What is your Challenge ?
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Posted:Apr 2, 2011 9:44 am
Last Updated:May 9, 2011 7:03 pm 9531 Views
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Some are here just to write and some to read.. some for various other reasons.
If you are here looking for a mate, what do you find is the biggest challenge?
What is the deterrents ?
Do you think the options are more than fancy of the moment ?
Do you think people are generally honest in seeking someone ?
Do you think people use it more as a testing ground?
Do you think 1.(some) | 2. (many) | 3. (most) are here just to get 1. ( ego elated) 2. ( money) 3. ( sex) 4. ( free ride on someone else dime) 5. ( to find a relationship they will invest themselves in )
When or if you are less than truthful, are you lying to 1. (Yourself) 2. (Others)
Do you trust the sincerity of people in general in this web site ( yes) | (no) | (maybe)
Has your experiences been ( good) | ( bad) | (Indifferent) | ( mixed) .
Do you think people say 1. ( what is honest ) 2. ( Politically correct) 3 ( what will make them look desirable) 4. ( what is commonly expected) 5. ( what is patronizing) 6. ( what is real in the everyday world of relationships) 7. ( what is fantasy) 8. ( what is idealistic)
Do you believe in 1. (Growing in love) 2. ( falling in love)
What is your priority 1. ( love) 2. ( money) 3. (Sex)
( choose one or all three, if you choose all three put them in the order of priority)
How well do you really know yourself 1. ( very well) 2. ( good) 3. ( unsure of self)
Facing the challenges can always bring one to see clearly if they are standing in their own way and blaming others, or if they are living and make choices to join with others. First is identifying challenges.
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The Complexity of Beauty
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Posted:Apr 2, 2011 8:45 am
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2011 6:07 pm 9431 Views
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The Complexity of Beauty... is "ASTOUNDING" !!!! , in its simplicity of Graceful Elegance in presence !!!!
Its found in many ways, many views and of much feelings of many sorts... and yet,, within its simplicity of graceful elegance. It is Astounding, in the complexity which it is, and truly a delight in the natural presence of its being.
Shall each person cultivate the beauty which is.
One then finds the majesty of their being, as "Beautiful".
These are the truth hidden within the complexity, rooted in the Truths of Gods blessing,
Shall one always indulge understanding, to find the awareness of knowledge, and embrace the wisdom, which compose the simplicity which is beautiful.
Yes, it is far deeper than the view of an eyes grasp, but more full than a heart can comprehend in a simple viewing, Yet of all the Majesty of Gods Creation.
Always seek and pursue, the grace to understand the complexity within beauty, and one may then appreciate its simplicity, and take nothing for granted.
Learning to love what God has Created.. is the works of our lives
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did you like it
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Posted:Mar 31, 2011 5:14 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 2:52 am 9434 Views
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That probably is the question beyond the questions. and if people like something, they generally will continue doing it.
If they don't like it, it may have less to do with you, and more to do with them. it may have more to do with expectations than actual indulgence to appreciate.
people who are not open to ideas, may have fixed concepts which are not open to particular things. One cannot change them, and nor should one wast time trying to convince anyone of what they don't want to consider.
Share what you will, expound as you choose, but in the big picture of it all, many will not understand you, and some will.
People measure many things in many ways, but in the big picture, its all views and concepts about life...
If you can think it, its probably likely that someone else has thought it over the span of life in one way or another.
In the world of 6+ billion people, there is always someone who is willing to share with you the desire you have and, there is someone probably looking for someone like you to share with them.
In the expanse of the Web - there are attitudes, disposition which go in every direction one can imagine.... and its all connected, in what we call a web, as well as within the reality of the world community in the physical pretense world.
Seek to harm none and one may find much they can like and, engage.
