7 Ways to Show Love to
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Posted:Oct 15, 2007 10:32 am
Last Updated:Feb 28, 2008 2:51 am 9855 Views
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Our are our most important legacy to the world. However, our love is our most important legacy to our . Here are seven ways to show love that will help build sturdy foundations for the future.
1. Spend Time with Your .
Time is the most loving gift we can give to our . It allows for the mutual exchange of ideas, emotions, actions, and words that help our develop and learn to communicate.
Enjoy a 's tea parties as well as a 's ball games. Help your build things and create art. Begin new family traditions that you can enjoy together each year. Ample time spent in mutually enjoyable activities will create memories you will always treasure.
2. Be the Primary Role Model for Your .
need examples to follow. Teach practical values to your by modeling those values. Admit when you have made a mistake and apologize. Model being committed to the ideals you embrace. Demonstrate the advantage of integrity over peer pressure.
We teach and influence more through actions than words. We are our 's first heroes; the ideals that we live today are the ideals that will influence our throughout life.
3. Listen to Your .
A 's message is one of his or her most essential gifts. We build self-esteem in when we show interest in what they have to say. need to communicate their pride of accomplishment as well as their needs.
Get down at eye level with very young and listen with your eyes, ears, and heart. Listen most of all to the feelings conveyed through a 's eyes and expressions. If you listen to your deeply, they will grow up listening deeply to you.
4. Provide Your with Loving Discipline. need guidelines and safe boundaries without being constrained unnecessarily. They need to learn the value of being accountable for their choices and actions.
Let your know that you disapprove of hurtful actions but will always love them as sons and daughters. Loving discipline enables them to recognize the best in other people. It allows the freedom to explore the world safely and reach their highest potential.
5. Give Your Encouragement.
Encouraging words are powerful emotional deposits of confidence and self-esteem. Verbally acknowledge your 's special talents and accomplishments. Catch your doing something great, and tell them what a great job they have done.
need to know that we recognize and support their hopes and dreams for the future. Encouraging to grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually provides the foundation for living a balanced life.
6. Share Your Experiences with Your .
We each have valuable stories to tell, unique maps of our journey through life. These stories tell how our reactions to events created the life we are living now. Sharing the benefit of your experiences? The roadblocks and rewards? Is a very loving way to guide your ?
Your may face many of the situations you faced. Your experiences can help them make informed decisions and avoid unnecessary mistakes. Among the most worthwhile possessions that we can someday leave for our are journals filled with the stories that shaped our lives.
7. Love and Support Your Unconditionally.
Love is an unconditional gift from the heart; it is not a reward for good behavior. Let your know that you will love and support them in any situation. This message creates a sturdy bond of trust. Your will grow to feel safe in coming to you with any problem they face.
need the freedom to make decisions, try new things, and learn that life requires personal responsibility and persistence. They need the freedom to fail and learn from mistakes without being judged. Unconditional love helps them to acquire the decisiveness and resiliency required to become successful.
If you could sum up all of our 's needs, hopes, and expectations in one word, that word would be love. We share love when we play a central role in our 's world of learning and discovery. Our legacy of love will have a guiding influence upon our and grandchildren for many generations.
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Attraction VS Love
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Posted:Oct 15, 2007 10:24 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:32 pm 9217 Views
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When we first meet someone, regardless of the way or medium that we meet, we are either attracted or not. Attraction, when pursued, eventually grows into levels of friendship and then may cross the barriers we build up, to protect ourselves, and grow into love.
Attraction usually involves an instant decision of like or dislike, based on our own subconscious criteria. If we meet someone in person, we tend to size them up physically. If we meet through letters or phone conversation or internet chat, we tend to size them up, over a longer term, by how well they converse and how interesting (or complimentary) they are while we interact with them.
It is true that people can act however they want, be whatever they want to be, over the internet. But eventually the true person leaks through the cracks and we begin to see their true self. Moral of the story? It’s best to be your real self. You may eventually want to meet the person on the other end of the conversation.
