What do men and women really think about dating?
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Posted:Jan 17, 2011 10:54 am
Last Updated:May 18, 2024 5:29 pm 19347 Views
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by: Shine and man mag Maxim
What do men and women really think about dating?
Shine and man mag Maxim got together for a joint survey of more than 2,000 people to figure out what men and women are thinking when it comes to dating. Among the surprises: Women surveyed prefer dates where there is an activity to focus on (going bowling, for example), while men were the ones who wanted to go out for dinner and drinks—and were the ones more interested in pursuing serious, long-term relationships.
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kinda fits with what I said before, 'women are more interested in being entertained, than to develop any depth. and the only depth they want is, that which addresses their expectations about what he is willing to give and do for her, or what kind of drama entertainment he provides for her  maybe it explains why so many situations never have any potential to be a relationship, and why many men, end up wasting his time, and finding out he is judged more about what kind of entertainment he takes her to, or what kind of trinkets he gives her... and when those things are not present, she may well be apt to flee.
Does this article imply that the more a man treats her as a novelty, the happier she is ????
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123 push
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Posted:Jan 16, 2011 9:01 am
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2011 4:51 am 19882 Views
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The pace of life in full motion,
123bpm... the sounds of tomorrow, moving through today
punch, snatch, tuck and roll, spring and slang.
hold on, It'll make you do ya thang!!!
The pace of the passions, rough on edge, smooth at the core.
123 push...
the sounds of tomorrow...
not too fast, but far from slow, but step by step.
the refrain wrapped within the melody, reaching from within,
overdrive, filtered with feedback, and punch, jerk, and stroll.
somewhat like rock and roll, but funk in the heart, soul in the feel, but the story tell of country, a sound that's full, but so very real.
123 push...
get on, get in, and feel the movement within.
take a ride, feel the spin, tuck and turn, a quickie punch,a slow snatch, full tuck and roll, get ready!!! ... can't help but strut when you stroll.
somewhat like rock and roll, but funk in the heart, soul in the feel, but the story tell of country, a sound that's full, but so very real.
Created by: Touch-reaching beyondfantasy..
The beauty of the female form and music... an amazing combination. both evoking many passions within feeling.
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discoveries + "Men and belly fat" + Over-All Health
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Posted:Jan 15, 2011 3:11 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2011 4:06 am 20089 Views
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I think this is a study that should have been conducted long ago, yes, much is certain diet and exercise, but there is a gender aspect to it as well, because it is such a commonality in the world. some may be related to the conveniences we engage in how we live, as well as the ways we indulge or lack to indulge full range body motion as we age.
Its in some ways evident the older we get the more we may need to look at how we work our bodies, and we may need to manage to put more effort into toning more than muscle building. But learning equally so, the value of "water". the continual controversy about salt is equally so a matter, we need it, but we have to manage it, it can help one retain water, but it also can be equally so, part of helps our body dispense a variety of impurities, but we have to manage to be aware of the crystalline effects as well.
But also, learning the various oils that enter our body, there is vegetable oils, and a minor level of oils in various fruits, but we may certainly be of concern to be strongly managing the animal fats we ingest.
Next becomes, "what's on the food label"... unfortunate for us as a society, we use far too much preservatives, and we use far too many thing, that are manufactured mixtures used as preservatives.
Today, no matter what food one buys, there are thing within it one may find difficult to pronounce in the clinical term, but the producers won't use the layman terms, because we may simply avoid the products.
We are driven by many influence, work pressures, time sensitive objectives and duties, and this often times drive us to 'fast food places"
but again, we can be selective about which ones we frequently and which ones we utilize in a rarity situations.
We see many very wealthy people, who eat at what they call 'fine dining", the cut of the meat may be the best one can find, but we may know less about the sauces and prep of these products than we truly admit. It may not take a big portion, but we also must be aware that when we engage a particular taste and acquire taste for things, the basis of what makes that taste is also something we may consider on a dietary and toxicity inducing level as well.
Today it cost more and more to "eat well".. I've been fighting off a cold for a week, earlier In the week I made a "pork soup", and shared it with the people at work, and the next day, I made a salad with spring mix, and a variety of other vegetables, I blended two dressings, and we had it for lunch. Last week I made a chicken soup, with skinless chicken, it was good, but there is a slight difference in skinless chicken soup, and chicken soup with the skin, and there is a difference in the white mean and dark meat skin and bone in chicken soup. I'm trying to get people in the mode to make Tuesday or Thursday a "Salad Day"..
Actually I enjoy the cooking part, I just am not a very big eater, so I eat smaller portions, so its good I can share it, so I simply make a big enough pot so, it can be shared.