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the real meaning of 'sharing"
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Posted:Mar 29, 2011 4:35 am
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2011 4:28 am 10205 Views
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it seems to take some people longer to see reality trends, and changes than others.
for a long time, I've written about the equality factor, some women tripped and some became angry, because maybe some did not want to face the changes from thing they had come to rely on for their ego stroking support mechanism, or measuring if someone likes them. maybe now, this trend will make people see each other as individual, more than based on what someone is buying or giving them. It just might bring people to actually come to see each other as persons. And not a means to some material gain.
It just might make the nature of relationships better, and may even lead women, to learn to share in bed from a self inspired and self motivation to be more pro-active about doing so.
when these things come to pass, it may just diminish the money, sex, power game, and people actually 'relate as two people".
Its amazing how teens, who don't have money, but learn to share as two people, often times teens seem to love and share with more sincerity as persons, than many adults are capable of doing.
Many times, 's seem to love each other,with their whole self, far more freely than many adults do.
but now, that it become printed in main media, maybe adults may see it more clearly, and relearn how to actually share, rather than be consumed in the 'bargain system" many adults have grown to engage.
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LONDON (Reuters) – More than half of British women pay for themselves on a first date, even though men still want to pay, according to a survey on Monday.
A poll of 1,924 adults for online bank first direct found that 58 percent of women expect to split the bill on a first date, double the proportion of men (29 percent).
Additionally, 14 percent of women think it should be whoever suggested the date.
Only a quarter of women said that they thought men should pay for a first date, while three percent said they themselves should foot the bill, suggesting that women feel they should not be beholden to men, but that men should also pay their way.
Male respondents on the other hand believed that chivalry isn't dead, with 55 percent expecting to pay the full bill on a first date, and men spending an average of 65 pounds ($104) on a first date compared to women who spend 50 pounds.
Shouldering not just the financial burden but also the organizational responsibility, more than nine in 10 males (94 percent) said they would organize the first date, compared with just 65 percent of women.
Highlighting the financial considerations behind dating, 38 percent of people would use discount vouchers on a first date, a figure slightly higher for men (41 percent) than women (36)
"As we approach the wedding season, the couple on everyone's lips is Kate Middleton and Prince William," first direct Senior Savings Product Manager Richard Brown said in a statement. "It would be fascinating to know if they split the bill or if William paid and pulled out a discount voucher on their first date."
(Reporting by Paul Casciato, editing by Steve Addison)
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Today, women work, just like men work, its about time society begins to awaken to a system that is long past its time to fade away.
If a man pays it should be his choice, not some superimposed duty.
Most men will always want to give women things, because its just something men like doing. but many men don't want it to be a demand nor a demanded expectation placed upon him, he prefer it to be a courtesy he extends, WHICH IS APPRECIATED, not expected.
the women who understand this, will find men are more willing then to share what ever he can with here.
Even is she has more money than he does, he will give and share things with her, if she is simply a person who appreciates rather than expects such things.
Women who judge men based on what he gives, will soon loose that man, and when she looses him, she cannot get him back. because there is always a woman who simply and genuinely appreciates what he gives. and those are the women who equally so give unto me, without reluctance and without expectations attached for him to reciprocate with some gift or favor.
Seems the world may be learning the real meaning of 'sharing"
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Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby..
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Posted:Mar 26, 2011 8:28 am
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2011 9:44 am 9274 Views
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Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby... stunned and delighted, charm glows and beauty smiles. how might we make the magic of a day share the truth we feel..
Must the shadows cast such wonders of your figure, and the sunlight bring the glow in your eyes, and then !!
I look at you!!!!! Elated with desires appreciations..
Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby... stunned and delighted, charm glows and beauty smiles.
Strut like you may, I love the way your hips sway, and the language you body has to say... It simply makes my day... showing me the wonders of woman, in delightful yet, full with beauty in all that it has to say..
We can talk, find what we like, do what we do, sharing the joys of what we will, as we play; Making what we like day by day..
Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby... stunned and delighted, charm glows and beauty smiles.