On the other hand, when you do meet the? Real? Person on the other end, remember that you have grown to like that person because of what’s inside their mind and heart. You have found a potential? Soul mate? Who thinks as you think and feels much the same way that you feel.
No one is perfect. We all have our own flaws and shortcomings. The concept of finding the? Right? Person is good. The concept of finding the? Perfect? Person is improbable and discouraging, because? Perfect? Doesn’t exist.
The way this person looks, their physical appearance, isn’t as important as their inner looks, or soul. What we see is what we get, and hopefully the heart ranks the highest. We fall in love with someone’s soul, not the shape or size of their body. And although a certain number of things can be done to improve physical appearance, that shouldn’t be our main criteria or requirement for friendship or companionship.
We fall in love with their heart. With their inner self. With their true being. And that’s what matters most.
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10 Ways to Re-ignite Your Flame of Love
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Posted:Oct 15, 2007 10:20 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2007 9:14 am 9826 Views
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When Men and Women enter into a relationship, what they are really looking for is a best friend; some one they know will love us no matter what.
Research shows that people who put each other down and are hostile to each other are more likely to have serious problems.
We all have a comfort level and it's usually measured by how we live and what are interests are. Our comfort level gives us a sense of protection. We tend to lose ourselves and interest on what really matters... (Sharing our love!)
We don’t want to try new things, if I am not broke why fix it that is what we believe when we are at that comfort zone. It seems as though we are living in a box, we need to step out... We tend to SETTLE for the "status quo" that would be our existing condition.
For the feeling of being afraid of stepping out ... What if ??
We tend to feel vulnerable and insecure our sense of protection has been broken our love has diminished...
What if??
Stepping out of the comfort zone could and should have a positive effect in your intimate love romantic relationship moments with your partners. Yes you can have it all!!
It helps us grow and we learn from these intimate experiences. We discover new ways to share love and enjoy
Happiness together which is the best thing in the world!
Start right now! Enhance romance...
Follow a few easy steps and soon you will see things in a new light...
10 Steps to Re-igniting the Flames of LOVE:
1. be spontaneous with your partner it is a way to help your relationship flourish. Being spontaneous with your partner can enrich and strengthen your intimate moments ...try something that you have been wanting to do...
2. Talk, listen and laugh together become best friends...You will soon start creating a bond of intimacy... Be sincere open and honest...Communicate about love, sex and the relationship...
3. Send Love Notes, Post them everywhere, tell them how gorgeous, handsome, Beautiful, sexy, how much you love them, be creative be specific...
4. Compliment each other lovingly in public and in privacy, show affection for each other...
5. Show them how much you’re really care by being responsive, caring and loving whole heartedly... Do the little things that say I love you and care for you...
6. Respect each other whole heartedly, partners who treat each other with kind and respect know that it is essential for having a deep connections and loving relationship...
7. Be a good partner --regularly get them something you know they will like and enjoy...
8. Don't let negative or annoying comments bother you; discuss the negativity when you are both calm.
9. Take responsibility for your own growth, appearance and health...
10. Communicating without fear is absolutely essential to building the deepest kind of friendship and intimate partner...
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3 Steps - Tune Up Your Relationship
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Posted:Oct 15, 2007 10:14 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:32 pm 9714 Views
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Tune-up a stale relationship in 3 easy steps
being taken for granted happens in any long-term relationship, friendship or marriage. With the busy schedules and outside concerns faced by married couples, compounded by , it's easy to let little things slide -- the first to go usually being together-time and intimate niceties.
There are simple ways of rediscovering the person you married, getting back to the days when a conversation was more than a grocery list, a shouting match or a wall of silence.
Be Polite
When you are engaged in hostilities with your mate, the gloves come off pretty fast. At times, you’re probably nicer to your egotistical boss or co-worker than you are to the father of your . Try using the same level of socially accepted veneer at home and see what happens.
Engage in some small talk; something funny that happened at work; an interesting article you read in the newspaper; a proud moment in the day of your . Not every conversation with your partner has to be significant or pertain to underlying relationship issues, but it is important to have some peaceful verbal exchanges.