One day last week, I bought soup at subway, the beef soup was ok, but more juice than stock, then I one day I bought chicken noodle soup, there was barely any chicken or noodles in it. Last week, I bought a Chinese soups, and again, it was more juice than stock. but it beat the readily available fried chicken, there are many types of friend chicken places in every city, or the burgers or fried fish and bar-b-que or taco bell stuff, which is readily available.
In Los Angeles, I had a place I could order, "Wor Wonton", it was always back with lots of stock, but some items, were more low cost items than actually the things I'd like to add.
Today, I made Chicken Soup, I baked the chicken, it has cabbage, spaghetti,noodles, mixed vegetable, variety of seasonings, and I will add a bit of chicken gravy mix, to give it a thicker consistency. It has both red and white onion, and diced potato as well. But it is certainly "more than I can eat"..
Maybe I may simply freeze it in portions, and use it as Lunch a couple of days next week.
My next mission is to join the fitness gym, so I can go do 45 minutes around 5am, and I've began again to take my daily vitamins.
Quite interesting, before I left California, I walked and could walk very good distance, I rode my bicycle and had built up to ride good distance as well, I had weekly chiropractic visits, where I got therapeutic massages, and things were good in that sense,.. Here - the conditions of environment I found a bit different, the weather is unpredictable, and some times its simply excessively hot, and now its flashes of numbing cold. I don't particular like it, but here, the full flow of seasonal changes is a firm reality. therefore, this is where the gym may become more useful-
On the humor side of it all, next is to find a woman, who like some of this stuff, but also like the "other stuff', because that too is a part of full circle health. and it is quite a vital part of the human beings physical, and mental fullness.
will talk about some other ideas, I've engaged to consider... later..
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1950's - Black and White - Movies.
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Posted:Jan 15, 2011 9:20 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2011 6:35 pm 15764 Views
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I'm continually amazed at the 'designer work' of the dresses the women wore in the old black and white movies. Not only were they elegant but they kept a vision of a character, yet pushed sensuality. Although, sexuality did not dominate the character aspect, even in a provocative setting. I think the mix of such, made it even more possible for people to make and build relationship- even today, people show everything, but want the character feel of what those 1950's style gave them, and the two concepts seem to meet a point where they conflict on the designer states of today's feel about the imagery presented. It certainly has not been helped by the 'barracudas in gowns", on these wives shows..
Unfortunate as it is, the shows with all these women in gowns, who look harden and when they speak, they sound like contentions gladiators when the whole point of a gown is to give a soften appearance, and the character demean is then infused with a gentle grace. But geez, not in these depictions today. Its more about brazen brutal sexuality. which conveys a aggressive near rude demand, more than an inviting attractions.
The designers, who grasp this concept and turn it, will win.
As there are many many people, beyond all the flair and outer speak, still seek that grace and that gentle nature of woman as being of grace. it does not mean dispense with sexuality, but it means to be filled with more sensuality.
Even when character and sensuality is the dominant image, it gave a certain flavor of character and sexuality to the likes of Playboy, more flavor, and people viewed it with integrity even in the nude presentations.
Because what was general presentations, was much more fitting with the deeper mindset of people.
today the external imagery where sexuality over power sensuality, and character has become down played in the presentation of many of today's ways, which are simply different than the 1950's.
the paradoxical point, is, people still aspire to want the character quality of the 1950, but only can find much of the current styling today.. therefore, the initial impact of individual female imagery is faced with many a dilemma.
Today, its about Lewd, using sexuality with the delusion it will convey sensuality, but what results is, it is more lacking of character.
Woman in the eyes of man, will always be desired for her character and a mix of sensuality, and those women will be pursued for stability mate selection, long ahead of those who lean to the lewd using sexuality that has a hardened edge which erodes sensuality, and this the grace of character become even more lacking.
What has come to be associated with the latter, is contentions, challenges of contemptuous manner, and quick flips to a rude frame of responsiveness. thus we have the "barracuda dressed in silk and satin syndrome".. 
Also with men, there is the difference in the daddy attire, and the man of character attire, yes, the man of character can utilize colors, but blend them well, and match well the texture, but know the difference in how it coordinate with the situations and how the demeanor fits with the captions, and he is then see as a man of character, more than as a peacock with its feather extended in a frustrated bliss of disparity.
Character is always the sensual attraction mechanism.
Quite an interesting to point explore.
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what wins
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Posted:Jan 15, 2011 8:55 am
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2011 5:44 am 15526 Views
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if nothing else.... it certainly may well be 'consistency with the will to perform with more clarity and focus.
Are you a one mailer, or a continuation exchanger. do you just send winks and fade into the background. Are you able to deal with the fullness of others, or do no prefer to get small pieces, which helps you build your fantasy. Are you tempt seeking to be chased, or do you become an engage seeking to share growth exchanges?