I hear your heart speaking in the tones of words you say, the meanings, give us so much to behold, we speak with the soul, driven in the ways that make us each grasp and take hold.
Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby... stunned and delighted, charm glows and beauty smiles.
From beyondfantasy, for the beauty of woman, I see...
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Mercy !!! for the beauty of my baby...
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physical activity
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Posted:Mar 23, 2011 4:57 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 2:52 am 9252 Views
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CHICAGO – Sex and exercise can trigger heart attacks in older people who don't get much of either, a new analysis finds. The risk is low, but it's a good reminder that slackers should change their exercise habits gradually, especially in middle age.
People who exercise regularly have a much smaller risk of having a heart attack immediately after sexual or physical activity, said lead author Dr. Issa Dahabreh of Tufts Medical Center in Boston.
"It would be really bad if someone thought our paper means people should not exercise," Dahabreh said. "If anything, it's the opposite."
The analysis, appearing in Wednesday's Journal of the American Medical Association, combined results from 14 studies involving more than 6,000 patients.
The studies involved only people who'd had heart attacks or had died suddenly from a heart problem. The studies looked at what the people were doing during the hour or two before their heart attacks and compared that to the same people's activity on normal days with no major heart problems.
That study design is used to try to answer the question, "Why did the heart attack occur now?"
Physical activity and sex increased the risk of heart attack by a factor of about three, according to the analysis of the pooled results. Exercise increased the risk of sudden cardiac death by nearly five times. The researchers didn't find a triggering relationship between sex and sudden cardiac death, that is, a sudden death from a heart problem.
The risk for any one person is extremely low.
"If you were to follow 10,000 people for a year and if they all decided to increase their physical activity by an hour a week, you could expect to see two to three more heart attacks," Dahabreh said.
That risk is offset for most people by the benefits of exercise. The more frequently people exercise, in general, the less risk they have of exercise or sex triggering a heart attack.
Most of the patients in the studies were in their late 50s and early 60s, but the findings are a cautionary tale for people in any age group who are slowing down.
Exercise might even be considered cross-training for sex, said Mercedes Carnethon, a heart disease researcher at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, who wasn't involved in the research.
"Engaging in regular physical activity is a requirement for maintaining a long, safe, healthy sex life," Carnethon said.
"If this isn't more motivation for people to maintain some degree of physical activity, I'm not sure what is," Carnethon said. "Get out and walk. Do something."
By CARLA K. JOHNSON, AP Medical Writer Carla K. Johnson,
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FINDING Relationships
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Posted:Mar 21, 2011 5:05 pm
Last Updated:Mar 31, 2011 4:53 pm 9356 Views
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Look for many things, but above all things look for the honesty of person.
The world can and will be a better place when men and women choose each other based on simply a core level of honesty of person. coupled with the natural desire which drive people to find the initial attractions unto each other. Not material standing, or title or degree or such fictitious things. but something within the natural character of one unto the other is an attracting force.
Pretty is always a delight to look upon, and we will find often times it is a lead in to what attracts. But always look beyond the image and see the character, pay attention to the openness to communicate. If one is too guarded and far too secretive, then one might just as well be prepared for the unexpected. which may come in the form of major disruptions to your want for peace and harmony.
Beauty is many things to many people, some find it on a glance, and some find it through shared interchanges. you choose which works best for you. but what ever works for you- 'the honesty of person' will always become a premier factor in what a relationship becomes or does not become.
Look around your world, watch the media and learn, then one may well see that looks guarantee nothing, but the image one see, it is no guarantee of honestly, nor of truthfulness about any aspect of life, it is simply the way one looks.
If communicating is strained and like pulling teeth, then this is not a situation that will make a good relationships of open communication.
Honest people have little to hide and less to be ashamed of, truthful people can and will eloborate upon subject matter, and be less eager to engage in a manipulative quest. Watch what is before and after a smile, and one may then learn better the depth and extent of the smile, as well as how the actions match with the words being spoken.