And it’s just as important not to think rude thoughts: when you automatically refer to your better-half as that "so-and-so", even silently, you are being very counter-productive (although probably honest). Pretend your thoughts are amplified and heard by all.
Smiles are Contagious
If your (umpteenth) request about garbage removal (or bathing the or fixing the leaky faucet or whatever) is being ignored, do not allow yourself to be enveloped in the standard scenario of escalating arguments, demands, and blame. Heave a huge grin onto your face; grab the recalcitrant’s hand and white-lie heartily: "Here, I’ll help yaw! I’m all gung-ho!" Once he’s on his feet and you’ve pushed him into position, it seems that gravity takes over and the job gets done.
I admit to once leaving the 20 (or so) full bags of stinking garbage in such a way that they blocked access to our front door. My husband couldn’t help but roar with laughter at the sight and my "hint" was taken.
Injecting humor into annoying (or worse) situations can be a wonderful de-fuser; I even sometimes have the presence of mind to pretend not to hear my husband make an uncalled-for remark, plastering a vacant smile on my face and saying: "Pardon me?" You don’t have to haul off each and every time, you know!
I am in no way advocating a rug-mat approach here, by the way. Your first aim is to make life, as it is, more pleasant for yourself - if that means not reacting to every single goad, and giving your husband a second chance to behave himself, why not? Once you are able to communicate in a meaningful manner with each other, you can deal with individual issues (perhaps one being hurtful offhand sarcasm).
Touchy-Feely
When you’re mad, you don’t hug much. Being physically intimate is not at the top of the pleasant list, unless it’s a stress-relieving workout with the punching bag.
However, touching is an important aspect when re-establishing trust and communication in a relationship and you can start small. Like mussing his hair with your oven mitt; or getting the involved for a "let’s cheer up dad" group hug; or sitting on his newspaper and tickling the scowl off his face until he begs for mercy.
As you feel comfortable, you can drop kisses on his hand (an exaggerated thank-you for doing some chore); you can rub his neck as you pass the computer; you can ask for a foot massage when you’re both on the couch.
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Online Dating - Your Adult Dating Live and The Internet
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Posted:Sep 26, 2007 11:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:32 pm 9049 Views
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There was a time when finding a date; partner, lover or playmate online was frowned upon. It was for people who couldn't get a date any other way! Oh how things have changed? Not only can you sign up to a site listing thousands of singles who match your height, size, location and taste in food? Now you can choose your sex partners too.
Finding people on the net can be an isolating or sole activity but, once you've taken that deep breath and shrugged off the stigma attached to female dating freedom, life can get very interesting!
Take the fetish scene; it's out there, sites for introduction or information, clubs for fun, support or full on parties, yearly events and awards, shops for all those outfits and toys to assist in your wildest fantasies. Whether you're into sexy undies, the power of domination or having your feet licked...it's yours for the taking. It's time to turn your man over and tell him how u like it...or come out to the world and grab the girl with the collar and lead her straight to your bedroom, love nest or dungeon!
So, where do you start what's the ethics, is it safe, what's the terminology?
Start at the beginning.
What are you looking for?
For friendship? For marriage? Are you curious about them all? Do you want information before deciding? Do you want to meet in the flesh or chat online?
Be clear in your own head what you want, don't go at someone else's pace, set your own and only go as far and as fast as you want to.
Once you've found a site that interests you take advantage of the free trial offers. Use this time to send as many mails to other members as you can, the more you mail out the more will come back. Chat with lots of people not just the one person. And remember it's cool for women to make the first contact too!
Fill out your personal details. This is your opportunity to sell yourself. Tell people who you are, what you like, what you're looking for. If it's your first time or if you're new to the scene just say so. The members are into an alternative lifestyle; they're not an alien life form. And above all, be honest!
Put a picture on your profile. Make sure it's of you and only you! Not you’re favorite pet or you and your ex! And make sure it's an up to date one? Nothing worse than when you get to meet someone and they look about 10 years older than the picture you've been dreaming over!