How well do you understand the fact that,lite exchanges as actually carrying a heavy weight? Do you like a broad picture or a brief glimpse? learning and loving is never as casual as one may claim to pursue. Each person is continually digging more into what is said, and adding more to what could have been said. Often times, one can make a break a friendship or relation within their mind, before it has presented itself with the spectrum of reality it contains.
There are billions of people, if that alone does not tell us, that a situation become what we choose to make it, among the choice which exist.
Maybe people may fair better if they stop trying to marry each other in their mind, before they know each other as individuals.
People may even learn the value of the graces of patience in the ways of staking claims. And, simply enjoy the inter-changes between themselves.
Grasp the spectrum of self, and loving may simply become a part of the communications, which maintain a level of interactive consistence. be it irregular, or with close frequency.. it will contain all of both, over the course of time..
Who is with the willing to engage such, may find love within their living, simply a part of their living....
Sharing your hearts smiles, make aglow the lives of each other..
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Men are more Romantic than women...
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Posted:Jan 15, 2011 5:01 am
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2011 7:40 am 16520 Views
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Men are more Romantic than women...
( from internet)
Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman battle out their romantic differences in a scene from
In a scene from the new movie, "No Strings Attached," a young woman chastises a man for breaking their no-romance code by showing up at her work with a balloon. Uncontrollable urges of chivalry? Sounds like a romantic comedy myth, but it's not.
“Men are typically more romantic than women,” says Dr. Terri Orbuch, a social psychologist who has spent the last 24 years studying 373 married couples. In interviewing spouses, she discovered husbands were more likely to describe their wives in traditional romantic terms, while wives spoke more practically about their relationships. “When we asked married men to talk about how they met their wives, their stories had more romantic flavor,” explains Orbuch, who details her findings in the book 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. “They talk about being smitten, falling hard; they also use terms like 'soul-mate' and 'love at first sight'," she says. "In contrast, wives talked about being very cautious of their partner when they first got together and guarding themselves from getting too close early on."
While romantic gestures may vary between couples, Orbuch's research suggests that men are more likely to uphold fairy tale beliefs (i.e. happily ever after) than women. Her research is virtually identical to the results of a survey of 21,000 men and women by the psychological testing site Queendom. In response to questions on love, men were slightly more romantic in their description, using expressions women avoided, like "destiny" and "love conquers all". "Most men have an unappreciated romantic streak," said study leader Ilona Jerabek, PhD, in a statement. "You just need to understand where they are coming from to appreciate it."
Where they’re coming from is another culture. In the guy code, compliments are harder to come by and conversations about deep emotions aren’t as widely accepted. “Men don’t get the same amount of affirmations as women from their friends and family,” explains Orbuch. “They rely on the positive feedback they get in their relationship for their overall mental well-being.” One study by a Wake Forest Psychology professor even suggested men feel physically better when they're in a relationship. That may explain why men may embrace their partners as soul-mates—they satisfy a unique emotional and physical need that's harder for them to come by.
Another theory is that men are more prone to love at first site and falling fast because their brains are hard-wired to have stronger reactions to certain visual cues. In MRI scans, women showed less activation than men in the area of the brain that controls emotions when shown the same visual cues. In other words, when women see something they like, they proceed with more caution. In love song terms, if men are singing James Brown's "I Feel Good," women are singing Whitney Houston's "How Will I Know?"
But if men are so romantic, how come they've gotten such a bum ? It may all boil down to a misunderstanding. “Women relate to words, so they want to hear men say how they feel over and over,” says Orbuch. “Men relate to behaviors, so they're more likely to show their feelings through actions. In the end, there’s a mismatch between the two.” To remedy this, Orbuch suggests couples come to an understanding about their own gender limitations and needs. Women may say 'I love you,' but men may express those three words with simple actions like filling the car up with gas or driving out of their way to pick a woman up. Reading between the lines can simmer arguments or feelings of neglect.
Of course, not all men, or relationships, are alike. "It's important to know what your personal romantic needs are," says Orbuch.
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a laugh is good
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Posted:Jan 13, 2011 4:53 pm
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2011 2:56 am 15886 Views
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I dialed a number and got the following recording * **
"I am not available right now, but
Thank you for caring enough to call.
I am making some changes in my life.
Please leave a message after the
Beep. If I do not return your call,
You are one of the changes."
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A small Boy wrote to Santa Claus," send me a brother."
Santa wrote back, "SEND ME YOUR MOTHER."
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What is the definition of Mistress?
Someone between the Mister and Mattress.