If one puts many bargains around sex, it may indicate that the relationships will not be without a series of such bargains to ultimately dominate the relationships and turn it into a bargain and barter situations.
If one is expecting more than they have to give, one probably should be alert to this cycle, long before they get caught up in a situation of being used, and ultimately abused.
If the man or woman, acts and come across as if they think they are better than the other, then there is imbalance and it may become more imbalanced rather than less imbalanced.
It's no longer a situation to be blinded by allure, but pay attention to what is true.. it may mean making less excuses, and holding each other accountable to the point and fact of honesty..
for honest people it will be simple, but for those who have issue or challenges with honesty... much should become evident before ones gets lost in a situation which may well become a detriment to their well being.
This site is a good example of what is within life, as the levels of 'temperamental character presentations, is very overt in this site and mirrors what is within the physical world of face to face meeting.
People can and will turn on and off and sometimes with the swiftness of a light switch, some have more depth to go beyond surface and, some do not choose such.
making relations is, .... the work people put into it
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In Such Times of Tragedy
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Posted:Mar 12, 2011 2:29 pm
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2011 9:03 pm 9240 Views
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In such times of Tragedy, for those of us who view it from afar, we may understand better, if we only imagine, in an instance, everything which makes up your community, home, family and material possessions, "gone in a flash". All the treasured things we hold dear unto, gone, never to be recovered again. This is a reality many face.
Maybe it may humble us to let go of the vain ego's and get real with the basic of life, and stop tripping on each other about some faux status based on material things.
Then if we truly embrace what is compassion, we may come the true reality of what many face, such as, no place to call home, no place to sleep, the convenience of food and water, not readily accessible, transportation unavailable, and power outages, then compound that with cold weather.
When all this is faced, then comes the FOREMOST CONCERNS, within the inner minds reality, to wonder where are friends, where is family, couple this with the fragile feeling all this gives, and add in the feeling of not knowing if there will be more tragedy of further earthquakes.
Now comes another aspect. One does not know what they will do, employment may be gone, no place to work, no place to call home and absolutely- No viable options, to help with life and family stability.
We may well consider and understand much, when we view it from afar. Because the dire reality people who are directly affected, is far more compound and full of true devastation(s).
Our concern may be "How can we Help".. Now may be a time when Social Media and the Friends people have made from other places, may be a time to truly and honestly interact with those you have learned and gained the connections to truly trust.
We as people of the world are "One", it brings such tragedy to truly look beyond the image of our faces and the variations of our language, and realize we are 'human beings", all simply people of the world.
We must gain this realization from the extremeness of causalities we are experiencing in the world.
Countries fighting reforms where the people want to be recognized and have voice as people, to the areas where Natural disaster tragedy has ripped social systems.
We must get off the contention of religious ideologies fighting each other, and if they are true religions, they are for individuals choosing how they live and respecting the choices other make, without trying to impose one upon the other. A religious leader who preaches division or one religion against another, then that is not the type of religion you should have interest to embrace. Because we as human beings should seek unity as people, and let each worship as they choose, while respecting another to worship as they choose.
Any religion which teaches people to attack , terrorize or harm people of another religion, is not a religion which respects the rights God gave unto human beings.
If we embrace these things, we can find want and reason to help one another, to stand for the good of each other and to work toward being of compassion for each other.
May God Bless, the People of All Nations, and May God give mercy and comfort to those facing challenges, and May each person find friendship as human beings, and Care as persons.
As the days unfold, there will be many without home, many seniors without family and many people in-between who are facing many losses.. If we don't seek and pursue unity as human beings now, we have to ask ourselves what will it take, if this does not bring up to compassion's truth.