Don't feel obliged to answer every contact. Just because it's a site about online dating doesn't mean anyone can say anything to you and you have to accept it. No matter what type of site or relationship the overriding word is 'consensual'. If you're not interested then don't reply. You wouldn't accept a drink, dance or advance from just anyone in a club and the same applies to introduction sites.
If there's something on a person’s profile that you don't understand take a deep breath and ask then or look in the sites glossary. Or if you're just too shy for that do a search on the Internet!
Use the safety of the site to get to know the people you come in contact with before meeting them in person. If you do agree to meet in person meet in a public place and drive you.
Is it a scam I hear you ask? No, there are thousands of people out there looking to make new friends, find romance, find a sex partner that match their hopes, dreams and fantasies and it costs less per month than one night out on the town. And let’s be honest, how often will you come across people from around the world that you can talk openly to from the moment you meet them about your inner most fantasies? Do remember though that online dating is a tool to help with what you are looking for but without your input it would be like sitting in the toilets at a party!
It doesn't matter what your age, size, hair color or interests are. There are sites on the Internet to meet your need and budget. Whether it's music, fetish, sport, health or religion, there's a site for you. So what are you waiting for, get on there and have some fun.
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How Earrings Can Make You Sexier ?
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Posted:Sep 26, 2007 11:19 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2007 9:14 am 9212 Views
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Do earrings increase your sex appeal? Why have women been wearing earrings for centuries? Why go through the pain of piercing the ears just to wear earrings?
Try wearing a pair of large gold hoop earrings, free spirited gypsy earrings and see the difference. Just that pair of earrings can glam up any outfit. From jeans and plain tops to that little black dress. Not only do these earrings draw attention to you, they give you a free spirited vibe which is so sexy.
Dangling earrings are especially sexy. The movement of earrings catch the eye. They distract the guys and catch their attention.
The fact is earrings do increase your sex appeal. In ways that are both obvious and subtle.
That gorgeous actress walking down the red carpet, wearing a pair of chandelier earrings knows how these earrings would make her look even more glamorous than ever. The dazzling precious gold or platinum, the brilliant diamonds, the beautiful stones. All these used to create that work of art she wears for all to admire.
Chandelier earrings draw attention to her beautiful features. The earrings cascade down the sides of her face, framing her face beautifully. The really long chandelier earrings cascade down your neck, highlighting your neck.
Your neck is a vulnerable, very sexy part of you that guys find attractive. Show off your neck and bare your shoulders when you wear chandelier earrings, for the sexiest effect.
If chandelier earrings are too much, try linear earrings instead. These slim the face. There are subtle ways earrings enhance your looks, improving your sex appeal.
Pearls are lustrous. They reflect soft, diffused light back to your skin which is very flattering. Wearing a pair of pearl earrings can make you look luminous. Especially if you have good skin, or are skillful with makeup.
Diamonds on the other hand, are famous for their fiery brilliance.
Ever stared at a diamond in the spot light and watched the fiery light dance in that diamond?
Mesmerizing, isn't it?
A pair of diamond earrings bring that light to your face. Even a pair of diamond stud earrings can make quite a difference. Subtle no doubt, but somehow, a woman looks more beautiful when she wears a pair of diamond earrings.
The shape of the earrings can also make you look better through optical illusions.
A round face would look slimmer when you wear long earrings that emphasize a vertical line. Long rectangle earrings can be adjusted to make your face look slimmer. Dangling earrings slim the face too.
Flat features look sharper with angular earrings. The sharp lines of the earrings make your features look sharper.
A too angular face looks softer with round earrings. Circles and ovals incorporated into the earring design give the features a softer look.
By wearing earrings, a woman can look more beautiful, instantly.
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How Perfumes Make You Sexy ?
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Posted:Sep 26, 2007 10:53 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2007 9:14 am 9610 Views
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What attracts you to the opposite sex? What makes a guy and a girl fall in love? Is it the way they look? Things they have in common? A special connection? Or is it the way they smell to each other?
Actually, the way you smell plays an important part in the mating game. It is true in the animal world. Like it or not, it is also true among people.
Ever heard about pheromones? That is the secret of sexual attraction.
