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Make a Good Impression on The First Date I've recently gone on two blind dates with men that I found Online from a different dating site. The first date didn't impress me at all. He had used a picture on his profile that was 20 years old. He was very cute when he was 34 years old, but as a 54 year old, with shorter graying hair, he looked aged of course. But I was polite and didn't walk off or say, "You don't look like your photo, so our date of off!" I sat through the dinner and gave him a chance. It was a good thing I had something else planned that evening in the same complex. We also didn't have chemistry after a long conversation the night before online and then on the phone. It's ok, I wasn't attracted to his personality at all. He was in good shape and had a nice smile, but that's just about all. I want more as in a good sense of humor and can talk to me in deep conversation. Morale of the Story: Please post a recent photo and not when you were 20 years younger, if you are middle aged. They can be one of two years old but not more than 10 years old. Shower if you come from a dirty job and come in clean clothes. Dress nicely to make the first impression. First impressions really count if you want a second date. My second date also aged from his photo too. So I told him directly, I wasn't attracted to him, and we can be friends. The main reason, I told him that I wanted to meet him was because he wrote comedy and also was in Hollywood for several years. So I wanted to get some stories from him what was it like to meet some TV celebrities. I was real upfront with him, but mentioned that I do have other lady friends that are single too. More to come when I go on other dates with men. I hope to find some more interesting matches. I'm talking about going on real dates and not just chatting Online. For me, I rather go on real dates. Chatting Online is very superficial since you can't see the other person's body language. Good luck on your search for happiness, fun, pleasures and worthwhile experiences in dating in person. Ciao!   Sugi Dancer, Dating Coach |
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yes, at lest people should 'prepare" to meet... men should know women will by their very nature, scrutinize everything ... likewise so do men !!! we will no matter how much other stuff we talk about, still base a lot on appearances. those who say they don't are LYING... we are visual people, and that is how we are impacted by whom we meet.. I don't think people should pretend to be other than they are, because the meeting will reveal what is real and what is true of ones being. Looks are not everything, because we all like various appeals, but it does matter, that people communicate with some nature of presenting the broad spectrum of themselves.
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Hi All Yes, I'm very cautious when I'm in the Chat Room or when men ask me first thing and try to take the conversation offline onto Yahoo Chat or use their Private Email addresses. I tell them directly that hey, Standard member here on this site can use the Chat Tool, Open Profiles at the Chat Room, and Do Blogging. I also tell these guys to read my Blog and it tells a personal side of me in details. I've asked a few men for more photos, even recently. Full body shots too. So I can see if they are overweight or not and if the description they put down is true or not. Unfortunately, on this site, there's a lot of Overseas or Out-of-Town men who want to write me. So there's no possibility of meeting for real dates immediately. I'm a people person, so I don't mind meeting in person. Yes, I don't hide my age and do have wrinkles on my Forehead. I'm proud to be 50. So far I haven't tried botox. But it's very popular. Some women do lie about their age or won't tell even me, another woman how old they are. One of my girlfriends is guilty of it when she posted her profile on another site because she wanted to meet men 5-10 years younger than she is, since she's 62 years old, now. I hear younger women in their 20's complain about turing 30 someday. It's ridiculous for younger women to complain about getting old, but women in general are concerned about aging. But good thing, I don't have to Color my hair yet since it's naturally turned Brownish, while I'm in the Sun. It's not a good thing to stay in the sun since it will cause more wrinkles, ladies! So you will need to use a stronger sunblock of 30 and above. I use 50 -100, everyday even when it's cloudy. It's also important to have the Young At Heart Attitude, as well. I listen to young people's music by choice and I don't have kids to influence me on that. I even enjoy listening to some live especially when I see the youth in the inner city doing it. Since I also grew up in the inner city too. Hip hop started when I was going to college. Most Middle aged men hate and have said so on their profiles. They don't understand it, at all since I think when they were teenagers they listened to Rock or Metal. Again the very first impression people make will be the most important one. I believe in Love at First Sight when I first meet men or at least Love at the Second meeting. So I always ask other people when they have gotten engaged or have found their special match, if it was Love at First Sight or not. We all would love to fall in love again, after a break-up or divorce. So let's try to be honest and true to the other person, so you can be true to yourself as well. Sugi Dancer The Dating Coach Sugi Dancer, Dating Coach
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8/25/2011 11:42 am |
Hello to all, I have found that honesty stings, but it is a stinging worth having; the enjoyment of the relationships to come and the working of the complicated lives we lead have shown me to that conclution. Wish you all great dates! By the way sugiDancer I find you very attractive even with our age difference, and your occupation/hobbie makes you even hotter in my book  Cheers!
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