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Lily20145 60F
887 posts
2/10/2019 10:33 pm

you need to add comment every time you create a blog to be visible on front page.

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XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/11/2019 12:19 am

Notice that on the home page, every time your mouse cursor moves across someone's picture and a window pops up automatically, that is reported as a view. It is entirely possible that those women never looked at you at all.

In addition, China is not the U.S. People here seldom bother to acknowledge messages if they aren't interested in you. And conversations seldom end formally with a goodbye. When they are done with a conversation they just walk away or hang up their phones. Turn your head for a moment and looking back, discover the conversation you thought you were having is finished.

And the "liberated age" as you mentioned does not exist for most Chinese. With few exceptions, Chinese women expect you to convince them how much you love them before they will waste their time giving you the time of day. This one has me stumped because I do not fall in love with someone I haven't already spent a lot of time with. So, after 15 years in China, still trying to figure this one out.


qianjinyatou 63F
3351 posts
2/19/2019 12:38 pm

I find some normal people here, that means, not all are cheater. Congratulations! Lol


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/23/2019 2:42 pm

ESL, are you new here? I know this site since 2000 being on and off and having other handle before. Actually I have to say that in such a long time the only ones I met that turned out to be good are bloggers or chat room contributers. Really it's very difficult to make good contacts in this place.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/24/2019 2:47 pm

    Quoting  :

Hi ESL, thanks for the messages. I responded on my blog and now I am coming here to check what you have left as comment on your own blog to me.

A doubt: how did you get to use skype with on line people from these sites? Did you post your skype id to everyone? Or were you a gold member?

I try to improve my english but in general the people I met do not help that much though they are native speakers, I wonder if they are good at their language. Besides, they seem not serious at all, for example, if I ask a question they simply ignore it, this shows lack of interest, don't you think so? I am surprised that you had so many Japanese students.

I had only one fiancé and he was French, I met him on line on a French dating site. I also had a Brazilian boyfriend, but they were the only ones I consider real boyfriends, though they were mostly met on line than in person.

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Till next time.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/25/2019 12:46 pm

Hi Ed. Well, I use skype but it's very difficult to meet serious people to talk there, mostl I have to block cause they seem to be bad ones. I use it on my mobile, it's weird but I can not get it on my laptop...

Oh Ed, interesting hearing about your background and your skype experiences. I've always been interested in foreigners since I was a teenager. I had many penpals with whom I practiced english.

You make me do a lot of reading in your e-mails I think it's a good way of practicing but if possible I would like to chat on skype some time if you don't mind...?

I have seen the name GEOS, cause I lived in Japan for some years. I imagine you enjoy your job. I like teaching but sometimes I find it difficult to give a good explanation for a pupils doubt. I guess that happens cause I studied japanese but I don't have it as first language.

Sorry if my message is kinda short compared to yours. I appreciate that you wanna be my friend. Until next time


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/26/2019 1:06 pm

Ed, I wonder if my new profile picture has scared you? Actually in my opinion I look less attractive than before... Anyway I am happy that you wrote me again maybe after seeing the photo.

For me it seems you have a nice job, teaching 2 languages. Many people ask me if I teach english but I couldn't do that, I don't think my english is good enough to become a teacher.

Would it be careless to have your skype id on here, so that I could add you? To be honest I am very anxious to connect on line there with someone like you that could help me out with my english even if it's sort of getting to know each other.

Till soon.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/27/2019 7:10 am

Ed, thanks for being honest telling how you feel concerning my appearance. I decided to let my hair grey cause I had to colour the roots every month and I was fed up of that ! I also prefer it short cause I can wash and let it dry naturally.

I understand that many men prefer women with long hair. 2 years ago I had the hair of my former profile picture and I was less overweight. I should take more care of my looks but I am not so interested...

I added you on skype and sent you a hi there.
Bye!


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/27/2019 6:24 pm

    Quoting  :

woaini, thanks for the concern. I am pretty motivated from your attitude and sharing your experience can be very useful to many people. Unfortunately I am not someone so willing to change... I should get rid of at least more than 10 kg to be as on my pics of 2 years ago.

