How to be happy with who you are
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Posted:Feb 27, 2010 10:30 pm
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2010 10:34 pm 5099 Views
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Today is sunday here, actually i don't plan to go out today, because yesterday i was overtime to work at office on Sat. therefore i want to have a rest at home do what i want to do.
i have read some article. and i saw the one is intereting. i want to share it to you all here . the article name is "How to be happy with who you are "
Everyone in the world, big or small, size 0 or 22, Spanish, black, Asian or white, can feel somewhat inferior to others. These things we tell ourselves, that we aren't good or pretty enough, are in no way based on facts. On this page, we will go through simple steps on how people can overcome any feelings of inferiority that they may face.
Steps
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"I'm soo happy, oh soo happy, happy and free!"
"I'm soo happy, oh soo happy, happy and free!"
It's important to bear in mind that every human being in this world is different, and no two faces or bodies are the same. Your 'inferiority' as you may refer to it can also be seen as a unique or individual quality. What makes you feel these things are 'inferior' to everyone else? If there is no norm amongst human beings, how can there possibly be any form of inferiority?. Don't give the power of influencing your thoughts to people that don't care about you.
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Understand that most people aren't out there to judge you. Out of everyone you see, most don't care or know about how poorly you did on your last math test, or how you've gained a little weight since last summer.
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Seriously consider just what is so 'inferior'. If you have a complex about a specific body part, such as your arms, legs, feet, or hands, think hard about what exactly makes them 'inferior' to everyone else, and write this on paper if it helps. Seriously think about the logic of these things. You're not going to get stopped in the street for having what you think of as 'inferior' hands or feet.
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Nobody's perfect. They say the grass is always greener on someone else's yard. If there's always someone out there with more money than you, or prettier than you, realize there's always someone uglier than you. There's someone with a bigger nose or heftier than you. There's someone with even smaller or larger breasts than you. Don't focus so much on how you can't compare, but how others can't compare to you.
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Think about what it is you are really afraid of. What is it you fear will happen, upon the revealing of your inferiority to everyone else? Do you fear people looking, or making comments? These are all valid worries but bear in mind - everyone is different. Any comments you receive are invalid and must be ignored at all costs. It's absolutely certain there is something they think is wrong with them too.
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If you find your inferiority difficult to deal with, enlist the help of a friend. Good friends will help you achieve your goals, whatever they may be. For limbs it may be to eventually be able to walk around in shorts (for leg complexes). Good friends will tell you the truth, and you can work together on ways to make you feel better about yourself. If you find it difficult to talk with friends, ask them if they ever feel inferior, and you may be surprised how worried people get.
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REMEMBER, you are NOT alone!
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See a counselor. If you feel 'inferior', and cannot seriously enlist the help of a friend for whatever reason, remember all of the above, and perhaps you can talk to a counselor if need be. If you have a close friend, they can also help you.
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If it helps, examine other people (not obvious staring.) How do they react to their body? How do they show themselves? Do they have a similar body type to you? This could really help you reach your goals.
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Respect yourself. Look in the mirror and give yourself compliments. If you don't respect yourself, who will?
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To be really happy all the time is not only impossible but unrealistic,but you can make a conscious effort to be happy all the time. However, to be really happy you need to accept yourself for who you are. Listen, nobody is perfect.
* Check this out - any time you enter a room full of people, I bet you get easily attracted to and (I am sure) a bit jealous of those you see laughing or smiling and making the rounds...don't you? Truth be told, there is nothing special about them. They just forgot all about themselves and what people think about them. Be one of those people!
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Spend time thinking about your strengths (everyone has them)and you will find yourself more happy, and also more confident!
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Lastly, don't concentrate too much on yourself. Get interested in others and you will see all your fears and worries which make you sad melt away.
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Happiness is beautiful. A smile is much more beautiful than a frown. This may not be a real step, but don't ever frown!
Tips
* Every human being is different!
* Think about why you feel you/certain parts of you are inferior? Write this down, think about this logically, and talk to friends or family.