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What's the difference between stress, tension and panic?*
Stress is when wife is pregnant,*
Tension is when girlfriend is pregnant,*
and Panic is when both are pregnant.*
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A woman asks man who is traveling with six ,
"Are all these yours?"*
The man replies, "No, I work in a condom factory and these
are customer complaints".
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A young boy asks his Dad, "What is the difference between confident and confidential?"*
Dad says, "You are my , I'm confident about that.
Your friend over there, is also my , that's confidential."
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Nominated as the best short joke this year...
A three-year-old boy was examining his testicles while taking a bath.
Mom" he asked, "are these my brains?"
"Not yet," she replied.
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a change from the past
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Posted:Jan 9, 2011 3:43 pm
Last Updated:Apr 6, 2013 7:09 am 18727 Views
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(from news)
By ALEXA OLESEN
The leaf-strewn median on Eternal Peace Road hides a grim secret: Numerous tiny fetuses lie in unmarked graves dug by women from the abortion clinic across the street.
The staff at the small clinic in the heart of this ancient city don't bury most of the fetuses — only those that have reached three or four months, when they clearly resemble miniature babies.
"This big," says anesthesiologist Liu Jianmin, using her thumb and index finger to measure out the length of a lipstick tube. The burials are a gesture of respect for lives cut short, she adds, and the patients aren't told.
It is a secret hiding in plain sight, much like the rising rate of abortions among young, unmarried women in China.
While comprehensive data are hard to come by, official figures show abortions are increasing, and Chinese media and experts say many, if not most, of the abortion-seekers are young, single women.
That's a change from the past, when abortion was used mainly to enforce the government's one per couple limit. Today, students are clearly a base: The Beijing Modern Women's Hospital offers a government-subsidized "Safe & Easy A+" discount abortion package at 880 yuan ($130). Others advertise in college handbooks.
According to a government tally, 9.2 million abortions were performed in 2008, up from 7.6 million in 2007. But the count only includes hospitals, and state media report the total could be as high as 13 million. If accurate, that would give China among the highest abortion rates in the world.
Many blame the trend on newly liberal attitudes toward premarital sex, and lagging sex education. Bureaucratic red tape and social stigma also deter single women from having a on their own, and laws bar women from marriage until they are 20, making pregnancy virtually unheard of. These factors and a lack of stigma surrounding abortion, or "artificial miscarriage," as it's known here, have helped make it a relatively cheap, widely available option for birth control.
"The moral outrage over having a before marriage in our society is much stronger than the shame associated with abortion," said Zhou Anqin, the manager at the clinic in Xi'an, which performs about 60 abortions each month, mostly on students aged 24 or younger.
The two-story facility, which opened in 2007, is one of five operated in China by Marie Stopes International, a London-based not-for-profit group that runs hundreds of clinics globally promoting safe abortions, HIV testing and other services. The fetuses that aren't buried are discarded as medical waste, as they are in the United States and other countries.
read article for more info...
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funny weather
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Posted:Jan 9, 2011 8:11 am
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2011 4:37 pm 15613 Views
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Well Friday was a nice day, yesterday was a pretty clear day, only shirt sleeve or a pull over sweater was necessary, later in the evening the feeling of cold was more widespread.. this morning it is light rain, which is a bit icy.. its predicted to snow by 2pm, which it says, possibly 2-4 inches. so for the next few days, a low of 27 with a high in the 30's.. Tuesday it list cold, with sunshine and clouds, and by Wed, back in the 40's and by Saturday, back in the 60's..
This is very rapidly changing weather here.. I keep saying "get rid of the motorcycles, because the weather is so unstable, but it may become even more a consideration, since I keep paying for something I'm not using, and I certainly don't have money to waste. I like the bikes, but the fact is, if I do sell both or one, if ever I want another, they will always have some for sale.
I actually hate to take the loss due to value change in the bike, but then I have to look at the continue loss, of paying for something I'm not using. I've had them for a few years, so I've enjoyed it, and currently even if the weather was perfect, I don't really have time to ride it. and certainly not time to ride two.
besides there are other things I may well need to focus on upgrading more than hanging on to bikes for sentimental reasons and not wanting to throw away the money invested, but the fact is, keeping it only makes me invest more for what is not being utilized. ( quite an irritating situation that either I come to the summary to keep it or sell it, keep one and sell the other, or simply sell both, and accept the loss.
one thing is 98% for sure -- I won't be riding any motorcycle in the snow
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if and as...
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Posted:Jan 8, 2011 8:57 am
Last Updated:Jan 8, 2011 5:45 pm 14369 Views
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if one is looking for love, and hunting within the reality where loves lives, with a mind full of Bs, one will be quickly lost and dis-illusions, for there is no Bs, in loves truths.
get real to get right, and get right to be real... one may find the joys that loves can make them feel.
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