I go to gym but I don't work out that much, I like to go to zumba classes and one more dance classes called fit dance here. I do bycicle also in gym, very light exercise I guess.

I am less attractive in my opinion and what is on the topic is that being like this is unhealthy. Sometimes I talk to my former instructor in the gym and he mentioned that I am lazy.

Changing subject, I expect to meet a gentleman that accepts me the way I am now cause I do not intend to change to please anyone.


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
2/28/2019 12:08 am

    Quoting aliceyumi:
    woaini, thanks for the concern. I am pretty motivated from your attitude and sharing your experience can be very useful to many people. Unfortunately I am not someone so willing to change... I should get rid of at least more than 10 kg to be as on my pics of 2 years ago.

    I go to gym but I don't work out that much, I like to go to zumba classes and one more dance classes called fit dance here. I do bycicle also in gym, very light exercise I guess.

    I am less attractive in my opinion and what is on the topic is that being like this is unhealthy. Sometimes I talk to my former instructor in the gym and he mentioned that I am lazy.

    Changing subject, I expect to meet a gentleman that accepts me the way I am now cause I do not intend to change to please anyone.
GOOD FOR YOU!!! Changing to try to please anyone will only get you a life of resentment every time they do any little thing that disappoints you. It is a completely natural response to think, "after all the things I did for you, you couldn't even do this one little thing!"

Also, I vote for your natural look. It is more appealing to me and many other guys I've talked to. Anything more than a hint of color is too much makeup for my interest. I am interested in the person, makeup and designer clothes just aren't at all appealing to me.

Be yourself, be confident and smile. These are the sexiest things you can do for yourself.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
2/28/2019 1:04 pm

Hi, you gentlemen, I take the point of view of you 3. Xiwang is for the natural look. I am 48, I am not so young, so it's sort of natural that I gain pounds considering that I take medicine that enhances that symphoms.

Edgar, I also see as a good reason to eat healthy and work out, cause that avoid problems in the future, but and if Iam not willing to do so? I haven't decided I could do that cause my body is very weak for example I walk kinda 1 km in more than 15 min, I am very slow pace...

And woaini, I couldn't agree more when you say, I am too relaxed and I should think more to get the goals and attach them if I ever would like to have a partner for life. But it's so difficult to get started! I am really slow with my attitudes at gym...

Besides I have problem in my right leg and foot, actually I have other problems physically speaking but I don't seem to get it solved easily, so I've got some excuse to tell a reason for what I am not so hard-working...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/1/2019 1:18 pm

Hi woaini! Thanks for the advice. However it's hard to follow all that you say. For example, my mom cooks rice and expects me to eat it . She also makes a lot of food in oil...

I don't try to increase the distance every week as I normally can't keep the distance every day... I find it easier to use the stationery bycicle than the treadmill or the elliptical.

Woaini, I do not have much option cause I do not cook and I eat what my mom cooks or what she buys from delivery, so you can imagine the junkie...

Do you eat healthy by preparing your own food?

True that I look less attractive in my eyes, but I think it's better, otherwise I would be taking many men's attention and that's not so good. I prefer not to be a star.

Never liked sports, so no wonder do not like gym either. I would be better if I was in Japan working and taking care of my life. Here there are things that bother me as the spiritual center (where my mom insists to make me go) and the psychiatrical center as well (also my mom again).

Here my life is so boring, in Japan where I used to be, I was more active and I was also happier... Do you think I should try to go to Japan again? My mom is against it, cause she says I am no longer good to work there.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/1/2019 4:27 pm

Hi Edgar. I have tried to cook a few times to offer it to mom but the results weren't as I expected, that's why I don't cook ever since. I remember enjoy cooking in Japan only for myself. My mom can be very picky about what she eats, though she says she won't complain...

How abot you, do you cook for yourself?


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/2/2019 11:22 am

Hello Ed. Thanks for the tips or hints The salad and the yogurt sound good.

Have you been chatting on skype recently? I think our hours have much difference so it's not easy to chat there. Any idea?