* There is no 'normal' human being, and no 'normal' framework for a human being. Accept your differences in a positive manner. For instance "Yeah, I have big feet, but thats what makes me me!"
* Don't think of your differences as inferiorities; class them as unique qualities that make you who you are. If it wasn't for those things, you'd be a generic, boring clone with no unique traits.
* If you are overweight, underweight, short, or tall to the point that others see you as inferior due to those traits, throw their insults right back at them as jokes. Not only will you confuse them, you will make yourself laugh, and therefore feel better about your uniqueness.
* Accept who you are!
* Smile!
* It may seem other people are perfect, but really, they have their own differences
* There is someone in this world born for you - never put them down!
* Don't EVER give up. The biggest mistake you could ever make is to not do something because you fear you'll make a mistake. Just say what you're thinking, and if the people you're saying it to don't like it, they'll get over it.
Warnings
* If your inferiority is physical, avoid looking in the mirror too much in the first stages. You will be constantly reminding yourself, and this helps nothing.
* Never refer to your differences as inferiorities!
* Never listen to anyone who puts you down.
* If others make fun of you, laugh with them.
* Don't joke with others about things that truly affect your self-esteem. If you're particularly sensitive about your weight, avoid joking with friends, as this leads them to believe they can do it too.
* Trust yourself. Consider others.
Things You'll Need
* The mind-set to change
* Good friends
* Positivity
* A "stable" emotional state
* Patience
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Stiff Neck
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Posted:Feb 26, 2010 4:25 am
Last Updated:Mar 2, 2010 5:42 am 5039 Views
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Seem the day was kidding with me too much. i was get the stiff neck today  , so bad luck. but my heart still get some warm from my staffs. they really care about me and tell me something to solve the stiff neck for pain. now share with your all here.Maybe it could help if you have stiff neck right now same as me.
Seven ways to eliminate a stiff neck:
1. Improve your posture
2. Change your bedding
3. Try massage or self help remedies
4. Reduce or avoid stress
5. Consult a complementary therapist
6. A program of neck exercises
7. Short term use of painkillers and muscle relaxants
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Lantern Festival
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Posted:Feb 25, 2010 4:21 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2010 4:04 am 5239 Views
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The Lantern Festival falls on the 15th day of the 1st lunar month, usually in February or March in the Gregorian calendar. As early as the Western Han Dynasty (206 BC-AD 25), it had become a festival with great significance.
This day's important activity is watching lanterns. Throughout the Han Dynasty (206 BC-AD 220), Buddhism flourished in China. One emperor heard that Buddhist monks would watch sarira, or remains from the cremation of Buddha's body, and light lanterns to worship Buddha on the 15th day of the 1st lunar month, so he ordered to light lanterns in the imperial palace and temples to show respect to Buddha on this day. Later, the Buddhist rite developed into a grand festival among common people and its influence expanded from the Central Plains to the whole of China.
Till today, the lantern festival is still held each year around the country. Lanterns of various shapes and sizes are hung in the streets, attracting countless visitors. will hold self-made or bought lanterns to stroll with on the streets, extremely excited.
"Guessing lantern riddles"is an essential part of the Festival. Lantern owners write riddles on a piece of paper and post them on the lanterns. If visitors have solutions to the riddles, they can pull the paper out and go to the lantern owners to check their answer. If they are right, they will get a little gift. The activity emerged during people's enjoyment of lanterns in the Song Dynasty (960-1279). As riddle guessing is interesting and full of wisdom, it has become popular among all social strata.
People will eat yuanxiao, or rice dumplings, on this day, so it is also called the "Yuanxiao Festival."Yuanxiao also has another name, tangyuan. It is small dumpling balls made of glutinous rice flour with rose petals, sesame, bean paste, jujube paste, walnut meat, dried fruit, sugar and edible oil as filling. Tangyuan can be boiled, fried or steamed. It tastes sweet and delicious. What's more, tangyuan in Chinese has a similar pronunciation with "tuanyuan¡±, meaning reunion. So people eat them to denote union, harmony and happiness for the family.
