Thanks ya all
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Posted:Jul 21, 2013 12:05 pm
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2014 8:34 am 1089356 Views
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Hey, thanks all ya all for reading and responding to my blog post! Very nice. When I clicked on "respond" it says I have to be a paying member, so I'm just doing a bulk Thanks!
I posted a full story over on tiara26 s blog. So go there to read it. She has a nice blog too.
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Posted:Jul 20, 2013 10:11 am
Last Updated:Jan 15, 2014 8:10 pm 1981838 Views
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Ok, it's been years now. Amazing. As you see, I don't post much. My profile was turned off for a year or so. Was "in a relationship". Nice woman from Bejing. Here is the story. She is very nice, attractive, cheerful personality. She has a very good job. Says makes a lot of money. Great! I don't have to worry about her asking me for some. After a few weeks of emails, she says, Hey! how about I come to visit you in the U.S.? Somewhat taken aback, I declined her offer. I told her that she hardly knew me, and I her,
Staying connected. OK, I'm no genius, but I know how to use the internet. Can video chat, text, skype, whatever. She doesn't like these things and doesn't want a computer in her home. But her is getting a degree in IT management. So we never IM or video chat. Just attach pictures to email. Nothing wrong with this, but hey, it's 2012 already! I buy phone cards that pretty much never get used.
Also she would almost never set a definite time to talk. Just call anytime, I can always talk to you, she says. OK, I try that when I think she is free. This didn't work too well. In a meeting at work, out to pick up her . On the way somewhere. One of my criteria for an internet relationship, once established that it is serious not just fun friends, is to set up times when we both set aside to talk. Ya know, like a date kinda thing. Something we would do if we lived near each other. I bacame discouraged.
So, our emails and talks on the phone drifted into longer times apart. She told me she called my phone, but hated leaving messages on a machine, so I never knew she called. I stopped responding to emails.
Time drifts by and about a year and a half later, I sent out Happy New Year emails to my friends. I still think of her as such. She writes back... "Where have you been! I tried calling so many times!" Really? Why not just send me an email if can't get hold of me? So we start chatting again and she says, OK now we have known each other for over a year, how about I come to visit you, she asks. This time, I say sure, why not. For you see, in my mind, I was about 95% sure it would not happen. But why not play along. Now if you have read my other blog posts, you may know I have been to China. I have helped people from China come to the U.S., so I know the visa process really well. But we are back to our usual hit and miss communication. She writes and says she has hired a "Top" visa advisory service that "guarantees" getting a visa to the U.S. Why not just ask me? What kind of visa are you getting? No visa is guaranteed. Whatever. So then she needs me to send over a formal invitation to visit in the U.S., an income statement, and such things. So I fed ex overnight. ($$) When will she come? Sometime in late June. OK, I'll ask my boss for vacation time. She says, No, don't do that till I have a visa. Interview day happens. Her visa application is denied. Why? She says she got flustered and told them she was coming to visit her boyfriend. Exactly what the Visa officer does not want to hear. He does a background check to see if I have a habit of importing Chinese women. Great! The visa service is apparently not happy with her too, since she didn't tell them the trip was to visit a "boyfriend". We decide not to have a second interview. I'll come there instead.
Things deteriorate from this point. However, she did send me nice things from China. Very unusual. A nice table cloth. A nice Chinese silk jacket and scarf, tailor made to my size. She said it was very expensive and there was a receipt in the package for $960.
She wants me to come to live in Beijing for a few years till she retires. So I begin to make plans to end my life in the U.S. She starts to remodel her home in Beijing, and I hear from her seldom, except for text messages on cell. Then I get notice that I will be laid off from work. The place where I have worked for 8 years is closing down and jobs moving overseas. My plan to work a lot of OT and save up money to move evaporates.
God, I would have really liked to talk to her about this, since I am in shock and now the future looks sort of dim. I ask her in an email if we can talk. Get a short email back; she says, don't worry, just move to Beijing and she will take care of everything. But after that, communication from her drops down to almost nothing. She is too busy working on her home. Then she emails me, she is being transferred to the UK. Sorry, bye. Removes my friend link on QQ.
And thats it. The end.
Was she a nice person? Yes, she seemed so. When we talked always cheerful, upbeat and nice, great positive attitude. Why my seeming reluctance? Experience and a gut feeling. Of course that could be wrong. All good. Life goes on, does it not? And of course, I wish her well.
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Konichiwa
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Posted:Mar 20, 2011 8:33 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 5:44 pm 1229482 Views
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Arigato gozaimasu for reading my blog. Yes, I do know a little Japanese language, and have been to Japan. Such a sad thing to have happened to a very special place on the planet. My thoughts and prayers for all the lives lost. My is half Japanese, so I have extended relatives there somewhere.
I continue my relationship with Yin Yin. She turns out to be a really wonderful person. Highly educated, very smart, has a very high paying job in Beijing. How on earth did I get so lucky as to have her interested in me? I will never know. Like a true person in charge of things, she seems determined that I am the one for her. Wow! I am at a loss on what to think about this, just between me and blogosphere, if anyone can read this while my profile is turned off. I believe I am beginning to actually like her for real. Could this be...?