The world quickly turned its back on Haiti, when the news cameras left, will we do the same to the Japanese, or the Chinese who equally are facing challenges, Will we turn our backs on Libyans, who are being tormented and killed by a leaders who is about self interest and killing the people of the land all for the sake of one man seeking to contain power and control
It's our time in the world to ALL STAND UP FOR UNITY - ALL STAND AGAINST TYRANTS AND TERRORIST AND ALL STAND TOGETHER TO BE OF HELP UNTO EACH OTHER.,
To Rebuild our World, and help Rebuild our Nations...
EVERY NATIONS, SHOULD IMMEDIATELY - CANCEL 75% OF THEIR NATIONAL DEBT UNTO ONE ANOTHER..
WE AS A WORLD NEED AN "ECONOMIC RESET"... OUR LEADERS MUST MAKE THIS CHOICE, THEN WE CAN ALL REBUILD. DOING SO WILL NOT AFFECT THE AVERAGE CITIZEN.
THIS RE-STRENGTHENS EACH NATION, TO MAKE USE OF THEIR CAPITAL GENERATED WITHIN THEIR BORDERS TO HAVE FUNCTIONAL BUDGETS, WHICH ALLOW US AS A WORLD TO HEAL AND REBUILD.
IT'S TIME FOR NATIONS TO BECOME WISE AND NOT LET THE WORLD BE TROUBLED BY THE GREED'S OF MANKIND.
75% OF GLOBAL WORLD DEBT SHOULD BE CANCELED IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!
THIS WILL ENABLE EACH NATION TO UTILIZE ITS RESOURCES TO REBUILD AND HELP STABILIZE ITS PEOPLE AND ITS NATIONAL POSITION.
WHAT GOOD IS MONEY WHEN DEVASTATION DESTROYS EVERYTHING AND ONE NATION AND THE OTHER IS CRIPPLED WITH INTEREST PAYMENTS, IT CAN'T MAKE, WHILE IT TRIES TO BUILD AND REBUILD ITSELF.
ARE WE TOO GREEDY TO MAKE THE CHOICE, ARE WE TOO VAIN TO MAKE THE CHOICE, ARE WE TOO POWER HUNGRY TO MAKE THE CHOICE.
EACH NATION, WILL IMMEDIATELY BALANCE ITS BUDGET, AND EACH NATION WILL IMMEDIATELY HAVE COUNTLESS BILLIONS TO INVEST IN ITSELF AND ITS PEOPLE.
NOW WILL VANITY MAKE US IGNORE THE OPTIONS AND WILL GREED MAKE US DENY THE CHOICE AND WILL OUR EGO, STAND IN THE WAY OF CALLING FOR THIS IMMEDIATE ACTIONS.
CANCEL 75% DEBT, EVERY NATION, UNTO THE OTHER... THE GLOBAL STANDING OF EACH NATION WILL BE THE SAME, BUT THEY WILL BE WITHOUT THE BURDEN OF DEBT... EACH NATION CAN THEN USE ITS RESOURCES TO REPAIR ITSELF.
WE LIVE IN THIS CHAOS BECAUSE OF THE GREED AND THOSE 1% WHO CONTROL THE WEALTH, THEY WILL STILL HAVE THEIR WEALTH, BUT AS NATIONS, WE, ONE AND EACH OTHER WILL NOT HAVE THE BURDEN OF DEBT, CRIPPLING US.
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"common sayings"
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Posted:Mar 12, 2011 8:09 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 2:52 am 9076 Views
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Where did Piss Poor come from?
Interesting History
They used to use urine to tan animal skins, so families used to all pee in a pot & then once a day it was taken & Sold to the tannery.......if you had to do this to survive you were "Piss Poor"
But worse than that were the really poor folk who couldn't even afford to buy a pot......they "didn't have a pot to piss in" & were the lowest of the low
The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn't just how you like it, think about how things used to be. Here are some facts about the 1500s:
Most people got married in June because they took their yearly bath in May, and they still smelled pretty good by June.. However, since they were starting to smell . ..... ..
Brides carried a bouquet of flowers to hide the body odor.
Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting Married.
Baths consisted of a big tub filled with hot water. The man of the house had the privilege of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the . Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty you could actually lose someone in it.. Hence the saying, "Don't throw the baby out with the Bath water!"
Houses had thatched roofs-thick straw-piled high, with no wood underneath. It was the only place for animals to get warm, so all the cats and other small animals (mice, bugs) lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof...
Hence the saying "It's raining cats and dogs."
There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where bugs and other droppings could mess up your nice clean bed. Hence, a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection. That's how canopy beds came into existence.
The floor was dirt. Only the wealthy had something other than dirt. Hence the saying, "Dirt poor." The wealthy had slate floors that would get slippery in the winter when wet, so they spread thresh (straw) on floor to help keep their footing. As the winter wore on, they added more thresh until, when you opened the door, it would all start slipping outside. A piece of wood was placed in the entrance-way.
Hence: a thresh hold.
(Getting quite an education, aren't you?)
In those old days, they cooked in the kitchen with a big kettle that always hung over the fire.. Every day they lit the fire and added things to the pot. They ate mostly vegetables and did not get much meat. They would eat the stew for dinner, leaving leftovers in the pot to get cold overnight and then start over the next day. Sometimes stew had food in it that had been there for quite a while. Hence the rhyme: Peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas porridge in the pot nine days old. Sometimes they could obtain pork, which made them feel quite special. When visitors came over, they would hang up their bacon to show off. It was a sign of wealth that a man could, "bring home the bacon." They would cut off a little to share with guests and would all sit around and chew the fat.
Those with money had plates made of pewter. Food with high acid content caused some of the lead to leach onto the food, causing lead poisoning death. This happened most often with tomatoes, so for the next 400 years or so, tomatoes were considered poisonous.
Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got the middle, and guests got the top, or the upper crust.
Lead cups were used to drink ale or whisky. The combination would Sometimes knock the imbibers out for a couple of days.
Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would gather around and eat and drink and wait and see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.
England is old and small and the local folks started running out of places to bury people. So they would dig up coffins and would take the bones to a bone-house, and reuse the grave. When reopening these coffins, 1 out of 25 coffins were found to have scratch marks on the inside and they realized they had been burying people alive... So they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin and up through the ground and tie it to a bell.
Someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the graveyard shift.) to listen for the bell; thus, someone could be saved by the bell or was considered a dead ringer.
Now, whoever said History was boring!!!
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"Guess what" ?
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Posted:Mar 7, 2011 6:25 pm
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2011 5:16 pm 9185 Views
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it might surprise you, but that girl you met, who may have you smiling from ear to ear, the one who is well beyond being a , and past being a teenage.. she can take care of herself, or she would not be where ever it is that you met her 
You just might fare better, to not come along trying to be the savior nor the merchants helper bearing gifts. Its probably not likely that she will go hungry today, and she probably has never had a problem finding some place to sleep and provide shelter for herself.
If you meet her and she has an apartment or a house, you can probably figure that she makes her rent or mortgage payments, or she would not be there, and she probably has her electricity working, along with her water and a telephone, either land line or cell phone. she probably shops and buy not just food but clothes and other things she wants and needs..
So why would you assume you have to suddenly act responsible for her, just to share time with her ? or why would you let her assume that suddenly you are going to be responsible for these things, or for her to even expect you to be responsible for these things ?
In such situations, is it not logical that two people get together to "share", and not for one to assume responsibly for the other.
No problem give her what ever you want to give her, but don't assume if she really wanted it, that she would not find a way to get it for herself.
Now if she was chasing other girls, she would continue taking care of her own things, why would you think if she is looking for a man, that she would suddenly be less capable of taking care of her own things.
It's a funny world, and people make it hilarious in the games people play.
Remember one thing, two self responsible individuals, can make a responsible relationship... share responsibility with each other.
Build relationship that work? and one may find themselves within working relationship..
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