In the daytime of the Festival, performances such as a dragon lantern dance, a lion dance, a land boat dance, a yangge dance, walking on stilts and beating drums while dancing will be staged. On the night, except for magnificent lanterns, fireworks form a beautiful scene. Most families spare some fireworks from the Spring Festival and let them off in the Lantern Festival. Some local governments will even organize a fireworks party. On the night when the first full moon enters the New Year, people become really intoxicated by the imposing fireworks and bright moon in the sky.
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Who i am ?
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Posted:Feb 24, 2010 6:10 am
Last Updated:Mar 16, 2010 1:25 pm 5099 Views
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Sometimes people will ask themself : Who i am ? yeah who i am? we are a creature in the world. we know how to think and work and feel, that is why we are different with animals.
last week i have take a photo outside . maybe just because i was bore or i just want to take a photo.
suddenly i was think the question who i am ? finally i find out the answer. i am i. nobody could copy me , so i need to be happy and confidence to live and work everyday 
my all dear friends here, i wish you all here happy. no matter what happen in life, don't easy to say give up. because you didn't know when the rainbow will be in your life
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Have a cold
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Posted:Feb 23, 2010 6:22 am
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2010 6:11 am 5077 Views
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During these days, the weather is very weird in shanghai, sometimes is pretty cold , sometimes is pretty warm. i was have a cold right now. i feel really not good. but don't worry it is just a simple cold not a swine flu. i was promise i didn't kiss the pig  heheh. anyway. thanks you for you all here leave nice message and read my blog. i was happy when i was read them
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Nanning
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Posted:Feb 22, 2010 5:20 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2010 6:11 am 4843 Views
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Hello everyone,
I was back to shanghai la. today already start to work. holiday always spend so fast. today i want to introduce a cute cute city to you here. its name is nanning, nanning is a small city but it is very beautiful. it has another name is green city. no matter spring or winter here always green.
it is national civilization city,the UN-HABITAT scroll of honour award city.
the green city of china Nanning. Venue for china -ASEAN expo
the core city of the guangxi beibu gulf economic zone
the home of folk songs in the world.
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Happy Chinese new year
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Posted:Feb 12, 2010 4:20 pm
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2010 6:12 am 5120 Views
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Hello Dear All,
i will leave here for few day, because i need to go home share the spring festival with my parents. i wish you all here HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR.
you could leave messages here, i will read and reply to you as soon as possible when i was come back.
Thanks !!!
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Geisha
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Posted:Feb 12, 2010 7:16 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2024 9:6 pm 4520 Views
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Maybe so many people dream of the Asia country Japan. Japan is an island nation in the eastern Asian continent. It is small but very clean and comfortable.
You must know ¡°Geisha¡± the word if you have been to Japan or you have hear of it before. Geisha is a professional female companion for men in Japan, trained in music, dancing, and the art of conversation.
Geisha are professional hostesses who entertain customers through various performing arts as gei means arts or performances, and sha means people in Japanese. Geisha are not either ordinary hostesses or prostitutes. They patiently went through extensive training to become geisha and keep improving their skills by taking many lessons. Nowadays, there are geisha who learn computer skills or English conversation to serve English-speaking customers. Also, the work of geisha is expanding, including modeling or international tours, for example.
It's believed that the women who danced for warriers in the 11th century are the predecessors of geisha. Geisha are trained in a number of skills: traditional Japanese dance, singing, playing instruments like shamisen (three stringed instruments), flower arrangement, wearing kimono, Japanese tea ceremony, calligraphy, conversation, alcohol serving manners, and more.
There are two basic types of geisha. One is called tachikata who mainly do traditional Japanese dance (mai). The other is called jikata who mainly sing or play instruments. Tachikata are usually maiko (young geisha) and jikata are older geisha women.
The geisha districts are called hanamachi (kagai), and some hanamachi were developed near temples and shrines where many ochaya (tea house) are located. Ochaya are small Japanese-style houses with wooden doors, tatami floors, Japanese-style gardens, and so on. They are different from those tea houses that merely serve tea. It's a sort of banquet house which rents rooms for dinner parties, and geisha entertain customers in ochaya rooms.