OK, 'nuf for now. I'll keep the blog world posted in my highly sporadic postings and all.
Jaa mata..
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Xīn nián kuài lè
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Posted:Feb 17, 2011 6:17 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 5:44 pm 1222948 Views
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Yep, Happy New Year, Gōng xǐ fā cái! and Tù nián jí xiáng! Wishing you great prosperity and Good Luck in the Year of the Rabbit! I'm a rabbit, in fact, a metal rabbit. This is a metal rabbit year, so I could be lucky! Yea me. What will the year bring? My friend Yin from Beijing sent me some red underwear that I am supposed to wear everynight for good luck. Ok, that is really Chinese. I haven't done it yet. Still luck is happening.
At the time I am writing this, no one will see it as my profile is turned off. Why? Because I me Yin and didn't want anymore women writing me. Yin is now writing, "love and kisses" in her emails. I respond in kind, because, I want to see where she is going with the out of the blue intimacy words. She still comes to Chinese FriendFinder frequently. She does not mention this to me. She hints she wants me to come to live in China and she will make enough money for us to live, since she apparently has two houses, one in Beijing and one in Xian where her family lives. This is so different from the usual Chinses woman who (also) says she loves me and wants to come to the U.S. Soon I shall ask Yin why she says these things and continually comes to AFF. Maybe she is sharing cooking recipes with friends, right? Maybe she is finding hot dates in Beijing and keeping me on the side burner as a future thing. We shall see.
My Chinese friend who lived with me for many years has now gotten married she says. I'm happy for her. But... how did she do this without a proper visa? She won't tell me, naturally. She also writes how there is a Chinese woman she knows who was brought over to the U.S. by her now husband and she is cheating on her huband  ! Michelle wants to know should she tell the guy?
My friend Ping, now married but still seperated from her New Zealand husband, writes me daily. She also is on Chinese FriendFinder daily. What the...? Man! My other friend Ping is happily married to her husband in Georgia. My third friend Ping, still in Zhanjiang, thanked me for her Christmas card and dissapeared. (recall I would not send her money) Same with Wen Li. Not so interested in me since I would not send her $2000 so she could recover after her mom passed away. Ai-ya! as the Guangzhouren tend to say.
After I next hear from Yin I will turn my profile back on maybe. Hmmm, maybe I should just do it now? Sure, why not. Hardly anyone reads this. Ok, done! Zaijian for now. 
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December
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Posted:Dec 7, 2010 10:31 am
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2014 9:52 am 1080635 Views
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Here it is December of 2010. I have been working overtime at my job for months, but now that is over and I have free time on the weekends. Was it worth it to work so much? I was working 7 days a week. Conclusion: not worth it.
Carrying on. I've met on Chinese FriendFinder a new person named Yin. Very nice. From Beijing. We have emailed now for 3 weeks and she wants to come and visit me here in the U.S.! Wow, that is unusual. Things are good in Beijing at this time. So the year starts with Joanne wanting me to come to Beijing, all expenses paid, to Yin wanting to come and see me here. I have refused both. Yes, I'm just crazy to keep turning down women it seems. My my, things are different. It is kind of like the movie "Lost in Beijing" documenting the activities of the newly affluent in China. Just my thoughts of course. Both Joanne and Yin are very nice people. Of course, since I told Joanne I wasn't comeing, she hasn't talked to me and we have known each other for over 8 years! Also the sister of one of my old friends has written to tell me that her sister is now in the U.S. and happily married.
From Olo'Mana, an Hawaiian pop group
Kuu Home O Kahalu'u
I remember days when we were smiling
When we laughed and sang the whole night long
And I will greet you as I find you
With the sharing of a brand new song
Last night I dreamt I was returning
and my heart called out to you
To please accept me as you'll find me
Me kealoha ku'u home o Kahaluu
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Another Sunday
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Posted:May 23, 2010 10:20 pm
Last Updated:Mar 1, 2014 5:39 pm 1080071 Views
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Well, another Sunday is coming to a close. Whew, I've worked everyday this week, seven days in a row now. Kinda tired.
Hey, Thanks yangzi1964 and ymwcc for checking out my little blog! Hope it wasn't too boring. Just my brief snippets of random thoughts about contacts with women on AFF. I really am not checking here much these days. But, since it is late and nothing to do, thought I'd catch up.
No word from WenLi. It has almost been a month. I'll send her a card by mail soon to thank her for all the time together. I guess I'll have to assume that she has moved on. Sad, but life is like this I suppose. Still, on reflection, it was a different experience. We talked, like clock work, once a week on Saturday night at 7:30pm. She didn't speak much English, so we would say some simple conversational things and then she would read from an English book and I would help her with pronunciation. She would tell me how to say the same line in Chinese. Not a good way to learn a language, but it was fun. This went on for a year and a half! But as for what her life was like between Saturdays, I really have very little idea. I told her about me. She said she was "fine". Sort of opaque. Then her sisters husband died. Then her mom got ill, and passed away. Very sad. I wish I could do more to comfort her, but at 6500 miles away, It's hard to know what is happening, especially since I didn't know much of what was happening before.