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/3/2019 8:35 am

Ok Ed. I am more used to time in Europe cause I have some friends from there. About the US I can't tell. If you do not mind, I let that task to search the time difference to you.

And yes, I live in Sao Paulo. You live in Torrance, near LA, right?


XiWangdeXin 69M
146 posts
3/3/2019 9:45 am

    Quoting  :

New to Asian culture much? In Asia, children at 80 do what their parents tell them. As long as there are parents, they have a very powerful voice.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/3/2019 12:04 pm

    Quoting  :

Hi Ed. I looked on google, I am 5h ahead of you. Considering it is a long time maybe we could hook up only on weekends if you have time.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/4/2019 11:51 am

Hello Ed. On Tuesdays in the afternoon or early evening would be ok to me. The same for the weekends, cause I am not an early bird...

You teach so much during the week and also on the weekends?

At the moment I only go to hospital once a week (on Mondays) and spend the day there. That's my treatment for mental conditions, I am what's called a bipolar disorder patient.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/5/2019 9:26 am

woaini, I understand that you only want to help me with your advice, I say thank you as of course I would feel better and more confident if I had some pounds off.

Your hints are very good and I will try to follow them concerning food. As for walks, I prefer the treadmill or elliptcal, is there a great difference between them? About the results?


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/5/2019 9:38 am

Kayra, thanks for your contributions. I am surprised to hear you take so many efforts and believe those actions will bring you good results. I am so relaxed...

I think that I should go to Japan and live on my own so that I could lead my life as it pleases me and help me stay healthier. But considering that I lost my father to cancer and I wasn't able to meet him before seeing him leave, I think seriously about that happening to me again.

I got strongly ill by that time and my mom was the one to take care of me, what else if something happens to her and I am not around? Besides, many people say I am already too old to go to work in Japan.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/5/2019 12:59 pm

woaini, I did have a boyfriend on line cause I can only say that cause besides those I haven't had any boyfriends! Been always a lonely person, even though many would say I was so appealing before my illness...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/5/2019 1:11 pm

If I wasn't capable of meeting a good person before when I was younger, why shoudl I get reckless about that now that I am close to 50? I have to accept that time is passing...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/5/2019 5:49 pm

Ed, thanks for the reply. I am happy to just have met you and that we can chat sometimes. I think I have so many issues that hardly could get a partner beside me. True that as long as I live with mom I have to listen to what she says.

I would like to get married and have a different life. My mother lets me stressed and maybe the opposite can be the same. Some friend said, how can you get married if you neglect house care and cook? I would say as a response that my house and my mom let me dismotivated...

Maybe I am too negative, but true that my mom can be very bad to live with. And I dream of relocating even if it's in my own country, to other city.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/6/2019 12:28 pm

Kayra and woaini, thank you for your attention and care, it's great to hear from you and that you care for me and that's why you advise me.

The most I have walked or done of trendmill was 30 min session and 1 h for the stationary bycicle, but not at the same session... Besides I go for dance classes but I am sure I am not as active as the other collegues, but I enjoy it 4 times a week.

I don't have someone that could help me out with the dying and I wouldn't invest the price a hair dresser asks to do it. So I am ok with that reasons. I think that some time ago I went to the hair dresser but even there they weren't taking the proper care to do the process so why should I bother to pay for dying my hair?

Ed, the ESL, has even suggested that I could let the hair grow a bit, but I am ok with the lengh it is now, so for me sounds good, what should be done in my opinion is having some pounds down, cause that really makes me hard to live with considering that I am less active due to overweightness.


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/7/2019 5:12 am

    Quoting  :

Kayra, thanks for the concern, but are you sure about the results of that product? Do you use traditional product to dye your hair? I can not believe that only washing it can dye thoroughly my hair...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/7/2019 5:15 am

    Quoting  :

I'll try woaini, but I am not in the mood everyday...


aliceyumi 53F
566 posts
3/9/2019 9:33 am

woaini, I prefe to be invisible with my white hair, not really wanting to be appealing right now...