Do you guys think that people on here do not take me seriously cause my english is not good enough? I see you writing long messages and I am not able to do the same...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/2/2019 12:05 pm

    Quoting  :

Hi woaini. I almost lost your comment! Thanks for the response. So you have actually dated women you met on here? From this site I have never met anyone in person, not to wonder cause all are from other countries.

Some guys say in their first message that they are looking for the perfect match. I think that's not real to start in such a way, I expect guys to become good friends first to see if on the next step we click as more.

Woaini, have you ever got a serious relationship starting on here? Respond if you do not feel I am too nosy to ask...

As to expect here on t he site, white guys are the ones who write to me usually, but I haven't got a good friend though. Maybe I can mention you and ESL Edgar and a few women I met on chat room as friends.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
3/3/2019 9:40 am

    Quoting aliceyumi:
    Hi woaini. I almost lost your comment! Thanks for the response. So you have actually dated women you met on here? From this site I have never met anyone in person, not to wonder cause all are from other countries.

    Some guys say in their first message that they are looking for the perfect match. I think that's not real to start in such a way, I expect guys to become good friends first to see if on the next step we click as more.

    Woaini, have you ever got a serious relationship starting on here? Respond if you do not feel I am too nosy to ask...

    As to expect here on t he site, white guys are the ones who write to me usually, but I haven't got a good friend though. Maybe I can mention you and ESL Edgar and a few women I met on chat room as friends.
I met a woman on this site in 2010 and moved to China and married her on year later. We were together for 7 years. Now I'm back. I have met one here this time around online and in person, but not the right connection. I have plans with another to meet soon.

But the scammers are really a pain in the ........


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/3/2019 11:48 am

    Quoting XiWangdeXin:
    I met a woman on this site in 2010 and moved to China and married her on year later. We were together for 7 years. Now I'm back. I have met one here this time around online and in person, but not the right connection. I have plans with another to meet soon.

    But the scammers are really a pain in the ........
Xiwang, interesting that you relocated because you met a good person. I too would like to do the same.

Isn't there a better site than AFF?

As for my cooking habits, I have to tell that I am very bad especially to cook for my mom, if I was to cook only for myself it would be ok.


iloveshopping 60F
2 posts
4/9/2019 2:48 am

Well said ...salute !!


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
4/13/2019 4:37 pm

hi iloveshopping, are you from Hong Kong or relocated?