Because some hanamachi were historically related to , this bias toward geisha and hanamachi districts still exists in modern Japan. However, geisha is an important aspect of Japanese culture, and their elegant performances keep attracting many people from around the world.
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Chinese Traditional Wedding Custom
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Posted:Feb 10, 2010 4:59 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2010 5:01 am 4554 Views
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Chinese marriage was systemized into custom in the Warring States period . Due to the vast expanse and long history, there are different customs to follow in different places, although they are generally the same. Visitors still get chances to witness traditional marriages in the countryside.
In the ancient times, it was very important to follow a basic principle of Three Letters And Six Etiquettes, since they were essential to a marriage.
Three letters include Betrothal Letter, Gift Letter and Wedding Letter. Betrothal Letter is the formal document£®of the engagement, a must in a marriage. Then, a gift letter is necessary, which will be enclosed to the identified girl's family, listing types and quantity of gifts for the wedding once both parties accept the marriage. While the Wedding Letter refers to the document£®which will be prepared and presented to the bride's family on the day of the wedding to confirm and commemorate the formal acceptance of the bride into the bridegroom's family.
Six Etiquettes
Proposing: If an unmarried boy's parents identify a girl as their future -in-law, then they will find a matchmaker. Proposal used to be practiced by a matchmaker. The matchmaker will formally present his or her 's request to the identified girl's parents.
Birthday matching: If the potential bride's parents do not object the marriage, the matchmaker will ask for the girl's birthday and birthhour record to assure the compatibility of the potential bride and bridegroom. If the couple's birthdays and birthhours do not conflict according to astrology, the marriage will step into the next stage. Once there is any conflict, meaning the marriage will bring disasters to the boy's family or the girl's, the proposed marriage stops.
Presenting betrothal gifts: Once birthdays match, the bridegroom's family will then arrange the matchmaker to present betrothal gifts, enclosing the betrothal letter, to the bride's family.
Presenting wedding gifts: After the betrothal letter and betrothal gifts are accepted, the bridegroom's family will later formally send wedding gifts to the bride's family. Usually, gifts may include tea, lotus seeds, longan, red beans, green beans, red dates, nutmeg, oranges, pomegranate, lily, bridal cakes, coconuts, wine, red hair braid, money box and other stuff, depending on local customs and family wealth.
Picking a wedding date: An astrologist or astrology book will be consulted to select an auspicious date to hold the wedding ceremony.
Wedding ceremony: On the selected day, the bridegroom departures with a troop of and musicians, playing happy music all the way to the bride's home. After the bride is escorted to the bridegroom's home, the wedding ceremony begins.
Different with the West, the dominant color on traditional Chinese wedding is red, almost every thing. Chinese tend to apply red to add happy atmosphere in such big days.
At dawn on the wedding day, after a bath in water infused with various grapefruits, the bride puts on new clothes and wares a pair of red shoes, waiting for the so called good luck woman to dress her hair in the style of a married woman. Her head will be covered with a red silk veil with tassels or bead strings that hang from the phoenix crown. Then she waits her future husband to her home, with married women talking around her how to act to be a good wife.
On the other hand, the bridegroom prepares himself to receive his wife. He gets capped and dressed in a long gown, red shoes and a red silk sash with a silk ball on his chest, the groom knelt at the ancestral altar as his father put a cap decorated with cypress leaves on his head to declare his adulthood and his family responsibility.
Then the bridegroom set out to receive his bride. Usually he will be crowded among his friends as and musicians who play happy music all the way to radiate happiness. Dancing lions, if any, precede the troop. In the ancient time, a bridal sedan chair (or a decorated donkey due to poverty or bad traffic) would be used to serve the bride. There will be a carrying a bridal box among the people, reflecting the bridegroom's expectation to have a in the near future. The most interesting part of the reception really takes place at the doorstep of the bride's residence, heavily guarded by the bridesmaids or sisters of the bride. It is customary for the bridesmaid to give the bridegroom a difficult time before he is allowed to enter. Usually wisdom and courage and his friends will help the bridegroom to succeed in the quizzes. After passing the tests and singing for his bride, the bridegroom is finally allowed to meet his bride. However, there is one more pass, he has to negotiate with the bridesmaid and sisters of the bride to distribute them red packets, with auspicious money enclosed in, in order to take his bride home.