In the animal world, pheromones attract member the opposite sex irresistibly when the animal is in heat. Think about the female cat that attracts male cats in droves, which fight over her when she is in heat.
Among insects, a starving cockroach on the verge of dying from hunger would rather follow the source of pheromones with the hope of mating, rather than go for the food that would save his life.
Humans are not spared from the effects of pheromones either. That fuzzy feeling a woman gets near the presence of her special guy could well be due to pheromones. Likewise, men are attracted to a woman, by her looks, her personality, and the pheromones she produces.
Everyone has a million porcine glands whose sole function is to produce a smell. These only become active upon puberty. Upon sexual maturity. A sex scent, if you will.
Did you know that in certain parts of the world, during village dances, girls would hold slices of apple in their armpits while they dance? Then, they would offer the sweat soaked apples to the guys they fancy.
Perfumes as we know them were first used by Egyptians to embalm the dead bodies of mummies. Later, perfumes were used before sex. To get both parties in a more romantic mood.
Jasmine, patchouli, sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang and a number of other aromatherapy oils used in perfumery are known for their aphrodisiac properties.
I remember reading an amusing incident about a guy who used sandalwood as a sore throat remedy. It has an interesting side effect. It increased his libido significantly. That means sandalwood perfumes do make you sexier.
Patchouli has a sweet, very strong, musky scent that is considered very sexy. On its own, it is the kind of scent you either love or hate, as it can be overpowering, but when blended into a perfume with other notes, it gives the perfume a sexier feel.
Ylang ylang has a strong, womanly scent. Ylang ylang can be overpowering but when used lightly or in blends, it is said to put one in a romantic mood. Ylang ylang perfumes are ideal for that romantic night out.
Jasmine perfume has a very sensual fragrance. Jasmine essential oil itself exerts an effect on a female hormones. It is used in aromatherapy to balance hormones and to boost confidence. Jasmine is popular in perfumes as it has a strong erogenous effect on people.
Then there is musk which on its own is a potent masculine scent. With other scents, it might be barely detectable yet it gives the perfume bouquet an air of mystery. Even the lightest, most flowery perfumes contain a trace of musk.
Perfumes are often used like pheromones, for that aphrodisiac effect. Look at all the perfume ads. They usually center on romance, or seduction.
Going a step further, perfumes also make you feel good about yourself. Many women buy perfumes for the sheer beauty of the fragrances. Perfumes can make you smell wonderful. They can make your shower a luxurious experience. You set out to face the world, knowing you smell simply fabulous and that gives you that confidence which is really sexy.
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Soulmate
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Posted:Sep 23, 2007 11:55 am
Last Updated:Dec 5, 2007 9:13 am 9691 Views
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I can not stop my heart from beating
Cause all I see is you my darling
Whenever the sun comes down
Your shadow is always there
Giving life to every moment we spent
My life is dedicated to you
No matter how hard the storm
No matter how deep the ocean
No matter how do they see you
My darling do not worry I am always here beside you
You are my soulmate
You serve as my inspiration
You are my light in the darkness
You are my life, you are my love
You reign in my heart, my beloved forever
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Have You Missed Your Soulmate?
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Posted:Sep 23, 2007 11:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:32 pm 8944 Views
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Many people believe in love at first site. They believe that in an instant, they will know who they should be with for the rest of their lives. Unfortunately, these unrealistic expectations often end in divorce.
On the other hand, some couples spend 10 or 15 years getting to know each other before marriage. They'll live together, make major purchases, and even have , before making a commitment to get married.
Unfortunately, many of these marriages also end in divorce because even though they committed with their heads (and maybe even their hearts) the couple didn't know how to make a soul commitment.
Finally, some people go along being unhappily single. They desire to be married, but they find themselves playing games and dating without setting realistic personal goals for their future.