Jie lives in Seattle area now doing who knows what. Working at another casino I believe. At least she got her wish of coming to the U.S. Creepy person that she is.
I did receive a nice email from Ping. She says she is almost ready to move to the U.S. to be with her husband to be. That is exciting. She has been learning acupuncture and massage therapy so she will have something to do in the U.S. How very productive of her. Anyway, I'm happy she has found a nice guy.
Michelle, my friend from Guangzhou, who stayed here for 3 years, says she has found the man of her dreams and now lives with him near Seattle. I'm happy for her.
Love really can happen sometimes!
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Asking for Money
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Posted:Apr 19, 2010 8:57 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 5:44 pm 1221511 Views
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Well, its been a few months. Like 8! Jeez, time just flies. My "girlfriend" or "internetgirl friend" (IGF?) whatever the modern way to say this is (BFF?) has now asked me for money. Over the last seven months I have heard that her mother was very ill, and then passed away a few weeks ago. Truely sad of course. I sent cards to the family. Now IGF's health has turned poor due to stress, and she has used up her savings. She would like me to send $2000.00 to help her. She is "very embarrassed to ask" of course. She has never asked me for anything in the two years we have talked. Sort of unusual behavior for her.
OK, I've laid it on the line. I was apologetic, but told her "I don't send money to women in China." Too cruel? Perhaps. What's a guy to do? She has been, really, a very nice person the whole time we have "been together". Do I have plans to see her in the future? Yes, but they are in my mind only at this time. This only due to the economic problems of the day that have effected me. I have told her about this, so no mystery. No stringing her along. I won't do that, too dishonest.
So, what the h***! I'm tuning my profile back on. Let the world see me again in all my troubled or whatever glory. Life is an adventure, is it not? The adventure has had the best and worst of me and given it back conversly.
"I'm such a dubious soul,
And a walk in the garden
Wears me down.
Tangled in the fallen vines,
Pickin' up the punch lines,
I've just been fakin' it,
Not really makin' it.
Is there any danger?
No, no, not really.
Just lean on me.
Takin' time to treat
Your friendly neighbors honestly.
I've just been fakin' it,
I'm not really makin' it.
This feeling of fakin' it-
I still haven't shaken it." - Paul Simon "Fakin It"
Thanks Paul, I'm going out to my garden now and take a deep breath! Life is for living after all.
Randy
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November
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Posted:Nov 2, 2009 9:45 am
Last Updated:Jul 2, 2017 9:50 am 1222143 Views
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What is November? One of the best Autumn months. Not cold. A little rainy. Both of my sisters have birthdays this month.
A poem I wrote for someone:
There is time enough for love,
Though in passing
It seems but forgotten
Trees along the river whisper
Rushing water sends its reply
dancing in the autumn sunlight
leaves float gently from the sky
awake from slumber
the delights of life
flowers at the gardens gate
catch rays of morning light
sing with each passing day
each day a gift of night
a cloud drifts high above
there is time enough for love
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Well, I haven't written in years, so this wasn't so good. Oh, well, no one is really reading it probably anyway.
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Here we are in the Years
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Posted:Oct 14, 2009 6:18 pm
Last Updated:Dec 3, 2009 6:45 am 1220687 Views
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Can't believe how long its been since adding to my blog. My old fans (ha!) have not visited in ages. Guess I need to spice things up.
My roommate from Guangzhou moved out now quite a while ago. An interesting passing. She then lived with an older couple for a long time and has now moved to Seattle. We had dinner at a nice restaurant over looking the ocean as the sun sank into silver blue sea. (Pacific Ocean if you were wondering) We lived together for 3 years. One very brief romantic interlude, but then just stayed friends. Will we ever see each other again? We affected each others lives for about 9 years, sometimes more some times less.
Then there is Wen Li. A very nice Chinese lady in Wuhan. We have been talking for over a year now, every Saturday night, on yahoo chat. Ostensibly I am teaching her English, and she is teaching me Chinese. My pronunciation is very good she says. Probably just being nice. My ability to remember Chinese is horrible. Still fun to learn it. She wants me to visit her, get married and come to the U.S. What a wonderful idea, full of promise and romance. Will it come true. It did once, now, not so sure. I have lived with Oriental women (3 of them) for a total of 17 years. They have left an indelible trace on my soul.
And so it goes. Neal Young wrote, in the late '60s "Here we are in the years, as the showman shifts the gears, lives become careers, cry in fear, let us out of here.
Kind of depressing, like Neal is at times.
Until next time, the always exciting world of a not so interesting individual on the planet.  Time to walk my Pipp.
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It's all good
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Posted:Apr 7, 2008 9:14 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 5:44 pm 1220947 Views
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Well, I was writing a woman for a few days. Sent her a new pictures of me and my , and she kept sending me the exact same picture of herself with the same message. Does she not know how to create a new message and attach a new picture? Who knows.
Big surprise, two young women have viewed my Blog. Hey, thanks! One of you is younger then my . I believe the youth expression is "Sweet!"
I'm wondering if I should post some clearer pictures of myself or just start over with a new profile.
Today I'm off to Chinese food with my team from work. Yummy!
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