Before the bride departures to his bridegroom's home, she will be carried by the good luck woman to the sedan chair. On her way to the chair, a sister of her will shield her with a red parasol and another threw rice at the sedan chair, at the back of which hung a sieve and a metallic mirror that were believed to protect the bride from evil. The bride has to cry to show that she does not want to leave her parents.
Then firecrackers will be set off to drive away evil spirits as the bride sits into the sedan chair. All along the way people make great efforts to avoid any inauspicious influence. For instance, the sedan chair is heavily curtained, so as to prevent the bride from seeing an unlucky sight, e.g. a widow, a well or even a cat. When the parading troop arrives at the bridegroom's, firecrackers will be set off to hail the bride's arrival. Before the sedan chair a red mat is placed so that the bride will not touch the bare earth. By the threshold a flaming stove and a saddle will be set up, the bride is required to step over, to avoid evils.
The wedding ceremony is the hottest point. The bride and bridegroom are led to the family altar, where the couple pays kotows to Heaven and Earth, the family ancestors and parents successively. Then they bow to each other and will be led to the bridal chamber. The ceremony proceeds under a director's prompts and applauses of the audience.
Then there will be a grand feast for relatives and those who help in the wedding. The newlywed couple will resume to drink wedlock wine. Generally they are required to cross their arms to sip the wine and then exchange their cups to gulp down. They also will toast with guests to pay their thanks. Good wishes of the guests rush to the couple. However, well-intentioned people will try their best to fuddle the bridegroom who is dodging to avoid the embarrassing scene.
Teasing games in the bridal chamber: After night falls, the teasing games start. Usually all young men can participate except for the bride's married brothers-in-law. Those funny and silly games will ease the tension, since in ancient times the newlyweds never met each other before the wedding! Most of the games require the shy couple to act like wife and husband. The festive atmosphere also promotes closeness among all the family members and the Community beyond. There also will be other activities conducted by the bridegroom's mother after the roaring laughter fades into the darkness.
Other Customary Practices
Preparing the bridal bed: A good luck man, usually having a nice family, will help to install the bridal bed in the right place in the bridal chamber on a selected day before the wedding day. Before the wedding, a good luck woman will arrange the bridal bed and scatter candies, lotus seeds, peanuts, beans and fruits of good meanings on the bed. Nobody is allowed to touch the bed until the couple enters the bridal chamber after the wedding ceremony. will then be invited onto the bed to bless fertility of the couple.
Dowry: Usually the bride's dowry shall be sent to the bridegroom's family by the day before the wedding day. Sometimes the dowry will be brought by the bride's escorting troops on the wedding day to show off. Traditional dowry normally consists of items such as jewelry, embroidered beddings, kitchen utensils and furniture. The package of the dowry is always changing except those basic items of symbol. For example, dozens of years ago, sewing machine, bicycle, and recorder were musts in a marriage. Now, they are totally out of fashion.
Bride's Return: Traditionally, the newlyweds are to return to visit the bride's parents one or three days after the wedding. They will be hailed with a banquet and it is the bridegroom's turn to suffer teasing of the bride's relatives and friends. That is still well intentioned.
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Spring Festival
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Posted:Feb 7, 2010 3:49 am
Last Updated:Feb 10, 2010 4:25 am 4994 Views
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Spring Festival coming soon. The happy and excite full of whole China.
What is Spring Festival in China? Maybe not so many people know. Spring festival is chinese new year. now let me tell you the detail story at here
The Spring Festival is the most important festival for the Chinese people and is when all family members get together, just like Christmas in the West. All people living away from home go back, becoming the busiest time for transportation systems of about half a month from the Spring Festival. Airports, railway stations and long-distance bus stations are crowded with home returnees.
The Spring Festival falls on the 1st day of the 1st lunar month, often one month later than the Gregorian calendar. It originated in the Shang Dynasty (c. 1600 BC-c. 1100 BC) from the people's sacrifice to gods and ancestors at the end of an old year and the beginning of a new one.