Maybe you're one of the people I've mentioned above. You're in a relationship (or your waiting for one), and you're wondering, "Is this it? Have I really found my soulmate?" What if I told you that knowing your soulmate has more to do with knowing who you are and your level of commitment, rather than finding the "perfect match" to complete you? I bring this up because I came across a book entitled Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? It made me think about how true soulmate relationships are formed: God prepares each individual and brings them to a point where their souls can effectively be knitted together for His purposes. With this thought in mind, here are three ways for you to recognize your soulmate:
1. The communication between the two of you is transparent. "In his excellent book, Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am? John Powell describes the five levels of communication: cliché, fact opinion, emotion, and transparency."-- From Starting Your Marriage Right, by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. Transparent communication means you and your partner can move beyond the clichés, facts, opinions, and emotions to a level where you are both vulnerable, but where truth prevails in your relationship. Transparency doesn't come quickly for most people, but when it does, freedom is not far behind. Transparency comes only with courage, nonjudgmental attitudes, and most importantly, trusts. And this leads me to my next point.
2. You and your soulmate will trust each other completely. That means you don't have to wonder if your loved one is doing something inappropriate, without thought to your wellbeing, or without sound judgment. Trust comes when words and actions line up to form a coherent picture of the person you love.
3. You and your soulmate know the meaning of unconditional love. One may say, "Keishia, how can you believe in such a concept in this day in age? This kind of love never happens in real life." I'm here to say that it does. If you've read some of my other articles, you'll note all of the things that must be stripped from a person's character (selfishness, pride, and jealousy) in order to get there. We can't get there by our own will, but rather by God's grace and by understanding His nature. No matter how hard we try to do it in our own strength and conviction, leaning on divine intervention is the only way to rid ourselves of these three character flaws. Ultimately successful soulmates aren't just born at some point in time or space to hook up by sheer coincidence. They are made over time to be with each other for a lifetime. If you're wondering where yours is, look inward and upward and you're bound to discover more than what you've seeking.
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7 Amazing Steps to Finding Your Soulmate
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Posted:Sep 23, 2007 11:46 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 5:32 pm 8965 Views
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What is true matching about? It is about people that seem to be made for one another. But this may become a deceiving matter because matching begins with honesty.
1. The first you have to do is being honest with yourself, knowing who you are and what you are about. This issue tightly depends on your self-esteem, so work it out at this instant, always keep in mind a good image of yourself, this is the essence of being ready for your love!
2. Remember that unless you are ready to meet the love of your life, it won't come for you, because everything depends on how much you want it to happen. Wise men say that when you really want something, the whole Universe rearranges itself for making your wish come true. And believe me there is enough room for everybody's desires. So let your desire grow stronger every day.
3. After you take a good look at yourself, hear what Mother Nature whispers in your ear about looking for someone of certain looks and physical features that suits you best. Did you know that soulmates almost look like one another? That soulmates may be so very different in appearance but still so alike? What makes them look alike, may ask, if he is dark haired and she is blonde, or if she is black and he is white? There is that certain something named chemistry which makes them get connected and harmonize their everything: mimics, gestures, reactions. So before you get yourself connected, make a mental picture of your potential soulmate in every single detail of its appearance and all you have to do is recognize him when you look around! It is very important to know exactly the way you want it to be.
4. I can hear some of you saying that things are as difficult as easy they seem to be, because matching is a complex scenario. I am telling you that things are difficult only when we do not know what we want and don't have enough faith that Nature will work for us and solve the complexity of matching scenario: habits, hobbies, humor, sharing the same values, location, and background. Concentrate on the solution of the matter not on the issue itself, do your part of the job faithfully and do not worry.
5. Obviously that none of us wants to become haunted, obsessed by an ideal of love that never shows up, right? That's why you have to cut the belt, free your mind of your desire (which has already put to work the invisible engines of the Universe, believe it or not!) and do your usual stuff.
6. And here comes the tough part: waiting! Wait for a while and let the Nature action for how long as it takes. Take into account that you have already helped Nature with your faith and your strong action. It's a mutual thing. In love, as in everything, you get what you give.
7. finally, let me share a secret with you: don't to tell anyone you are about to meet your soulmate. The deepest desires must not be shared until they come true. Any interfering may disturb you from keeping a good image of yourself, letting your desire grow stronger, picturing in mind your soulmate, staying focused on what you have to do, letting your mind free and waiting faithfully. But certainly you may tell me when it comes!
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