Strictly speaking, the Spring Festival starts every year in the early days of the 12th lunar month and will last till the mid 1st lunar month of the next year. Of them, the most important days are Spring Festival Eve and the first three days. The Chinese government now stipulates people have seven days off for the Chinese Lunar New Year.
Many customs accompany the Spring Festival. Some are still followed today, but others have weakened.
On the 8th day of the 12th lunar month, many families make laba porridge, a delicious kind of porridge made with glutinous rice, millet, seeds of Job's tears, jujube berries, lotus seeds, beans, longan and gingko.
The 23rd day of the 12th lunar month is called Preliminary Eve. At this time, people offer sacrifice to the kitchen god. Now however, most families make delicious food to enjoy themselves.
After the Preliminary Eve, people begin preparing for the coming New Year. This is called "Seeing the New Year in".
Store owners are busy then as everybody goes out to purchase necessities for the New Year. Materials not only include edible oil, rice, flour, chicken, duck, fish and meat, but also fruit, candies and kinds of nuts. What's more, various decorations, new clothes and shoes for the as well as gifts for the elderly, friends and relatives, are all on the list of purchasing.
Before the New Year comes, the people completely clean the indoors and outdoors of their homes as well as their clothes, bedclothes and all their utensils.
Then people begin decorating their clean rooms featuring an atmosphere of rejoicing and festivity. All the door panels will be pasted with Spring Festival couplets, highlighting Chinese calligraphy with black characters on red paper. The content varies from house owners' wishes for a bright future to good luck for the New Year. Also, pictures of the god of doors and wealth will be posted on front doors to ward off evil spirits and welcome peace and abundance.
The Chinese character "fu" (meaning blessing or happiness) is a must. The character put on paper can be pasted normally or upside down, for in Chinese the "reversed fu" is homophonic with "fu comes", both being pronounced as "fudaole." What's more, two big red lanterns can be raised on both sides of the front door. Red paper-cuttings can be seen on window glass and brightly colored New Year paintings with auspicious meanings may be put on the wall.
People attach great importance to Spring Festival Eve. At that time, all family members eat dinner together. The meal is more luxurious than usual. Dishes such as chicken, fish and bean curd cannot be excluded, for in Chinese, their pronunciations, respectively "ji", "yu" and "doufu," mean auspiciousness, abundance and richness. After the dinner, the whole family will sit together, chatting and watching TV. In recent years, the Spring Festival party broadcast on China Central Television Station (CCTV) is essential entertainment for the Chinese both at home and abroad. According to custom, each family will stay up to see the New Year in.
Waking up on New Year, everybody dresses up. First they extend greetings to their parents. Then each will get money as a New Year gift, wrapped up in red paper. People in northern China will eat jiaozi, or dumplings, for breakfast, as they think "jiaozi" in sound means "bidding farewell to the old and ushering in the new". Also, the shape of the dumpling is like gold ingot from ancient China. So people eat them and wish for money and treasure.
Southern Chinese eat niangao (New Year cake made of glutinous rice flour) on this occasion, because as a homophone, niangao means "higher and higher, one year after another." The first five days after the Spring Festival are a good time for relatives, friends, and classmates as well as colleagues to exchange greetings, gifts and chat leisurely.
Burning fireworks was once the most typical custom on the Spring Festival. People thought the spluttering sound could help drive away evil spirits. However, such an activity was completely or partially forbidden in big cities once the government took security, noise and pollution factors into consideration. As a replacement, some buy tapes with firecracker sounds to listen to, some break little balloons to get the sound too, while others buy firecracker handicrafts to hang in the living room.
The lively atmosphere not only fills every household, but permeates to streets and lanes. A series of activities such as lion dancing, dragon lantern dancing, lantern festivals and temple fairs will be held for days. The Spring Festival then comes to an end when the Lantern Festival is finished.
China has 56 ethnic groups. Minorities celebrate their Spring Festival almost the same day as the Han people, and they have different customs.
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